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writes:Hello, my ex broke up with me last summer and we spent quite a while not speaking to each other!I really want to get over him now we speak as "friends but I still have feelings for him and feel very sensitive and jealous as we speak I realized he doesn't really care about me anymore so I don't know whether I should have him as a friend or not? I think I would take him back at a snap of a his fingers and I feel so low for thinking this way of myself. Do you think I should stop talking to him? Have sometime on my own? I deleted my facebook account so I don't have a constant reminder of him and what he is doing, i feel I may need some time alone so I can move on. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): It depends on the feelings you still have for him. If u still like him, then you cant keep him as a friend but if you dont really care 'bout him, you can still talk to him and even become good friends
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 February 2013):
 You can't have him as a " friend " because you don't see him as a friend , you see him as someone whom you have romantic/sexual feelings for , which definitely do NOT belong to a frendship.
Until these feelings persist, tryng to be friends is going to be as useful and gratifying for you as purposedly driving a hammer on your toes.
When the feelings have gone, or at least remarkably subsided, you can surely be civil, you can be " friendly ", particularly if you share the same social circle and hang out in the same places, no need for an all- out war . As for being true friends, uhm, theorically possible, practically dubious, there's not really a point in staying friends and... if you had gotten along so famously , if you really had been such twin flames..... you'd still be dating and one would not have ditched the other !
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 February 2013):
 You still have feelings for him.. I'd not be friends.
I don't really see the need to be friends with an ex unless you have children with them and then you only have to be friendly and civil not FRIENDS.
I would not only stop talking to him, I'd un-friend him on all social media so you can't see what's going on.
if you will be tempted to call text or email, well then delete his email and his phone number as well.
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