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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have always got on really well with my boyfriends mother. Only recently she has really started to piss me off!!I help her out when me and my boyfriend stay at her house for the ocational weekend with the decorating and stuff. We have always got on pretty well and I think she is a nice lady with a kind heart. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and his mom and dad have always had a bad relationship. I find his dad to be very verbaly abusive towards her, and feel really sorry for her, because she does everything for him. She pays all the bills, cook's all his food and basicly does everything for him (he doesn't work or really pull his weight much). Their is something i've notcied, and that's, she is always on the devense when her husband is moaning at her, or putting her down (she has a habbit of being on the devense with other family members to), but when this is the case, she is very agresive with the way she talks to people. I haven't been on the brunt end of this until recently. I went on a family holiday, with my boyfriends family and i told my boyfriend off, for rushing me to get ready, as this isn't the first time he been nasty like this. I am pregnant, and have to put on coca butter so i take that little bit longer to get ready. I don't need to be put under presure for this. I told my boyfriend staright, that i found his behaviour controlling by telling me what to do (probaly was abit ott) instead i probably should have said that he has no buisness telling me what to do. His mom was just being a nasty bitch, because i told my fella, i wasn't going to be in any kind of abusive relationship. She just started on me lot's that week, and since then, she's been talking to me like crap, putting down for my berlives and the things i say. I don't think she sould be shouting at me when i am pregnant with all these hormones, and frankly, i feel like she hasn't got much respect for me, putting down my values and oppinions. It's as if just because i told her son off, she is being a bitch, but my boyfriend use to be abusive to me and i have said, I'm not takeing no more or I'm out that door. Any help would be much appreciated. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Knight_in_White_Satin +, writes (22 July 2009):
 you go girl, no one should take any kind of abuse from their partners, pregnant or not!!!Your boyfriends mum is probably a mixture of been annoyed at herself, self pitying and envious of you for having the balls to do what she never could. Stand up for herself with her partner to ensure she wasn't walked over. This however gives her no right to have a go at you, especially as you're pregnant and it can cause undue stress. Before this escalates you need to sit down with her whilst her husband and your bf are out and tell her straight but politely that you really dislike the way that she's been treating you and that you deserve to be treated like a human been and not to be talked down to and that if she has a problem with you then that you hope you're both grown up enough to sit down and talk it through like adults.Do this calmly and politely,show her that you are not making any judgements but don't let her speak over you nor until you are through. After that make sure she understands then leave the room. Hopefully that'll sort things out a bit. good luck xx
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