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What I've learned from my family.
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Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 30 August 2012: Oh yeah, do not sit around and wait to see what happens. You can regret it. Take the first step and get involved. That way you can be on top of things, and YOU can control what happens next. If you let her decide what happens next you might regret ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 30 August 2012: If the baby is already home I am convinced it is not yours. A premature baby would be kept at the hospital in an incubator, needing medical assistance to stay alive. It would not be home.
Premature babies are TINY. Did the child look of normal b... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 29 August 2012: That baby must be premature, yes. Have you seen any photos of it? Maybe check her facebook page, or have a friend check it for you. Many post pictures of their babies online these days. You should see right away if the baby is premature or not. A ... (read in full...)
She has started wearing revealing clothing when she goes out without me, am I being controlling by asking her not to do this?
Q. Women, is it OK for your man to try to control what you wear? My wife sometimes wears very revealing clothing when we go out. I like it. I can see people stare. i dont mind that so much because in those instances she is clearly taken. Late...
A. 4 April 2012: "As a guy who has that kind of body I can tell you that biceps are the male equivalent to cleavage in the sense that I catch women checking them out all the time and very often they don't even realize they were looking."
So true. ... (read in full...)
She has started wearing revealing clothing when she goes out without me, am I being controlling by asking her not to do this?
Q. Women, is it OK for your man to try to control what you wear? My wife sometimes wears very revealing clothing when we go out. I like it. I can see people stare. i dont mind that so much because in those instances she is clearly taken. Late...
A. 3 April 2012: "I think the other men also have less respect for ME because of it. I become like their fool, as I leave my wife's rack out there for them all to ogle at."
I believe this is the center of it all. This is what it comes down to. YOU feel like a f... (read in full...)
Sent my FWB some pictures of me, should I ask him to delete them? Or should I trust that he wont show anyone?
Q. okay i don't really know where to begin, but i met this guy 3 months ago, and after talking for a few months, we decided to be Fwb( this was mid Feb) we have seen each other once since we agreed to be fwb although we have not actually had any sexual ...
A. 3 April 2012: It's just boobs. Don't send pictures like that again, but don't let this kill your mood either. You didn't show your face in them. ... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: I think that you'll end up wanting to share this with him sooner or later. I imagine years down from now, if you and him still have a wonderful relationship, you'll look at other couples and think "they are so open and honest with each other, I wish ... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: You never had the desire to cheat before. You never cheated before either.
"Well,i over did it on the partying... got way to drunk and ended up having sex with another man there. "
Exactly what happened? Did you pass out on the bed and woke... (read in full...)
Sent my FWB some pictures of me, should I ask him to delete them? Or should I trust that he wont show anyone?
Q. okay i don't really know where to begin, but i met this guy 3 months ago, and after talking for a few months, we decided to be Fwb( this was mid Feb) we have seen each other once since we agreed to be fwb although we have not actually had any sexual ...
A. 2 April 2012: Ask him to delete the pictures when you meet him and can actually see with your own eyes that he is deleting them. Then don't send nude pictures in the future because most guys DO share the pictures. Many even put them online to brag about "look ... (read in full...)
She has started wearing revealing clothing when she goes out without me, am I being controlling by asking her not to do this?
Q. Women, is it OK for your man to try to control what you wear? My wife sometimes wears very revealing clothing when we go out. I like it. I can see people stare. i dont mind that so much because in those instances she is clearly taken. Late...
A. 2 April 2012: It's never okay for a man to control what a woman wears unless you live by Sharia-law. Sorry, but in the Western world this is a no-no. You wouldn't like it if she told you what you can and can't wear, or when and with whom. You feel that she is... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 1 April 2012: Talk to your boyfriend and relax. You and him will sort this out and after a while things will go naturally. As you get more comfortable and relaxed around him, your eagerness to please might make you do things for him without him asking, which will ... (read in full...)
I need help to get past a bad sexual experience
Q. Hi everyone. When I was 15 I had my first experience with sex. It was with a guy that was a few years older than me and took advantage of me. I didn't want what was happening to happen but I couldn't say no because I was scared. When he asked if I ...
