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writes:Due to an upcoming project, our professor decided to pair everyone in the class room up. I was paired up with a gay classmate that I've seen from time to time. I'm very open-minded so this wasn't really a problem to me. In fact our professor personally told me that he knew I was mature enough to maintain a respectful manner, unlike some of my buddies.We got along pretty well seeing as we were both into the same kind of music. We also had a similar interest in sports. Ignoring my friends silent heckling, I decided that he was a cool guy and I didn't mind hanging out with him throughout university grounds. I guess he picked up on my lack of reluctance to hang out with him so he got bolder or more personal. Two days ago he asked for my number. It wasn't a direct request. It was more like a side gesture. He was going to a concert of one of my favorite bands. I told him that I thought he was lucky and that I was angry that I couldn't go myself. He used the oppurtunity to ask for my number so that he could call me while he's there. I was a bit reluctant but I didn't want to seem rude. I gave him my number, same as I do with most of my male friend.The thing is, he never did call me when he was supposedly at the concert but there was two missed calls from him at 2 am the next morning. Now yesterday, I saw him at uni and decided it was best to leave it in the dark. Unfortunately there was one more situation that has really made me rethink hanging out with him. He told me that he used his phone to record the band and that he could show me.I agreed to see so when I went to look, he was flipping though his files. Somehow he ended up on a picture of him just in his boxers and flexing. He didn't say anything as he continued to flip through the photos of more indescent pics of him. I did turn away after about three of them, feeling very awkward and uncomfortable with the situation. He didn't seem phased by this. In the end, he admitted that he couldn't find the file with the movie and that he thinks it's in the other memory card. I told him it was okay and that he can show me when he got them. We parted ways then. What do you think? Was he testing the waters? Seeing if he could spark an interest or something? I'm open-minded but if he is trying to make a play for me then obviouslly I'm going to have to end this friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): "I'm open-minded but if he is trying to make a play for me then obviously I'm going to have to end this friendship."Well, you don't sound very open-minded to me, and it doesn't sound like much of a friendship. If he does like you, so what? Be flattered, but be honest, tell him you're straight. Why should it have to ruin the friendship? I'm sure if a heterosexual female friend, liked you and made a play for you, you wouldn't be complaining, even if you didn't find her attractive would you? If you're friends then his sexuality shouldn't matter. If it's an issue then it's you who has the problem. And, perhaps being confronted by his sexuality has made you realise you're not as open-minded as you first thought.
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reader, Lies  +, writes (7 October 2012):
Well, simple. Continue with the friendship. Misjudgement or misconception can lead to nasty consequences. When he feels better, or more comfortable around you he will come out, and most likely he will confess his crush on you. If you are straight tell him, if you are gay, well your choice but make him feel...comfortable. Love hurts, and gay crushes on straight guys hurts more (if that is the situation here).
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reader, fishdish +, writes (4 October 2012):
 Well I think you can nip it in the bud if he tries one of these moves again, just emphasize, i enjoy our friendship, but you know i'm straight, right? or if you find that offensive, you could talk about some girl you think is really hot and how you'd like to get with her...but I prefer the direct approach.
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