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writes:I've been together with this man for a year and a half. He is divorced and has a son. His ex wife called me to say that he was seeing her. I didn't believe her, later he admitted being with her twice. I called her to confirm that. She told me they were together during and after the divorce. I can't believe he had sex with her, that even after their divorce, he played it off like they were never seeing each other! Does this mean he still loves her? Can I trust him again? Is it that he's not over her? Why would he lie to me then confess? She told me everything, even how he mitigated me for not being as good in sex! Of course, I told her off, because he would say horrible things about her to me. Like how small her breasts are compared to mines, and here he goes having sex with eventhough she's his ex wife!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut when she broke the news, he denied it and even stood with me that night, and even helped me to mock her by saying things like she couldn't even keep him erect. She denied all that. The next day after I spoke to him he admitted being with her twice. I called her and she said they've been seeing each other longer than that. That is why I am confused. Just because he told me horrible things of her, I feel like I have the first runner-up. He told me he saw her because SHE LOOKED FOR HIM. And i yelled at her, blaming her for inviting her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Do you really feel so little of yourself to allow him to do this? It sounds like its over between you two and if it isn't then it should be. No disrespect but if he is prepared to lie blatantly to you about this then what else has he lied about and what else is he capable of?? You will never trust him and that is a prison sentence for you both mentally and emotionally if you stay. His ex wife will never trust him either but if she wants him then she's welcome to him. I bet after a while, he will have power over neither of you and get what he really deserves - nobody. For your own sanity move on.
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reader, lostinlovewithhim +, writes (22 July 2009):
I have been in the same kind of deal you are in. He was doing it with his ex while we were married and I didnt know til he told me he had gotten her prego. I was still in love with him and stayed with him even tho I could not trust him. After about 7 months I ended everything with him and moved out. Come to find out he married her while we were still married. That made things harder for me. All I can say to you is leave him where you found him. He will always love her and they do ahve a son together so he might be doing it becuase he misses having the family thing.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (22 July 2009):
Honey it sounds to me like is playing the both of you. He has made it seem to you like he confessed so you would believe whatever he told you like you are now. Of course he will cheat again because by you constantly talking to her you have made it a issue between you and her and not you and him so now he can things to her and to you to make you guy's believe what he say's. The bottom line is he is a dog and no you cant trust him as far as you can see him and he will continue to go back and forth. They have a history and he must like having sex with her or he wouldn't have risked your relationship to be with her do you see where I'am going with this its not you that is the problem it is him and unless you like being cheating on and taunted at the same time i would start to move on you can't be anymore disrespected then this right here..
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