A. 1 April 2012: Have you been to a therapist? You are struggling with getting over this episode, and the best thing I can recommend to you is to see a therapist or psychologist. Psychologists can go deeper into problem solving than therapists can, but therapists ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 1 April 2012: The danger of always being the follower, when it comes to sex, is that you don't contribute with much. And that can get very tiresome after a while if he is always the ones who needs to initiate, always the one who needs to decide what to do, always ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaining weight, how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is gainign weight. I'm not saying it to be harsh, I'm saying it because I'm worried about his health. Everytime I mention it he gets all defensive and goes 'you should be the one telling me I look great.' I don't know what to do, please ...
A. 31 March 2012: Tell him that your his girlfriend, not his hired ego booster. You love him, and you are there to support him. But you are not there to lie to him. He is gaining weight, and you are concerned for his health. This isn't related to whether you think he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 31 March 2012: Funny. If YOU are infertile or sterile he gets to dump you. If he on the other hand is sterile he is willing to adopt, because the most important thing is family... How swell.
Your SO hasn't matured over night. He thought it was a practica... (read in full...)
Would you spent a lot on a birthday gift for your partner if you received nothing for yours?
Q. Im curious to find out others opinions on this. Would you spent a considerable amount of money (over $400) on a birthday present for your boyfriend, if he did not get you anything for your birthday? (birthdays are few months apart). I know it isn't...
A. 30 March 2012: I think one thing needs to be clarified:
WHY did your boyfriend not get you anything? Were there any particular reasons, or was he just not bothered enough? Did he congratulate you, did he do something for you other than give a physical gift?
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 30 March 2012: I just think that if this was so important to him he should have mentioned it a little sooner, such as when they first started talking marriage... Not 2.5 years into the relationship. This is something you normally make clear pretty early on, ... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 30 March 2012: SVC I can probably compromise. Seeing as porn isn't a deal breaker for me, never was, and hopefully never will be. The point was just that I don't think the porn itself is the reason why men would sit on their hind legs in this.
It's a relative... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 30 March 2012: "I deserve to be with someone who loves me unconditionally."
Yes you do. Don't take any fertility tests for his sake, and move on to find a man who is less selfish, and sees things eye to eye with you rather than this guy who appears to want you... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 30 March 2012: It's called bondage yes.
Bondage is usually a sexual play between a dominant and a submissive. The roles are NOT gender specific. The girls in society might be taught to act submissive to men, hence the confusion. But men can be submissi... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 30 March 2012: " Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful?" Are they? I have never been in a relationship with a man who was defending his "porn collection" with claws and teeth. I ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 30 March 2012: PS. About troll posts.. yes, we do get a lot of them. People write in imaginary problems, or provocative questions, just to get responses and to agitate readers. Some are obvious, others are less obvious. But yes, there are tons of them on dearcupid ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to view porn together?
Q. Hey, I need some perspectives (esp. from guys) on whether guys viewing porn with their guy buddies is a normal thing or not! My bf is open about the fact he occasionally looks at porn sites, and I know he has downloaded videos in the past. He once ...
A. 30 March 2012: I've watched porn with my mom. Not planned. We were switching through channels, and came across it. We paused. We debated the boobs and if they were real or not. We looked to see what would happen next, if there was going to be something ... (read in full...)
Would you spent a lot on a birthday gift for your partner if you received nothing for yours?
Q. Im curious to find out others opinions on this. Would you spent a considerable amount of money (over $400) on a birthday present for your boyfriend, if he did not get you anything for your birthday? (birthdays are few months apart). I know it isn't...
A. 30 March 2012: A gift is not something to be expected. So your boyfriend is really out of line telling you what you should get him, especially seeing as it is an expensive thing!
I probably wouldn't mind spending that much money on a gift, even if I got noth... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 30 March 2012: "Imo not assuming, is common sense that you cant ask someone that question lightly unless you know them well already, but as i said before i do try to get to know them, but sure is demoralizing as hech when you have been trying to get to know her ... (read in full...)
Why did my married collegue keep taking off his wedding ring at lunch?
Q. Hi ! I just had a business lunch with a male colleague. During the entire time, he kept taking his wedding band on and off and twisting it too. It was not very subtle and a little distracting. What does this mean?...
A. 29 March 2012: It means he's not used to wearing rings and keeps fidgeting. ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 29 March 2012: This is what I don't get... Why are so many putting words in our mouths and having an argument with themselves?
"It is not true to say our sexual past does not effect who we are now"
Who said it didn't? Who are you arguing against? You say... (read in full...)
