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writes:Hi, I'm 23 years old. I'm in love with one girl. We met 3 years ago in collage. She proposed me in the last semester. After 4-5 months of our relationship her parents got divorced. Now she is staying with her father. It was shocking news for me. I had taken 1 year gap to study MBA entrance exam. They offered me to stay with them. I have helped them emotionally, financially..I did everything from toilet cleaning to cooking because she was pursuing post graduation and her father didn't get time due to heavy workload. In first andsecond year I got good marks, but I haven't joined because she and her father ware going through great traumatic conditions. I was emotionally attached with them. I wanted to see them happy. We both helped her father to start his second inning of life. Now he is happily married. I left their house when he got married. She has completed her Post graduation. They are living happy and healthy life.But everything started going opposite my plans. I was unable to score good enough marks in MBA entrance exams in third year. Currently I'm working in private company. Last month her father asked me about our marriage but I refused his offer that day because I thought financially I'm not stable to start a family. One the very next day I said yes to him, because I knew that I had already spent 3 years. They don't want me anymore in their life. Suddenly she has started speaking about cast and religion. She thinks that I'm not stood by her as strong as Gibraltar rock. She thinks I stayed with them to save my money and to enjoy my life and I have betrayed her. I don't know what to do...I really love her. We are meant to be together. I cant live without her...I want to start my family as soon as possible.Have I buried my future to make their present????
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (12 October 2013):
 being 23 years old I don't believe you buried your future. people become successful at ate 25 to 30 to even 40. you're young to think about family and financial stability. being married is just written documentation stating you guys are together. nothing different. if you love her, you can definitely get married. Now starting a family isn't someone I recommend. you're only 23 years old, you have not yet found a stable career in your life, so how can you take care of a living human being. I do appreciate the fact that you helped them out through their tough times, that definitely shows that you aren't selfish, you put others before yourself, and you will go far. good luck!. if she doesn't understand, explain to her, make her listen that you have sacrificed so much. throughout these sentences I don't quite know who exactly she is. I understand you're helping them, but they are stable now, work on yourself, if she thinks you're selfish. you aren't, to be truthful, she seems shallow to say such things after you helped so much. she should be blessed and appreciated. maybe she's afraid you'll leave her after she experienced an awful divorce between her parents.
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