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writes:I'm a guy. I've been married for 2 years. Tonight my wife was out at a friends. I know she's dabbled in lesbian sex, and I'm ok with the idea, or thought I was. Tonight her friend was with kissed her while I watched. (I was at home we were on cam) I'm not sure how to feel, is this normal? I'm not even sure if I enjoyed her kissing another woman. Been trying to sleep for the last few hours and every time I close my eyes I see it. What's worse, I don't think I make her smile like that when I kiss her. Something wrong with me?
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reader, chocolatelover +, writes (29 February 2012):
o.O no there is no somethingg wrong with you
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (27 February 2012):
You have a valid issue. Is the kiss significant? Is there a third party relationship going on? Was it just a peck? or maybe it was just a kind of sisterhood statement made famous by pop divas? Are you being offered a threesome? that might be an experience but as Miamine says, its a can of worms that will end in tears.
Best is to talk calmly with your wife and without getting over dramatic tell her you feelings and ask for hers. If it is to do with sex then maybe you need a less risky way to brighten things up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): *sorry, your Wife. She should then know what forsake all others means and live it.
http://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/Article.aspx?a=47
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): There's nothing wrong with you. You need to be completely honest with your wife and tell her how it made you feel.
If she truly loves and respects you, she will stop, even though she may not want to. But true love means putting the other persons feelings above our own.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (26 February 2012):
 you felt that way because it is a third party . you are married and it does not matter if it is a man , or a woman coming in between your marriage. your marriage is a covenant between your wife and you only. when a third person comes in between the two of you husband, and wife that is allowing emotional, or physical intimacy ( a place that affairs ) intrude into a marriage. it is cheating when a third person comes in between a husband and wife.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 February 2012):
 I'm not sure why you would think something was wrong with you for being a bit upset about seeing your wife kiss another person. Do you think you should have been excited and were not? If that's the case then her "plan" to turn you on failed and something is wrong with her. If it was for another reason then you've wasted your anx over nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): Either way.Upholding monogamy and fidelity. If you are aware you have a friend that has romantic feelings for you, then you stay away from that friend. You do not be alone with them. Regardless of sexual orientation. Then you are not put in a situation where your BF or GF is hurt, the trust is betrayed regardless of intentions, the actions were committed and allowed.Rationalizing or minimizing the act, shows a lack of remorse, a lack of honesty, lack of accountability. Without these, the trust further suffers and ones HONOUR and CHARACTER and INTEGRITY are put in question.Wisdom says it safe gaurds the fidelity of your relationship.Time to have a discussion if your GF wants to remain in a monogamous relationship and will not let her Lesbian fantasise or bisexual curious desires interfere with upholding the sanctity of your love, your friendship, your relationship.All The Best!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 February 2012):
 She probably did it just to put on a show for you because she thought maybe you'd like it. Just tell her you weren't into it and don't like it. There's nothing wrong with you, not all guys are into watching girls kiss other girls, especially when they are married to one of them. We all like different things, and you probably are one of many who enjoy exclusivity in your relationship.
Just tell her.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (26 February 2012):
 Means u have a lot of emotion invested into ur wife and it was violated. Normal man. Tell her u were jealous more than turned on. She should understand to not try it again.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (26 February 2012):
 Nope, this is the dangers of inviting other people into your bedroom to play sex games. It doesn't matter if your wife is bi-sexual. She decide to get married, and if you two don't want to have these jealousy issues, it's always best to remain faithful and monogamous.
Go talk to her, but even that might not help, and if you two start talking you might not like the answers you get. But truth, honesty and communication is always best. Hopefully you guys will stop this and not attempt it again, and in time you both will forget.
Once you play around with adding extra partners, it usually opens up a can of worms that are hard to push back in the bottle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was at home, haven't been feeling good. She didn't mean for the performance, it was out of the blue and she didn't expect it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): Your playing alot of silly games for a new married couple. Why on earth were you on cam, watching her at her friends,why were they performing anyway?
Wouldn't watching TV or going on a playstation have been healthier for you?
If you didn't enjoy it then tell her, be honest about it. I bet she wouldn't like to see you snogging one of your male friends would she?
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