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writes:dear cupid, this may seem a trivial question but is really bugging me. Why would your partner who ive have 2 kids with and have recently in the past 6 mths gotten back in a relationship with change his relationship status on facebook to seperated? He has also became friends with a female whom he met recently and befriended on then became friends with on facebook. I dont have an issue with him having female freinds whoever he commented saying she looks mighty fine! Is this a lead up on his part of flirting with this girl. I feel very understated by him as im beginning to feel his inly interest in us getting back together was for the kids sake, we dont share a closeness as such and his has little interest in sex stated he has a low libido. Or is this a game he is playing hoping i shall read this and become jealous. we arent friends on facebook and he must know o know his password. should i ignore this behaviour or confront him, may i also add he is 44 and this girl is 28.
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reader, LaceratedReality  +, writes (6 February 2013):
You need to talk to him, stop living your relationship through Facebook rather than actually communicating.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 February 2013):
 did you ask HIM?
what is the status of your current relationship?
if you are not happy (you say you have no closeness and are not sexual and he's befriending women on facebook and lying about his relationship status) why are you staying?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): "Why would your partner who ive have 2 kids with and have recently in the past 6 mths gotten back in a relationship with change his relationship status on facebook to seperated?"So the much younger woman with whom your "partner" hopes to cheat (if he isn't already) doesn't suspect that he's shacking up with you as that might deter her from sleeping with him. "im beginning to feel his [only] interest in us getting back together was for the kids sake, we dont share a closeness as such and his has little interest in sex stated he has a low libido."I'm beginning to feel his only interest in his weaseling his way back into your affections was that he missed having your services as a free live-in cook, housekeeper, personal maid, and laundress at his beck and call 24/7. Anyone can go on facebook to get laid, but good household help is so hard to find. "should i ignore this behaviour or confront him"Neither. If you ignore it then you're just giving him license to continue walking all over you with total disrespect and absolute contempt, and if you confront him then he'll lie to your face and give you a lame laughable self-serving BS cover story that you'll believe because he only tells you what you want to believe.You should dump him and walk away with self-respect, dignity and pride intact but you probably won't, and even if you do throw him out then he'll probably use the kids as a tool to quickly ingratiate himself back into your life, home and bed by waving the "we can be a family again" carrot under your nose and you'll fall for it, as I suspect you have every time several times before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): Here we go again, facebook problems. He IS behaving badly, he is with you, you have children. Why would you have your status as separated when you are with somebody and supposedly a relationship? Unless you want to look available.As for low libido, if this is a new situation too then he should be at the Doctors having it addressed, for your sake.I would sit him down and question him on his Facebook antics and his level of commitment to you and the children.
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