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writes:Hi people!I really need help with this one. I've been in a relationship with this guy for 3 weeks now. He was a very mysterious type in the beginning but now he's soo boring now. He's a quite romantic guy but he keeps saying the same things over and over.. and like.. I know what he's about to say before he says it and I've tried hinting it by saying sarcastically that I didn't know but he doesn't seem to catch it. Recently he gets upset over nothing and sometimes if we're out and it doesn't go like he wants.. like my friends come along(only happened twice).. He gets quiet and says he gotta go.. And once I'm home he calls me and is so upset and offending me because he talks bad about them.So basically, how do I stop him from being so boring and how do I tackle situations where he gets upset over nothing? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 February 2012):
 ya know what... when it's the right person you won't mind hearing the words over and over.... this is just not a good fit for you or for him.... only he doesn't know it yet.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Dont feel bad about it, thats life.
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reader, KatP +, writes (19 February 2012):
KatP is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot. chigirl.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (19 February 2012):
Of course if you break up with someone they will be miserable, depending on how much they like you and how sensitive they are. But that's their problem, not really yours. You can't be with someone just because you are too nice to break it off either.
Imagine if you were with a guy who thought you were boring and didn't really want you, but didn't end it with you because he was afraid to hurt your feelings. Wouldn't you rather want to be with a man who is with you because he actually WANTS to be with you?
When you're through you're through. He'll get over it. He does sound boring, and you sound annoyed with him = you shouldn't be in a relationship together.
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reader, KatP +, writes (19 February 2012):
KatP is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering.
Actually I wrote, I don't know how we can both be happy.
I'm gonna talk and ask if he can change, if he can't I will probably change it.
it's just.. you must admit if you're told the same "romantic" words 100 times a day, you'd get quite bored and it'd be fake words, nothing special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): How can you say your happy when you have written in to say he's boring and gets upset easily?
If you don't want the heavy romantic stuff, then maybe you should think of him as a friend not a boyfriend, if you finishing it would hurt him , well thats all part of growing-up.
I think you have to keep it light and fun, SHOW him how you want it to be if you want it to develop..
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reader, KatP +, writes (19 February 2012):
KatP is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the mixed answers, but it's so complicated to find out what he really wants.. I think he's being too romantic.. which I'm not looking for but I know I'd make him sad if I left him so I have no idea what to do so we're both happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): He's probably nervous, inexperienced and not mature enough to know how to behave - he just knows he likes you.
You either give him time to get used to you and the relationship or give up and move on...3 weeks is long enough to know if you like him enough to stick around and you say your bored already.Remember datings a 2 way thing
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reader, chigirl +, writes (18 February 2012):
How about just dump him? He's not for you. He's boring and being dramatic after only 3 weeks. Next please. Find someone you actually have fun with, that should be one basic criteria for a boyfriend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 February 2012):
 You can't "fix" him or change him into a person that YOU want him to be.
If he isn't who your thought he was and you aren't attracted to him, let him go. Since he already annoys you after 3 week, it's time to let him go so he can find a girl who likes him JUST the way he is and you... can look for a guy who is more to YOUR liking.
And maybe he left when your friends showed up because he figured you rather spend time with them then him. He is shy by the way, not mysterious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): My boyfriend used to be like this. I was bored/tired of him by the second week. I was also embarrassed of him because he would make dumb jokes and repeat them over and over. My friend were like wtf... he would get easily offended too. I just got to know him better and realized what a sweetheart he was and my opinion changed about him completely. I say give him a chance and be a bit more sympathetic. See what it's like to be in his shoes! We're together now for over 2 years :)
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