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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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Do men like females who are very experimental sexually?
Q. Do men like females who are very experimental sexually? For example, my boyfriend and I went shopping and bought a huge jar of pickles. I said that he should f*** me with one of them. (I'm not always quite so strange, I was 1/2 joking, 1/2 serious, ...
A. 27 February 2012: He's just not as adventurous as you, or he is adventurous in a different way. I don't see anything erotic about fucking someone with a pickle. Your boyfriend probably doesn't find that erotic either. However that doesn't mean something else wont do ... (read in full...)
Is it fine to casually date two women before choosing whom I want to be with? Does that make me a player?
Q. After a tough break up last year, I've been only getting out to start dating now. I met one lady at start of February, I've met her 4 other times now, even cooked her breakfast. I met another girl two weeks ago, that wouldn't work out. I met another ...
A. 27 February 2012: No, this is fine, as long as there is no kissing or sex with either of them. Going on dates is fine when you are not in a relationship. But MOST people count the beginning of a relationship from the FIRST KISS. So you must not kiss any of them, or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's cousin is getting married in April, and he hasn't invited me to the wedding
Q. My boyfriend's cousin is getting married in April, and he hasn't invited me to the wedding. I'm not sure whether or not he plans to, but so far he hasn't mentioned it. The wedding is not too far away, so I assume if he planned on bringing me along, ...
A. 27 February 2012: Maybe you should just ask him instead? What happened to the communication in your relationship if you live together, have been together for 2 years, and you can't even ask him about this? I don't think you are invited to come along. If you we... (read in full...)
I feel like I should go farther with my 18 y.o. b/f
Q. I just started dating this guy I've liked for a really long time. He's 17 turning 18 next month and I'm 14 turning 15 in July. I know it's a huge age difference but I do really like him and according to his friends (who are also my friends), he ...
A. 27 February 2012: Group pressure. You think you need to do more because you probably heard of other girls who did more, so you think you also should. Well don't. You and him just started dating, you are underage so sex is off the table anyway.
How about you take... (read in full...)
What can I do to make sex happen more often?
Q. I've been dating my gf for 6 months and for the first 3 months we had sex every day sometimes twice or three times. But the last few months we have been having sec less and less and I don't low why, it doesn't bother me if we don't have sex so often ...
A. 27 February 2012: Okay, if YOU are the one rejecting her then how can you say you do not know why you don't have sex more often? You should know why, because YOU are the one who rejects her. Figure out what's going on with you and communicate with your girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me because I'm attracted to innocent looking women?
Q. Hello guy's, just a little concerned about my taste in women!, usually when i go out etc i have quite a strong attraction towards really innocent looking girls/women (quiet looking, really cute/doll/young faced) and while my friend's are after the ...
A. 27 February 2012: Why would there have to be something wrong with you just because you like something different from your friends?
No, nothing is wrong with you. Thats your taste in women. Everyone have their own taste. I like men with beards, but all my friends ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy seeing my wife kiss another woman. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm a guy. I've been married for 2 years. Tonight my wife was out at a friends. I know she's dabbled in lesbian sex, and I'm ok with the idea, or thought I was. Tonight her friend was with kissed her while I watched. (I was at home we were on cam) ...
A. 26 February 2012: She probably did it just to put on a show for you because she thought maybe you'd like it. Just tell her you weren't into it and don't like it. There's nothing wrong with you, not all guys are into watching girls kiss other girls, especially when ... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on what he really meant, when he said (possibly not sober at time) that he loves and hates me?
Q. Hi, So I've met a very sweet shy guy who I've been out with on 7 dates and we've been texting daily so in total 3 months. I received a message stating that he hates me but loves me at the same time! Then an hour later another message apologising ...
A. 26 February 2012: I think this is an odd statement coming from someone who barely knows you, you've been on a total of 7 dates. Is 7 dates really grounds enough to say you either love or hate someone?
Are you in a relationship even?
I think this guy sounds ... (read in full...)
I'm too self conscious to have sex.
Q. I havent had sex with my boyfriend yet but i'm worried about making a lot of noise during sex,like moaning and screaming and shouting lol.I'm also self conscious about my body.I really want to have sex with him but i dont know how to stop feeling ...
A. 25 February 2012: Makings sounds is good. Pretending to be a mattress isn't good. Moving around is good. Having a body, with all it's flaws, is good. Men love the body of the woman they love. They don't CARE about this or that that you are so convinced look bad. I ... (read in full...)
