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*rpaul
writes:Please i dont know what to do or say to make a girl say 'YES' instantly for a relationship.I usually lost interest when she decide to play hard to get. Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 If you lose interest fast, it suggests to me that you were not that interested in the woman as a person to begin with. Sounds more like you are interested in what is between her legs.
Smart lady for not giving it up to someone with that attitude if you ask me.
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reader, Memories  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 She may not be trying hard to get but she may just be scared of getting hurt. You shouldn't give up on her. She may just need your commitment.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 I'm not sure what you mean by "Instant relationship". A relationship is a long term arrangement between two people. No one dives into that quickly. First there is a period of getting to know each other. Exploring compatibility, and most importantly building trust. Then there is a formal announcement. (that could be engagement or marriage or just saying we are boyfriend/girlfriend) Often a girl will not offer physical intimacy (sex) until this point.
What you call "playing hard to get" could simply be keeping her options open during the early stages. Or it could be Holding out on sex until she gets the commitment / formal announcement. Or it could be playing hard to get, which is ignoring your advances in hopes of getting more of your attention. That is a risky game that many have been known to play. If the other person does not have much invested in you they may decide you are not worth the effort. Or "playing hard to get" could be ignoring your advances because she doesn't like you, thinks you are too pushy / impatient, or are only after sex.
If that last fits you, and what you want is a sexual relationship instantly, there are girls who do that for a fee. I don't recommend it, as real relationships are much more rewarding.
In short there is no cheat code for a relationship.
FA
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reader, toribabee +, writes (31 December 2009):
 ohkay, listen, i am a 15 year old girl and i do this alot. when a girl plays hard to get it obviously means she wants you super bad and she is seeing if you like her enough to go along with her hard to get attitude, got it? so next time a girl plays hard to get keep going after her and chasing her until she sooner or later gives in? trust me, thats what she wants. hope i helped! laterrr
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Wanting an instant Yes for a "relationship" is typically code for just sex.
A healthy relationship is built upon itself in small, meaningful steps over a sustained period of time. And they are non-sexual.
What you interpret as hard-to-get is possibly a female being normally healthy in guarding herself before involvement.
Try asking yourself the question: "If I didn't have a sex drive, what kind of friendship do I want with a woman?"
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