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writes:I've made a few posts on here about my relationship problems and while the feedback was helpful I still look for other help. Read books, look at other websites and I've come to the conclusion being that my relationship is so unhealthy I decided this last weekend that enough was enough. He went too far and decided to tell me that I am an unstable mother for driving long distance (4 hrs) once a month to keep our relationship going. I have 2 kids, he has 3 and in his "opinion" that messes with the kids heads and I am putting them in that situation. (ages 13, 12, 11, 10, and 8) I've took a lot from him but trying to tell me that was too much, I deserve someone better than that. I found this article and thought since I can relate to most of these, maybe it will help someone else see what they are going thru. Thanks for the feedback!http://ezinearticles.com/?Mental-Abuse---The-7-Most-Important-Things-To-Know and id=60849
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): Hi
Well done you are half way there, the best thing is regardless of him possibly changing is....YOU ARE...you have your own future in your hands now...if you get your things could you take a friend with you to make the transition smooth, or do it when he is away...always make it easy as possible for yourself....because it will still hurt you taking the final step(relapse period) be smart on this last move. Healing can only happen while you are free from the abuse....who knows ..in time things may work out for you both or it may not, nobody knows not even you two at this time...but until then you must stay strong in your choice and heal before he breaks your spirit. This time period is for you to change and not accept a life of hell No matter how much he say's sorry or says he will change....think of YOU and say it takes time to chaange so you will give him time....this lets you be free to regain your SELF back so you know the truth in your life and what you want it to be like. You do not have to have a miserable life you have FREE WILL nobody should surrender that.
I send a rainbow prayer for you to stay strong and come back even stronger. You still have the opportunities to change your life around and be happy.
spunky monkey :)
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reader, anglvette +, writes (7 September 2011):
anglvette is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah believe me I am trying. Haven't had any contact with him since last weekend and I am not going to contact him unless it's about clearing out the rest of my stuff. Until then I am just trying to let my mind calm down. I got plenty of things to keep me busy and I know better will come along some day. Maybe he'll change maybe he won't, only time will tell but in the mean time I'm not holding my breath. Just enjoying my time with my kids and do best by them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): Hope its going well for u...stay strong
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): Hi
Sometimes it is better to let go completly or at least while you sort your self out. You are trying to do the right thing and be fair but if you are been mentally abused you really neeed to break connection...have time alone from any form of his manipulating words...trying to make you feel bad or guilty. You must take this time to think of you and your children and rest it is your healing time. Let the rest take care of it self naturallly rather than forcing anything....use that four hour drive to go somewhere especially nice with your two children...don't drive into anymore abuse drive AWAY from it. When you are strong by staying away ..you will be able to make sound judgments and choices and not be affected by a pattern of abuse tht is designed to confuse you.
Good luck and i really hope you find healing ..please be kind to you and choose four hours driving into peace not hell.
spunky monkey
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