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writes:Just a little about me, I'm an out gay sophomore, at a Catholic school, in a city that is supportive of homosexuality, though gay marriage isn't available anymore for some reason...Anyway, how am I supposed to date in high school? No source I can find, online or personal, can really give me a straight up answer other than "go to an LGBT center" or "join your school's GSA (Gay Straight Alliance). Am I supposed to just stick it out till I'm like out of school, or is there SOME way to work through this lack of helpful advice...I'd just love to have someone romantic in my life, because pretty much all my friends, girls and boys, have either boyfriends/girlfriends, or they at least "get with" other people... Not that I need someone else, but I have love to share in a way that I can't with friend-relationships.This leads me to my second thing, there's this senior in my PE class, and he's just so cute... I'm not sure if he's gay, or bi, or straight, and seeing as its only been one week of school, I don't really know much about him personally. That said, I'd love to get to know him... Since I'm one of like 3 sophomores in my class I pretty much just spot with them (it's a weightlifting class) or this one other senior I know. I'm kind of scared because I don't know him that well, so he might be weirded out if I offer to be partners...Anyway, how do I find potential dare-I-say boyfriends in general, and how can I possibly go from "barely an acquaintance" to figuring out if he's gay, to whatever might come after that? :)Thanks for the help Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (7 September 2011):
 If you are interested in someone, whether you're gay, straight or in-between, the only way that you'll get to the point of being able to even ask them out... is to totally get to know them. At some point in the development of a friendship... you'll find out whether he's gay/bi/straight and then you can make the decision as to whether or not to ask him out. Since you're out... if he totally steers clear of you... he's probably not interested - at all - so don't push it too hard.
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reader, CASA DE FIGUEROA +, writes (6 September 2011):
Rock on! It must not be that easy to be openly gay in a catholic surrounding, all the power to you man. About the senior guy, you say you wanna know if hes gay or not and the only way to find that out is to become a friend of his, one of these days when your working in teams in your p.e. Class join his team be like "whats up, can i join your team" and just take it from there but dont mention anything about being staright or bi. Just take time to become chill. Then when everything seems cool just simply ask " you got a girfriend"? Then follow that with a current event then ask "how do u feel about gay marriage"? Then be like "would you ever date a guy"? Just take it slow, you dont wanna freak him out and make sure yall are kinda secluded from other people. Good luck! and may the force be with you.......if you want more..hit me up.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 I'm not gay so I haven't had to go through this tricky process of figuring out whether or not someone you are interested in is gay but even when you are straight you have to figure out if the person you are interested in is interested in you in the same way. I guess once word gets around that you are gay it will become easier to find someone since non gay guys will make their intents well known I'm sure. My honest advice in this is not to worry too much about going through high school without a BF. So many of us didn't have a significant other during those years and we have still managed to be happy later on in life. I know it's a frustrating thing to hear but you are so young at high school and still getting to know yourself so don't panic.
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