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writes:Do men like females who are very experimental sexually? For example, my boyfriend and I went shopping and bought a huge jar of pickles. I said that he should f*** me with one of them. (I'm not always quite so strange, I was 1/2 joking, 1/2 serious, and he laughed along with me) ... Sometimes when we're driving, I tell him he should pull over so I can ride him, and when we were at a function, I tried to get him to go into the bathroom to have sex or give him a blowjob. Is this kind of thing a huge turn off, or do men appreciate when women are sexually uninhibited and experimental? We have a great sex life, but so far, he has not taken me up on any of my offers... I'm thinking, either he's just not as adventurous or he's turned off. Thanks for your input...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): My wife is like this. I on the other hand am somewhat shy. She talks dirty to me, I stay silent cause I can't think of anything g to say. She pulls me into a closet and gives me head at a wedding. She initiates sex in the car I love it, and have loved it for almost 20 years now. Now, why I am not a bore for her I do not know. I am just her willing accomplice.
I would suggest that you not worry about whether he approves or not. You do what feels good and natural and exciting to you. If he doesn't like it, I guarantee you u someone else will. The trick is to just be yourself and find the guy who likes the real you, however wild and crazy that may be....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): Not all men would be comfortable with a woman like that. I have a friend who is like that and frankly I have lost all respect for her after hearing about all the unbelievably nasty things she is into. I wouldn't be surprised if her boyfriend, who is a good, decent guy, leaves her after the "honeymoon" phase is over, because it is to much for him to take. For now, he accepts reluctantly because he is in love with her.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 He's just not as adventurous as you, or he is adventurous in a different way. I don't see anything erotic about fucking someone with a pickle. Your boyfriend probably doesn't find that erotic either. However that doesn't mean something else wont do the trick. So maybe he isn't interested in sex at functions, but maybe he likes sex in the free, say on the beach or in the forest. Who knows. Maybe he likes the idea of other things. But your job isn't to "find" his experimental sides. Either he shows them to you himself or he doesn't. Thats his choice. If he hasn't showed you anything experimental then he probably isn't the experimental type. That doesn't mean you are a turn off to him, it just means experimenting isn't a particularly turn on of his.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Every man is going to be different in terms of what your behavior means to him. You need to ask your BF what he's thinking and feeling.
I know that most of the men I've been around would be fine with it... but from being here on DC I find many men would not be happy with it...
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (27 February 2012):
 I see nothing wrong with it. Enjoy yourselves, life is short.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, eek  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 my ex was like this at the start of our relationship. I loved it. There is nothing wrong at all live life to the full. :-)
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (27 February 2012):
 The ONLY thing against your first suggestion is vinegar in the vagina!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): I would find this a turn off in anyone I was considering for a permanent relationship.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 my wife and I were like that in the early days. it is great. just make sure he is on the team as far as all thats concerned. you don't have to carry out every horny idea you think of.
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