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writes: i need a little help on this one its a bit of a story but i don't know what else to do i have been with my fiance for nearly 6 years I know he's not the most romantic person in the world but I'm crying out for just a little something just to show me he loves me. Now correct me if i'm wrong, but wasn't it Valetines Day yesterday? Well, all I got was a big raw deal, In fact, we nearly split up His way of dealing with it is to say tomorrow's another day. well i don't see it that way i need to put closure on this before it gets out of hand. We have 4 kids which also makes it difficult and all i see is when the kids grow up and leave home we'll have nothing left betweeen us he says all this is in my head and just makes me feel as though i'm just failing as a mother, a partner and as a person. PLEASE!!! someone help me do you think i'm in the wrong for wanting just that little bit of attention or shall i just be happy with what i have thank you for reading this there is loads more but not enough space to write it
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reader, kerry-michelle +, writes (16 February 2006):
 No you are not wrong for wanting a little more romance in your relationship, many people out there have bad relatioships and find ways around it but to me it sounds like this is much more than a little problem, what was it that attracted you to this man in the first place? and is it still there? you say that you have been engaged for 6 years is there a reason as to why no marriage? Are you scared of him at all? i am not saying that he is violent. Just his way of romance seems to be dead, try and rekindle it yourself, organise romantic nights in or out, try and get him in the romantic mood drop little hints when you pass a flower shop or chocolate shop he might pick up on them, or you could ask you kids to preper a night for you that is if you kids are old enough. i always learnt that giving him attention often make him give back, if not then he is not right. don't stay because of the kids give them a better life and find someone who will give u attention, but only do this if all else fails, Good Luck!!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (15 February 2006):
 Why is he still your fiance? Does he work? Is he generous? It sounds to me that he is very selfish. Everybody wants to get a little attention from time to time. You deserve it too. You need to sit down and tell him how it is. If he won't listen to you, suggest a therapist. If he won't do that, go by yourself. Some people need to have the bottom drop out before they get motivated to listen.
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