At what age can your child play alone at the park?
Q. How old do u think ur kid should be to play at the park alone with other kids if u live 6 house dwon from the park?...
A. 29 March 2012: I think that depends entirely on where you live and who your neighbors are and if there are going to be any adult supervision or not. It also depends on your child and whether they know what they can or can't do, and wont try to do something that ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 29 March 2012: " i have more chances of finding a liar than a real virgin."
Here you go with the incredible negativity again. How are you more likely to find a liar than an honest person? You don't have statistical evidence to say that your chances are higher..... (read in full...)
How can people compare porn to a romance novel?
Q. How can people compare porn to a romance novel? A romance novel is harmless words on a page, porn is a picture of a real person with no clothes on who exists who can easily be compared. Same with a vibrator it's a piece of plastic....
A. 29 March 2012: Oh, come on Cerberus, we discussed feminism didn't we? And my conclusion is that you're every bit as much of a feminist as me, you just don't like the label because it has "femi-" in it. Female supremacy isn't a feminist thought.
I'm with per... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 29 March 2012: ""unless she's been seeing a prostitute herself she can judge you all she wants." oh, so I shouldn't judge her for the choices she made, but she can judge me on mine? Sounds reasonable (sarcasm)"
You're not ignorant enough to not see the differen... (read in full...)
How attracted are you to your significant other?
Q. How attracted are you to your partner? The reason I ask this is because I can never find the right person for me. I've found girls I am attracted to but they seem to be disgusted by me. I've found girls that are attracted to me but they don't turn ...
A. 28 March 2012: Life isn't cruel, but you haven't met the right one yet. No, don't settle. Don't be with someone you are not attracted to, both mentally and physically. If your partner doesn't turn you on then you are FRIENDS, not lovers.
Then again, I found th... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 28 March 2012: I think you should tell your girlfriend and family. Tell them how it is, that your ex girlfriend is saying she is pregnant and that it is yours, but that you are not sure it is yours. Have your family give you advice on what you should do. But tell ... (read in full...)
I need fashion help badly!
Q. I have never been real fashion trendy. I guess you can say i am more of a tom boy. I have wanted to be more style trendy since mom family is but i guess it skipped me. I am married and money has been tight so i don"t buy clothes for me unless i...
A. 28 March 2012: One way to start thinking better could be this: If you dress up at least you do look better than if you just wear your husbands old shirts. Right? So that's a start. You want to look better, then start admitting to yourself that you DO look better ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother in law that his wife wasn't a virgin when they married?
Q. I just found out something and I'm not sure if I should keep to myself. My wife is the youngest of 3 daughters. Her next oldest sister just filed for divorce and is already dating and sleeping with men even though her divorce isn't final. My ...
A. 28 March 2012: " I think it's horrible that he believes a lie about his wife."
Whatever he believes only he knows. Maybe he isn't interested in hearing that you and your wife are sitting and gossiping about his wife's sex life. If you want to be the messenge... (read in full...)
Is it ok to flirt with someone so young whilst doing business? Or am I just jealous?
Q. I was on my partners computer tonight sending email for him on his instructions as he is away when a message came up saying Sally was wanting to talk. I clicked on link and I saw there were messages dating back a few weeks. I was surprised by what I ...
A. 28 March 2012: If your partner is a flirt then there you go. This appears to not be the first or last time he will talk up a woman, flirt with her and pass the boundaries. Some people just don't see the harm in it. Some people enjoy the ego boost. Some people are ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 28 March 2012: " but if she had sex before i dont know why should she get angry about it,if she did it before i dont think she has the right to complain about my experience then."
She wouldn't have a right to complain about you having a sexual experien... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 27 March 2012: " and if they do care about it, and they arent one either, then they cant complain, because if they arent either i dont see why should they complain."
Thats just the thing.. they aren't complaining. No one is complaining. No woman ever complain... (read in full...)
Best way to tell my parents I'm pregnant?
Q. so im 19 and am almost 7 weeks pregnant. i haven't told my parents yet and im just looking for some advise on how to tell them and what i should say, and also how to ask my mother to stop smoking since i do still live at home, therefore being ...
A. 27 March 2012: Before you tell them come up with a plan. Fast. What is your plan at the moment? Here are some questions your parents probably will ask, which you should have the answers to before you talk to them:
Are you keeping the child? Will you abort or... (read in full...)
