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writes:hi im wondering if i may ask of your help with regards to my girlfriend and our current situation,we have been arguing just of late and she says she wants to end it although we have twin girls just 14 months old. is it a gene thing or a family trait but 4 generations of the same family have ended up single parents greatgrandmother,grandmother,mother and now my girlfriend,s urely you would want to change the course of history and try and ensure you bring your children up with 2 parents in a loving family home instead of having to spend your life alone looking after parents as they choose to be single, i certainly know which i would choose. help Reply to this Question
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reader, Gr8lumi  +, writes (29 December 2010):
Take time to av a discussion with her.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 Children who come from single-parent families are prone to divorce, yes, but, to be honest, this is not what I detect here. Poster, if you want to solve problems, you need to see them as they are. Nothing in your post says WHY she wants to leave. Maybe there is good reason?
If you really want her to stay, then don't blame it all on her, as if she had been born cursed or something. Make a real effort to understand the problem and solve it, if possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): I'm a behavioral geneticist and I just couldn't resist checking for any research on this topic - no one's studied it, but that doesn't mean there's no genetic basis. If there is, it'll be a combination of the gene and environmental factors - the kids grow up with just their mother and see that as a stable environment, so when there are problems with their own relationship as an adult, the possibility of bringing up their children on their own seems less daunting and more constructive than it would to people who grew up with both parents. How serious are your arguments? I think you should focus on talking through your problems with her.
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