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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've known this guy for a while now he's really sweet, polite and cute. We text every week and we have hung out and he recently introduced me to his friends. We are friends and I do like him but he's going to be going away for a few months and it's implied he's going to be too busy to communicate with me anymore. (I asked him and and he told me he would have to see) Part of me feels like I'm wasting my time trying to further get to know him as more than friends since I usually text first and intiate plans. It isn't as if he doesn't respond back all the time or follows through on the plans but it feels one sided in that I'm more aggressive about it then he is. I feel like it might just be because I might like him a bit more than he likes me....What should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2013):
 stop rowing the boat.
stop being the one to make the plans... clearly he's not making an effort due to his trip.
you like him more than he likes you.
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reader, peanut_gallery +, writes (30 April 2013):
This relationship hasn't progressed enough to where it could flourish with a 2/3/4 month separation.
A few ways of going about this:
1. Play it cool and maintain the status quo with the occasional communication during his absence and try to re-ignite upon his return (assuming conditions permit)
2. Make your intentions known now and tell him you would like to establish a romantic relationship when he returns. If he appears enthusiastic and you feel good about the way he responds, perhaps you can wait.
3. During casual communication (assuming there will be any) while he is away, you can tell him how much you miss him and look forward to seeing him etc. This way you can take it up a notch and see how he responds.
Personally, I'd go with option 1.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2013): Stop.
Cease contacting him, get busy with other things and see what happens.
If he gets in touch, play it cool. You have been to ready to give to much to soon and he needs to value you more or there is no chance.
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