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writes:I went on a date with this girl, who I have fancied for ages. It went really well, and we kissed for a good hour afterwards so was really good. we talk everyday and she is happy to meet again. She told her best friend and she is not happy this girl meeting me. Her best friend just laughed when she said she got feelings for me etc. (she has a bf herself) this really really annoyed the girl I'm seeing. she wanted support and a good chat with her friend (as girls do). I was wondering would her friend have an influence on her? her friend has never met me or have any reason to dislike me. She does not know me. What could her silly reason be? This conversation was last night. Usually iI get message in morning from her but iI didn't today. No reply either. girls, what could possibly be up? I know she likes me, she told me and said she wants to meet again. thanks
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reader, fzald  +, writes (5 February 2013):
I know I'm not a female but I can tell you from experience...
It really depends on the girl you're after. If course everyone, even guys, want support and want to be able to talk about their endeavors with friends. It bothers even us guys when someone doesn't approve of a decision we're making.
I'd say though what you should do is just keep going with her as you have been. You're still not in a real "relationship" and you're just going on dates. Don't dwell on it, try to make every experience you have with her a positive, enjoyable one. Basically, show her that her friend is wrong!
Sometimes friends are just jealous. Maybe you're actually a BETTER catch than her friend's BF and she's jealous. Could be a lot of things. But as long as she's willing to still see you, stick with it.
If she brings it up again, maybe just ask her straight up - "do you know why she feels this way about us?" Ask her if there's anything you've done or that she's said that might have given a bad impression. If it turns out that her friend is just jealous, remind her that you respect everyone's opinion but you like her and you hope she'll follow her own heart and feelings rather than letting her friends control what she does.
After that all you can do is hope she's the kind of girl who will stand up for what she wants, and not the kind that will back down just to please her friends.
Best of luck!
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