G/f says she has an orgasm, but how do I know if she's just saying that?
Q. Me and my girlfriend don't have sex yet but do fondle and try to give each other orgasms. I dont have a problem with mine, but do get confused about her. She does like me touching and massaging her down there but doesnt let me do it continously. She ...
A. 25 February 2012: If you have a finger or two placed inside her when she orgasms you will feel her muscles pulling together and relaxing and pulling together again. She will probably also get a lot wetter. Her skin might flush, and her breathing might change.
Unfor... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 25 February 2012: I wouldn't call it prostitution any more than making an erotic movie, or writing erotic novels, are prostitution. You are creating a sexual fantasy, that's all. Every librarian might get accused for doing the same each time they let down their hair. ... (read in full...)
I know this isn`t working but I still love him
Q. I have been with my Boyfriend for just under four years now. We have been living together for a year and a half and we are now renting out first house together. But things have been going wrong in the relationship and i am thinking i should move on. ...
A. 25 February 2012: You have reasons not to trust him. Good reasons too. He told another woman that he didn't love you any more. The only reason a guy ever back talks his girlfriend like that, saying things like that to another woman, is because he wants to get it on ... (read in full...)
Can someone's hugs show how they feel about you? :)
Q. Hello :) I'm friends with the boy I like and we always hug goodbye. Lately,his hugs have been different. When I hug him he holds me really tight and he grabs my head and pushes my head against his chest and puts his fingers through my hair. ...
A. 25 February 2012: I think such a hug means he loves you, to be honest. Not just likes you, but genuinely cares for you. ... (read in full...)
Two housemates are interested in me- I have no interested in either perhaps because of my condition...What can I do?
Q. Hi, I have a couple of problems I would like some help with. The first is this: I'm currently group house sharing with 4 people, two girls/two guys. My problem is that I think one of my housemates, an older man (he's 40, I'm 23) likes me. I'm no...
A. 25 February 2012: You don't need to avoid the 40 year old. You just need to give him a firm answer, although an indirect one. Since he hasn't directly asked you anything, or said he likes you, the appropriate and less embarrassing response would also be indirect. Say ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 25 February 2012: And may I add, off course there's going to be penguins with santa hats on his boxers, because his mother bought them. She's not going to buy him underwear that has any sexual denotation to it! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 25 February 2012: I agree with Cindy, if you absolutely hate the underwear his mother buys him (and there is nothing you can or should do about his mother buying him underwear) then by him underwear yourself! Buy him a dozen of boxers you find sexy and then ask him ... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm. I'm afraid I'll have to pee if I have one!
Q. I have never had an orgasm, I am sure of that. But from what I've read, I've been close many times. I always either stop myself (if masturbating) or my partner when I start feeling like I need to urinate because the feeling is too intense- it's not ...
A. 24 February 2012: Do it in the shower alone for the first few times, that way you don't have to worry about peeing if you happen to pee. And without having orgasmed on your own you wont know what to "look for" (or feel for) when you are with your boyfriend, and what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 24 February 2012: My last boyfriend's nicest pair of underwear (and newest as well), which were my favourites, were from his sister! He got them for christmas. I wish she bought him more underwear, because everything else he had was worn down and ugly. And these had ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 23 February 2012: It's gifts, Let his mother buy him gifts, thats on her. She can give him what he wants, and he can't be held responsible for her actions.
However, you can tell him you think the boxers make him look geeky or like a kid, or that they aren't s... (read in full...)
I cant go to senior prom with my G/f because of the age limit and so her ex is taking her but I know he still has feelings for her. I don't trust this guy and I don't know what to do
Q. hi agony aunts, i am in a relationship with an 18 year old girl. I am 22. the problem is that her senior prom is coming up, and we can't go together because her school has a stupid age limit, you can't go if you're over 21. so anyway, a gu...
A. 23 February 2012: I think your reasonable to feel the way you do, but you got to trust your girlfriend. Doesn't matter if you don't trust the guy, you need to trust in your girlfriends judgement.
But when it comes to your girlfriends judgement.. what is she doin... (read in full...)
Why don't men want to talk on the phone?
Q. I'm finding this so common with men I meet now, they refuse to talk on the phone. I met a great guy, we went out on 2 dates and had a blast together but we only communicate via text. At one point, I gave him a call but he didn't answer. When I heard ...