I need fashion help badly!
Q. I have never been real fashion trendy. I guess you can say i am more of a tom boy. I have wanted to be more style trendy since mom family is but i guess it skipped me. I am married and money has been tight so i don"t buy clothes for me unless i...
A. 27 March 2012: SVC: everyone can pull off heels unless they have weak ankles or a back problem that prevents it. And if they do, they can wear the heels sitting down ;) Most heels are made for sitting in anyway, not walking in, haha!
Really though, there wa... (read in full...)
Dumped for a rich guy: was girl being shallow or practical?
Q. Yeah so a couple weeks ago this girl I was seeing for a few months. Really pretty girl, my friends even said he was hot. I'm an average guy, maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. I make a decent living but def not rich. Anyway, to make a long story short ...
A. 27 March 2012: May I also add that had she stayed with you we could have twisted this into saying "she's so shallow, she chose someone good looking over that wrinkled older man".
My point is just that everyone is shallow to some extent. But it's no differen... (read in full...)
Dumped for a rich guy: was girl being shallow or practical?
Q. Yeah so a couple weeks ago this girl I was seeing for a few months. Really pretty girl, my friends even said he was hot. I'm an average guy, maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. I make a decent living but def not rich. Anyway, to make a long story short ...
A. 27 March 2012: "Is it being shallow to hook up with a guy for his loot...oris it just being realistic and practical?"
You know what? Everyone is shallow to some extent. And then again everyone is deep to some extent as well. Lets take a look at the two opposite... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 27 March 2012: Oh, I didn't read your update at first.
"if i lose it to a hooker i know that it would mean nothing, but thats the point, she would not feel special," You base your theory and everything on some false assumptions. You think that because YOU valu... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 27 March 2012: "I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?"
From one extreme to the other? Why the need to lower yourself to the extremes. If you can't find a virgin then why revert to a prosti... (read in full...)
I need fashion help badly!
Q. I have never been real fashion trendy. I guess you can say i am more of a tom boy. I have wanted to be more style trendy since mom family is but i guess it skipped me. I am married and money has been tight so i don"t buy clothes for me unless i...
A. 27 March 2012: Referring to So Very Confused's advice on stores: I bought a cute summer dress as Wallmarts actually. And lovely shoes on Target, when I was in the USA. Both real cheap (I think the dress was 12 dollars and the shoes 20 or so?). Just to say that ... (read in full...)
I need fashion help badly!
Q. I have never been real fashion trendy. I guess you can say i am more of a tom boy. I have wanted to be more style trendy since mom family is but i guess it skipped me. I am married and money has been tight so i don"t buy clothes for me unless i...
A. 27 March 2012: "I have been told i could be a plus size model from a lady at the plus size store and that hurt my feelings and i didn't like that at all."
I think that was meant as a compliment to you. You might be plus size, but you are a beautiful and photogen... (read in full...)
What constitutes a one night stand?
Q. If a guy goes back to a girls house but they don't sleep together. But do some sort of foreplay, say like he fingers/feels her up and then he leaves in the morning both knowing they won't be seeing each other again, to be a one night stand? Beca...
A. 27 March 2012: One night stand to me is if there is sex. Personally, I wouldn't count it if there's been no intercourse. But opinions differ. I also think a one night stand is something spontaneous, and typically with a stranger who you wont see again. A planned ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask your girlfriend to dress a certain way for sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been going out with my new girlfriend for a few months now and we've had sex a few times. While it's been great, I find it incredibly arousing when a woman 'dresses for sex' (i.e. lingerie, especially thigh-high stockings). She'...
A. 27 March 2012: I don't think it is wrong at all to ask. In fact I think most women will be happy to know you are one of those men who are aroused by sexy lingerie. Most women love to dress up and be sexy for their man, but it is difficult if the guy is not into ... (read in full...)
How can people compare porn to a romance novel?
Q. How can people compare porn to a romance novel? A romance novel is harmless words on a page, porn is a picture of a real person with no clothes on who exists who can easily be compared. Same with a vibrator it's a piece of plastic....
A. 19 March 2012: I guess that all depends on what you put into it. In a romance/erotic novel you can easily picture the people involved. You might experience a physical response to what you read as well. You get turned on by it. You fantasize about it.
How c... (read in full...)
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