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writes:Okay, I'll start at the beginning. I started dating this really nice guy, whom i've come to love a lot. We've been dating for nearly 5 months, and it's been getting a little rocky. I am 17, and he is 18. We both had this friend and we stopped being friends with her after she decided to use some, colorful words against me and started saying rather negative things about the two of us, apart and together. We found out we were having a baby, and then i lost the baby, no doctor could tell us how far along we were.A few days ago, I found out that he'd be having conversations with a girl that he said he only talked to once of twice. Which I now found out is a lie. The whole story behind the girl is, she liked him and he liked her. She asked him out and he told her, in my nice way no. Then he liked one of her friends, and then another one of her friends and then me. Which kind of makes me feel like a last choice. This is the same girl who said alot of stuff about us. I was at his house one day and he got a message from her, i asked him about it and he said he has only talked to her a few times since the fall out. Then I find out that he added her as a friend on Skype. Skype is a private Web Cam. Him and I are the only one's who use it for one another. Then he starts asking her if she wants to hang out and when and where she wants to, and he doesn't even tell me. This all is happening the same week that I lost my baby. I have him promise me that if he goes anywhere with her that he'd tell me so I can go out with friends and not have to think about them. I also asked him if he could tell me when he's talking to her so I can go and leave them alone. He promised. Those aren't asking that much are they? We'll he broke his promise. And i'm very angry and upset with him.I've done so much for him. I had this friend who liked to get a little handsy, nothing that bad, beause were both outgoing people. He didn't like it, so I stopped being friends with him.The girl who is now 'friends again' with my boyfriend. Is in all sorts a whore. I've only had sexual relations with two people. She's had it with 3. She was dating my bestfriend, when she decided to break up with him to have sex with another guy. And when he told her he didn't want to be with her, she went back to my friend, and they started having sex. Then he started having problems when she started hitting on and hanging out with the guy who she had sex with. So they broke up, then she dated another guy and had sex with him. And right after they break up, she has sex with the first guy again. I mean come on! I don't trust her. At all, I'm not friends with her, at all. When she was dating my bestfriend, her,another guy and I went to the movies together, and she let him feel her up. Thats a huge no-no on my part. I love my boyfriend to death, and I do not, like her. But when it comes to her, I don't trust him, and I can admit it. I don't trust her with him, him with her and them together. I don't even like it if he was to hug her. Because then I know that he would have smelled her hair, and he'd have his arms around another girl, and that he would feel someone else pressed up against him.She's one of those girls where she wants what she can't have. And the more she can't have it, the more she wants it.But basially to sum up this really long entry, am I wrong?Amd I wrong to not want him to have anything to do with her?Am I wrong if I don't want him to see her at all?It bothers me that they talk, but it bothers me more that he lied to me, am I wrong there?I just feel really bad about it.Because he yelled at me one day saying that he'd been friend ith her for 4 years and they've gone through alot together. But what he doesn't under stand is how I feel.I don't understand how he can be friend with someone who calls me a whore and a slut. Or how he an be friends with someone who says crap about who your dating, and how much you two shouldn't be dating. And it just hurts beause I know they had something, and I can't change that. And it's also rather weird how she doesn't start talking to him again, till after she found out I was having a baby. And even then, she doesn't start talking to me, just him. Which is weird because he hated her even more then I do.In the end, I just want to know if i'm over stepping a line, or if im thinking to much.Or if Im wrong by thinking what i'm thinkingPost Script. It's 3:30 Tuesday morning. It's been exactly one week since I lost my baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Both you and your boyfriend are awfully young and the fact you had a miscarriage is worrisome because of your age and the lack of stability in your relationship with your boyfriend. Neither of you are in any shape to be parents. Ya, the girl is a slut in a heartbeat. But, you say you can't trust your boyfriend and that he lies to you. The foundations of a "true" relationship are based on trust, how he treats you and others by him, and is he reliable by keeping his word and not exclusively on how horny he makes me feel. Do yourself a big favor by typing in your web browser www.nojerks.com and find out about the book "How To Avoid Falling In Love With a Jerk." You can only buy this book online at this website from the author for $16.00. In his book, he explains the "real" process necessary to find the love of your life. According to the book and it's my best advice as well, you should dump your boyfriend and keep the slutty girl out of your life because you can't trust them. Also, important decisions about boyfriends should be made with your brains and not how he makes you feel between your legs. Good luck and God bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): She is a slut you have perfect reason not to be friends with her
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