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writes:I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple. Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before (about relationship not valentines) or on the day? Should I treat the two seperately? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 February 2013):
Listen to mouse. Do NOT try to be sweet and cutesy with flowers or Valentines day or anything like that. That will end up in no date and wasted money. You want to date this woman - be a man about it. Go and ask her out. If she has another date, tell her to break it. Women want to date men, not puppy dogs. Be a man.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (6 February 2013):
 "Don't wait until Valentines day! You should take her out before then! If the first date goes well, you can send her some flowers on Valentines day and make it a second date :P"
DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN ON THIS. I must stress DO NOT send her flowers. It's too early for this. This is real life not a hollywood romcom.
"You could write her a sweet poem about how you feel about her! Maybe you could even tape a chocolate rose onto the note, just for a special touch."
If you do this, I will personally slap you! Urgh... Pass the bucket. A sweet poem about how you feel? You have to be kidding. You want to show her you're a confident, self-assured MAN not some little love-sick puppy.
"She might be disappointed if you decide to do it AFTER Valentines day. If she's really into Valentines day and she knows you like her as well, she might get her hopes up that you'll do something to surprise her on the day."
You don't know whether she's really into Valentine's day or not do you? Let her tell you... She'll drop a hint if she wants to see you for Valentine's. If she doesn't just date again afterwards. When you get together you'll be able to spend plenty of Valentine's days together.
"... Do something special for her on Valentines day, just to show your appreciation for her agreeing to go out with you."
Oh yes! Show her your appreciation and how grateful you are she agreed to go out with you. What are you talking about? He should be grateful? Only a woman could come up with this.
"ASK HER OUT ON VALENTINES DAY! It's like the most perfect romantic scene a girl can think of in her mind. Ask her to go ice-skating, or just hang out. While you're hanging out, tell her how you feel, and that you would love if she would be our girlfriend. No girl can say no to that!"
That's right! Show her your a little puppy right away. Here's what you do. You DO NOT tell her how you feel until she tells you first! This is coming on FAR TOO heavy TOO quickly and you'll come across as needy and wet with no backbone.
CONCLUSION:
You have 2 choices; listen to all the female posts here or mine. I will leave you with one last word; Women don't know what they want. They watch the lovely romantic hollywood films where the guy is a complete wimp and showers the girl with poems, tells her how he feels, gets all emotional, buys her roses and chocolates and gifts. In reality this turns a girl off.
Women want Mr Darcy (from Pride and Prejudice). He is a gentleman... A gentleMAN not a wuss, not Mr Wimpy, not Mr Oh-I'm-Going-To-Show-Her-How-Wimpy-I-am-and-Confess-My-True-Love-For-Her.
Be a MAN or a little puppy dog. Choice is yours.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (6 February 2013):
"I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple."
Jesus man! Grow a pair. Any "sweet" ideas on asking her out? How about this, be a MAN and tell her, "I'd like to take you out for dinner and dancing on Thursday night, what do you think?" instead. Be a MAN about it. Not a bloody soppy girly wimp. You're 22-25 years old. You're not 13 asking a girl to the school disco.
"Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before (about relationship not valentines) or on the day? Should I treat the two seperately?"
You haven't even been out with this one yet and already you're thinking about Valentine's day. How about this, ask her out before Valentine's day, have a good time and make her laugh a lot. Then don't ask her out on Valentine's day.
Then if she really likes you, and asks you "hey, you going to take me out on Valentine's day?" reply "You want to go out on Valentine's day?" and when she says something like "It'd be nice" or whatever just say "I'll have a think about it".
Then plan where to go and call her up 4-5 days before hand and say "I'll pick you up at 8pm for drinks and dinner on XXXXXday" and don't mention it's Valentine's day. And do not show up with gifts.
You are only dating (provided you get the first date of course). After 2 months of dating once a week and everything going well for you do you then consider being a couple (boyfriend/girlfriend).
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reader, MissMacBreeMac +, writes (6 February 2013):
 ASK HER OUT ON VALENTINES DAY! It's like the most perfect romantic scene a girl can think of in her mind. Ask her to go ice-skating, or just hang out. While you're hanging out, tell her how you feel, and that you would love if she would be our girlfriend. No girl can say no to that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2013): You could write her a sweet poem about how you feel about her! Maybe you could even tape a chocolate rose onto the note, just for a special touch.
And, ask her out before! If you want to do something special for her on Valentines day, it would defenitely special to ask her out before, then do something special for her on Valentines day, just to show your appreciation for her agreeing to go out with you. This works so that both girls get something special and unique. Hope this helped!
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (6 February 2013):
 Don't wait until Valentines day! You should take her out before then! If the first date goes well, you can send her some flowers on Valentines day and make it a second date :P
She might be disappointed if you decide to do it AFTER Valentines day. If she's really into Valentines day and she knows you like her as well, she might get her hopes up that you'll do something to surprise her on the day.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 February 2013):
 Don't ask her out for Valentine's day or on Valentine's day, too much pressure for one date. I don't think it matters whether you do it before or after. As for the actual asking, I'd just ask her to her face in a simple way.
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