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writes:I havent had sex with my boyfriend yet but i'm worried about making a lot of noise during sex,like moaning and screaming and shouting lol.I'm also self conscious about my body.I really want to have sex with him but i dont know how to stop feeling embarassed. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Makings sounds is good. Pretending to be a mattress isn't good. Moving around is good. Having a body, with all it's flaws, is good. Men love the body of the woman they love. They don't CARE about this or that that you are so convinced look bad. I mean come on, when a guy gets to see the woman he loves naked, and gets to have sex with her, what do you think goes through his mind? A critical analysis? Uhm, no.
If you are scared to have sex then don't have sex. Just be naked together. Just lay naked in bed and have a look at each other. Then touch when you feel comfortable about it. Take it in steps, no one is asking you to jump into hard core sexual acts right NOW. Do the things you think you can manage and take it from there. Such as just getting naked with your boyfriend. Or lay in your underwear for starters, if you are really nervous. Let the lights be ON. Take a deep breath, and let him have a look at you. Then see what happens.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 All the below posters are right. Unless you are screaming and shouting when you masturbate, you're not going to scream and shout during sex. That only happens in porn.
But if you wanted to make noise, I doubt there are many guys who wouldn't find that extremely attractive. I think the majority of people want their partners to moan and make a little noise. It shows them they're doing something right.
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reader, FENNECH  +, writes (25 February 2012):
Don`t start screaming because it is always false and sounds like it is too. Any noise you make (if any) will be natural. If he is into you, he won`t even notice any imperfections you have on your body.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 February 2012):
 First of all, for the most part, that whole moaning, screaming, and wailing like a screech owl in heat is PORN stuff, and isn't real life. The truth is, you will respond as naturally as you do when you're speaking to someone.
As for your body, the best way to remedy that self-consciousness is to keep your mind off of yourself and focus on him. Trust me, when he sees you, he's not going to be cataloging your flaws like you do. He's going to be turned WAY on, and all that will go through his mind is how much he wants you. Likewise, you should take a tip from him. Instead of focusing on yourself, enjoy HIM. His hands, what he says, the heat of his body when it's near yours, how you feel when his arms are around you, the textures of certain parts of his body from the stubble on his neck to the sensitivity of other places.
If you stay thinking about him, and remember that you are not going to sound like a plastic porn bombshell that moans like a wounded banshee because she's paid to. You will sound like you, and your every sound will drive your boyfriend insane with desire for you. The noise, the AUTHENTIC noise you make is like gasoline to his fire, because he will love that he makes you feel good. You don't have to think about it...everything starts with breathing.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Should we presume that you moan, scream and shout during masturbation? Otherwise, why would you think that you would be "vocal" during intercourse or other sexual activity? Well I understand that quite a few women are vocal during sex, but honestly, in all my years I was only with one woman who was quite loud about it.
Well, I was a bit surprised the first time we had intercourse, but soon became used to it. I suppose the apartment neighbors also were accustomed to it, because it certainly penetrated the walls. But I find no reason a woman should not be vocal if that is natural for her, so why be embarassed?
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