A. 22 February 2012: I don't know if "men" in general dislike talking on the phone any more than women do. Some hate it. Others love it. Some are used to texting and are shy of speaking in a phone. Some are just lazy and find texting a more impersonal means of ... (read in full...)
After only 2 months my girlfriend cheated on me. Do I end things?
Q. So I found out yesterday that my girlfriend cheated on me! I took her virginity but still she slept with another guy only 2 months after I took it. I know she was a virgin because she's inexperienced and she bleed the first time we had sex. Also, it ...
A. 22 February 2012: Dealbreaker. She does not love you when she cheats on you, because she doesn't respect you or care about your well being or your feelings. She only cares for herself. Claiming she loves you is just something she says to keep you around. You have ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 22 February 2012: Good plan. One should always wait with sex until it feels comfortable and you know you can trust your partner. ... (read in full...)
Oral sex saved for a special occasion?
Q. My boyfriend has been asking me to give him oral sex for a little while, and I finally brought up the courage to do it for him the other day. It was spontaneous and romantic and everything I imagined it to be. Since then, He has asked me a coupl...
A. 22 February 2012: Why don't you make oral sex on YOU for special occasions? You are witholding something. A blow job is for the pleasure of the man, not the person performing it. Sure, the performer should enjoy themselves as well, but ultimately it is an act you do ... (read in full...)
How can I calm my girlfriend down without stirring up her temper?
Q. Hello everyone I've been having a lot of rough times with my girlfriend and one main problem seems to reoccur a lot is the fact when it comes to us arguing it never stops. She says it's because I'm an idiot I have no idea how to do anything righ...
A. 22 February 2012: Your girlfriend is being verbally abusive. She's name calling. There are healthy ways to fight and express feelings, and then there are toxic ways to fight. Your girlfriend is being toxic. Name calling should never occur. I know that they do, people ... (read in full...)
Fiance called off our wedding and there was no warning! Help!
Q. Yesterday, my fiance called off our wedding. I never before believed the people who say 'It came totally out of the blue'. 'Surely', I used to think 'there must have been signs. Arguments, tensions, disagreements, pressure. Things that led ...
A. 22 February 2012: I didn't think about that, I assumed he actually left you. But maybe he hasn't left you, just called off the wedding for now until he has his problems worked through? Please explain the situation. ... (read in full...)
Inexperienced! Hand jobs...oral...how do I do this?
Q. There is this great guy I know he's really sweet and cute.I've always liked him and I never thought he could possibly like me back.The other night our group went out to a nightclub and we got left alone together.He asked me to look at him and ...
A. 22 February 2012: Okay let me tell it to you as it is. You like this guy. First time you "get it on" he kisses you all night and pushes for more. You stop him because you're nervous. Next time you meet you want to be sexual with him. You have feelings for him, but ... (read in full...)
Fiance called off our wedding and there was no warning! Help!
Q. Yesterday, my fiance called off our wedding. I never before believed the people who say 'It came totally out of the blue'. 'Surely', I used to think 'there must have been signs. Arguments, tensions, disagreements, pressure. Things that led ...
A. 22 February 2012: Talk to your friends and family and get yourself a shoulder to cry on. So what if he asked you not to, you are hurting, and he is to blame. Tell him that because of this you can't keep your promise about not talking to anyone else, he'll need to go ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend kissed one of our friends when we were on a break, I can't get over it?
Q. hi there, please give me some advice i'm so upset! long story short, we had been together nearly 2 years. me and my girlfriend broke up in november, i broke up with her because she told me to go and die and showed me no respect. we were trying t...
A. 21 February 2012: She doesn't owe it to you to inform you about what she did when you weren't together as a couple. I understand that you feel deceived, but you need to face the facts. You weren't together! You dumped her. Maybe it was obvious to you that you would ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 21 February 2012: Probably others have already said this, I didn't read through all of the answers. But you can't walk around being scared of comparison. A woman who wants to compare will compare no matter her level of experience. Likewise, a woman who does not ... (read in full...)
I think he masturbated on me thinking I was asleep!
Q. Hi... My boyfriend courted me for almost three months (said he's okay with it and he's glad to wait). I told him that if he ever break my trust, I'd break up with him. I also told him that I don't want to break my family's reputation becau...
A. 21 February 2012: Confront him. Talk about it. Decide for yourself if you think this was crossing the line, because you decide where the line is. Personally I do not understand the Philippine culture enough to say anything about if this was bad or ok behaviour. In ... (read in full...)
