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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, but recently he told me that he 'gets bored' of kissing me for too long? We rarely snog anymore and when we kiss its maybe only for a couple of seconds, maybe less.also he's been reluctant to have sex or do anything too sexual he says its because he doesnt want our relationship to be all about this, but it makes me feel unloved..I dont know what to do..Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Hi Hunny
Instead of kissing for long periods of time why dont you just enjoy short kisses. I dont think you want the sex i just think you need verbal reasurance that he loves you and wants to be you more than just the sexual side. This is because a relationship has to work not only with the sexual side but also the verbal. How do you expect the relationship to last if its all sex. If you truly want to be with him compremise with each other instead of it being 70/30
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 July 2009):
 I dont want to sound harsh so please dont take this the wrong way but you are over-reacting about this. In reality, kissing for long periods of time is boring, and can make your jaw ache!
All relationships come to a point like this, have you ever heard the saying that "the honeymoon period is over"? This means that all the romance, infatuation etc comes to an end and the relationship becomes a bit more "normal" and all the romance slows down. This happens to everyone in a long term relationship believe me!
Now the kissing thing is completely normal, "snogging" is normally something that only lasts for a few months so you really dont have anything to worry about! All my relationships have started off with lots of kissing and then it slowed down a lot!
But the sex shouldnt stop, how many times per week are you having sex? You are both teenagers so sex should be a big part of your relationship, and for a teenage guy it is pretty odd that he is not interested in sex!
I think you need to talk to him about your sex life, and explain that you feel unloved with his lack of interest in sex. Talking about this is the only way to get things sorted, he needs to know how you feel and you need to know his reasons for his change in behaviour. He needs to know that a relationship without sex is just something you wont accept therefore he could end up losing you if he doesnt come clean about his real reasons for losing interest in sex.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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