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writes:My question is how do I get over a hard love feeling ? I've been in love with her for period of 4 months but lately I discovered that she is in love with another man though she says she is still loving me at the same time she spend most of her time with that man. sometime she tells me not to call her cos she is with that man However now I truly want to move on with my life but I found it so hard for me cos my heart and feelings are still attached to her pls help I want to forget about her.how do I do that?
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reader, Gmmick  +, writes (6 February 2013):
The best advice I can give is to focus on YOU.
After my last breakup, which was really rough, I spent months doing some soul searching. It helped to improve my life. I went back to school to change careers. I got into amazing shape. I found/explored new hobbies and recreational pursuits (like rock climbing & piano). Through all of this I improved my friendships and made a new network ork of good friends. Eventually other love interests will show up
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reader, dumbledorf +, writes (5 February 2013):
Woman answering your q: This is a difficult one she says she loves you but doest want you to contact her, and you truly love her wow.. I would suggest you tell her your feelings and then just don't contact her that she could figure out on her own time what her feelings are for you. In the mean time try to prepare yourself for heartache yes she could tell you her feelings aren't that strong and that's where this preperation comes in talk to a friend and tell him how you feel about this girl. Give youself also time remember she can also say she feels the same. But don't just think positive. It's a win lose situation and if you don't try you'll never know. I actually wrote poems and so forth to the guy I liked but never had the gutts then he moved ill neva know but that's fine I dealt with those feelings alhough it took a long time. I would also suggest after telling her your feelings to tell her you are going away for the weekend (tell her where) so as to get time alone to think. And tell her when you will be back don't pressure her and give her an expiry date as when to tell you how she feels, and don't make any contact in. That weekend because. Of the mixed emotions you will be going through believe me you may get drunk and swear or something and then you'll bugger that small chance she will maybe give you. Truly if you want to forget her really you have to give yourself time don't just move on because then that relationship will be empty, that is why going away (taking nothing that reminds you of her) will do you good while you are away think of all the positive and negative things that will help you a lot to move on acknowledge the good times and don't concentrate on. All the negative things . Good luck wish you all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I know how hard it is. I had some crushes, and almost all of them turned me down for someone else.This is what I do to get over someone I love.First, you should allow yourself to feel bad about it, because it hurts, and you musn't neglect that feeling.Then talk with someone about it, your best friend or a relative should be fine. It can be very relieving.Then, you should go and do things you like! Go to a party, go to the gym, read a nice book, watch your favourite show, hang out with your friends! It doesn't matter what exactly you do, as long as it makes yourself happy.Give it a little time and then you should be fine in no time. Although you may be thinking of her now and then, but that's okay, just don't make anything negative out of those memories of her.I hope this helped. Now go continue to live your life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I know how hard it is. I had some crushes, and almost all of them turned me down for someone else.This is what I do to get over someone I love.First, you should allow yourself to feel bad about it, because it hurts, and you musn't neglect that feeling.Then talk with someone about it, your best friend or a relative should be fine. It can be very relieving.Then, you should go and do things you like! Go to a party, go to the gym, read a nice book, watch your favourite show, hang out with your friends! It doesn't matter what exactly you do, as long as it makes yourself happy.Give it a little time and then you should be fine in no time. Although you may be thinking of her now and then, but that's okay, just don't make anything negative out of those memories of her.I hope this helped. Now go continue to live your life!
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