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writes:My boyfriend's cousin is getting married in April, and he hasn't invited me to the wedding. I'm not sure whether or not he plans to, but so far he hasn't mentioned it. The wedding is not too far away, so I assume if he planned on bringing me along, he would've mentioned it to me by now. His cousin lives out of state, so I would need time to save for airfare, request the days off work, etc etc.We've been together for 2 years, and live together as well. He asked me to an out of state wedding 3 months after we started dating! He gave me plenty of notice and constantly reminded me to get my work shifts covered. It was obvious he wanted me there.I don't understand why he hasn't invited me yet, and I'm very hurt. Should I relax and wait until he mentions it or should I bring it up?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Maybe he doesn't have +1 on the invitation, if it is a smaller wedding and the couple are paying for it themselves they might have a small guest list.
I'm guess he hasn't mentioned it because he doesn't want to disappoint you and tell you that YOU weren't invited.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Maybe you should just ask him instead? What happened to the communication in your relationship if you live together, have been together for 2 years, and you can't even ask him about this? I don't think you are invited to come along. If you were, he'd have asked you. Maybe he was excited to have you at the other wedding because he was newly in love with you then and crazy about spending time with you. He probably doesn't have that same desire to see you now that you live together, and maybe even thinks a day off, or a weekend off from each other, might do you some good. But if you need a straight answer just ask him "Hey, that wedding you are going to. I'm guessing I'm not going to join you there, but I just wanted to make sure that we're on the same page in case you wanted me to join you, because I haven't planned anything". Maybe he thinks it'll just be too much of a hazzle for you, it will cost money, time off from work... And why would you want to go to a family thing anyway, most partners dread that sort of thing. In his mind he might be doing you a favour.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Maybe the invitation from his cousin was for him only , and did not allow for a " plus one ".
I would not bring this up, since from what you say he has no problem at all to bring you along at public functions; if he did not this time ,it means he cannot,for some good reason, not that he does not want to, so fishing for an invitation could embarass him.
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