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writes:im not really sure where to start. its all such a mess. i was in care as a child my dad was an alcoholic (he was my world) me and mum never got on. i have a younger sister who mum has always had with her and she adores. shes a year younger than me. me and her can get on really well but most of the time we arent talking. dad died three years ago with me by his side. i was in a relationship with a great man who was everything but he was in the army and moved away, it didnt work out. we were together for 2 years and it hit me hard when we split. I found someone else and we have been on and off for 2 years. he ended it last week and there isnt a chance for us to get back together. i dont really know what im asking, i suppose i just need some help on what im meant to do. i feel so lost right now, i live alone and it gets very lonely. i have no one to talk to. i work but dont have any friends. i still love him so much and i miss him. we have said some really nasty things to each other, i dont want him back but i just want it to stop hurting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): Find some sort of community service activity to be a part of, u firstly have to much thinking time on ur hands and volunteering would do u good. After that you'll feel better n have ppl to look forward to seeing u. Then you will not be so preoccupied by what u don't have...get involved in a good cause. It goes a long way. Much love and hope
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): I understand it's hard. I understand the pain. My advice to u, get online. Find friends. Make friends. Friends that will listen. And then maybe u will find a guy that u really like. If not, it's not a horable thing to be single. But I bieleve that there is someone for everyone. You will find someone. May be today. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe 3 years from now. But don't find love. Let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love. Because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall.
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (7 September 2011):
Aside from your relationship split up, have you ever had professional help/talked with a counsellor over your childhood, bereavement or being in care?
It seems to me that you have a lot of other problems from that past that you need to deal with. Are you missing your ex or are your missing your dad and thinking everyone I love leaves me? Do you have any other family memebers to talk to? Are you sure there is no-one in work that you could confide in? Perhaps a boss that may be able to help you?
Have you thought about confiding in your GP? They could perhaps arrange counselling for your past if you think that it may help your future?
I'm sorry I can't help you stop hurting the above things are the only things I can think of. :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): There is no real cure to mend a broken heart only time it will get easier but when is a mystery.sorry but thats the truth
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