I'm so afraid I'm going to cheat on my fiance
Q. I have a great finacee but her sex drive has never matched mine and I'm fine with it...I love her and we've been in love for years were getting married this upcoming March. I masterbate every morning after my girl goes to work (she works in th...
A. 21 February 2012: That is also something you must communicate to her. How you feel, how her rejection of you makes you feel. How you feel when you masturbate on your own.
There is no reason why she can't join you when you masturbate. She can watch, or talk dir... (read in full...)
Could my baby look like my lover?
Q. If a woman is pregnant and sleeps with another man can the baby have features of the man who is not the father?...
A. 21 February 2012: Do you know how babies are made? They are a combination of your genetics and the genetics of the biological father. Put simply that means if you are married to a white man, are white yourself, but have a lover who is black, your baby with the lover ... (read in full...)
My parents are starting to ask about my boyfriend's family, what do I tell them?
Q. I have a problem regarding my parents and my boyfriend's background. Long story short, my boyfriend is adopted and his real parents are in a different country with the rest of his siblings. His foster mom is currently fighting a deathly cancer. ...
A. 21 February 2012: I think you need to talk to your boyfriend and ask him how much you can tell your parents, and what he would be comfortable with sharing.
I don't think you should have to lie to your parents. If your boyfriend wants to keep secrets and lie, the... (read in full...)
What is the opinion on a 40 year old man who has never been married or engaged?
Q. I have a question for the ladies.. what do you think of 40 year old men who have never lived with a woman, been engaged, married, etc. would you question if they are boyfriend or better yet.... husband material? This conversation came up at work ...
A. 20 February 2012: I wouldn't raise any red flags if he hasn't been married or engaged. But I would question it if he hasn't had ANY serious long term relationships. I would be very cautious of moving in with a man who has never lived with someone before, if he is 40+ ... (read in full...)
I'm so afraid I'm going to cheat on my fiance
Q. I have a great finacee but her sex drive has never matched mine and I'm fine with it...I love her and we've been in love for years were getting married this upcoming March. I masterbate every morning after my girl goes to work (she works in th...
A. 20 February 2012: Those are partially simply excuses. The thing is, if you want sex then you want sex, even if you've been up all day, had long shifts, feel sick, you name it. Yesterday I got up at 6.30am, worked, stayed up all day, and at midnight I met with my ... (read in full...)
Lies stacked upon lies and now my ex doesn't trust me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 years and we have been very much in love. The problem is, when we first met I told her some lies about my past and as time went on I didn't know how to take them back. so I told more lies and things are in a very bad ...
A. 19 February 2012: What was the lies about?... (read in full...)
How do I stop this guy from being boring and getting upset so easily?
Q. Hi people! I really need help with this one. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 weeks now. He was a very mysterious type in the beginning but now he's soo boring now. He's a quite romantic guy but he keeps saying the same things o...
A. 19 February 2012: Dont feel bad about it, thats life.... (read in full...)
How do I stop this guy from being boring and getting upset so easily?
Q. Hi people! I really need help with this one. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 weeks now. He was a very mysterious type in the beginning but now he's soo boring now. He's a quite romantic guy but he keeps saying the same things o...
A. 19 February 2012: Of course if you break up with someone they will be miserable, depending on how much they like you and how sensitive they are. But that's their problem, not really yours. You can't be with someone just because you are too nice to break it off ... (read in full...)
I'm so afraid I'm going to cheat on my fiance
Q. I have a great finacee but her sex drive has never matched mine and I'm fine with it...I love her and we've been in love for years were getting married this upcoming March. I masterbate every morning after my girl goes to work (she works in th...
A. 18 February 2012: I think you're burying yourself here. You understand so well, you understand her, her needs, her being pregnant, and you are so willing so sacrifice so much.
Yes, you sound lovely and understanding. Of her. You are less lovely and understa... (read in full...)
How do I stop this guy from being boring and getting upset so easily?
Q. Hi people! I really need help with this one. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 weeks now. He was a very mysterious type in the beginning but now he's soo boring now. He's a quite romantic guy but he keeps saying the same things o...
A. 18 February 2012: How about just dump him? He's not for you. He's boring and being dramatic after only 3 weeks. Next please. Find someone you actually have fun with, that should be one basic criteria for a boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
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