Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: HOW one-sided and self-serving does this creep have to be before you are able to see that there is no future with him????? Send him on his way....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is his lack of empathy, and the fact that he is not understanding towards me, going to make it difficult for our relationship to continue?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. He has a lot of an amazing qualities but then there are some characteristics that I can't get past. He isn't emotionally supportive and I feel like he doesn't "get me" like he should. ...
A. 25 April 2013: Sooo, he's boorish, insensitive and intimidating.....
Those are NOT the three adjectives that I'd recommend that my Sister start out seeking in a (her) man-friend..... So, I'll say the same to you.... Look for a nicer guy. It's hard to imagine ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?
Q. I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...
A. 25 April 2013: You can decide that you would like to find a virgin woman for your G/F-nee-wife if you'd like... BUT, remember, that will narrow down your possibilities dramatically.....
(Myself? I'd hope she DID have a little experience.... so's she could co... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have lied to me? He said he was a virgin when we met, but seemed to know so much.
Q. My boyfriend and I were to together for five years. When we first met we were both virgins but throughout are relationship it was always in the back of my head thinking about. What if he hadn't been a virgin? He said he was but he knew so much abou...
A. 25 April 2013: There has absolutely GOT to be something more important than this for you to expend your mental energy on.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: Go with the several Aunts and Uncles who have focused in on your G/F and her insecurities and what this incident tells you about HER.... and YOUR's and Her's relationship..
It starts like this ("oh, hunchy-bunchy, can't you understand and accomoda... (read in full...)
I want to move in with my BF but get the mortgage on the place myself. Is this right?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend are moving in together soon and it might be possible for me to have a mortgage on a place. However I don't want to go into a mortgage with my boyfriend. It sounds cruel but even though i adore him I just dont fe...
A. 25 April 2013: Considering the past that you've revealed... I think it's the WRONG THING irrespective of if or whether or who holds a mortgage.....
WHY would you put yourself at financial (and emotional) risk for - and with - a guy who you know hasn't grown up... (read in full...)
How can I get over my crushes on 2 teachers?
Q. I am sooooo shy, but, out of no where! I am suddenly attracted to older men and 2 of my male teachers!!! I've never thought of them in this way before but now just have sexual thoughts about them. It's really annoying because now I can't talk t...
A. 25 April 2013: What's happening, of course, is that your estrogen is starting to POUR out of (wherever it comes from)..... and it's screwing up your brain..... See... estrogen is to the brain, as nitro-methanol is to your automobile engine....
Be patient.... (read in full...)
When did the term "nice guy" start to have a negative meaning?
Q. Quite often, that term is usually not viewed as a compliment (at least amongst many guys). Has this always had a dual meaning?...
A. 25 April 2013: I think that Eve always told anybody who would listen, that Adam was a "nice guy"......... (read in full...)
In the limbo of friend/ex/possible bf.
Q. Ok, so I just want others input. Helps me analyze things from a different view. I went out with her and she broke up with me. (Basically, she was young. Impossible expectations (please don't judge me like I'm a low life, just take my word on ...
A. 24 April 2013: Did you ever prepare a spagetti dinner?
It starts with dry pasta (spagetti) all straight, in carefully lined-up bundles.... .then you put the stuff in hot water and it gets all limp... and you stir it up.... and it's all but impossible to imagine ... (read in full...)
To move or not to move, single mom life
Q. Hello! I am looking for advice on moving in with my boyfriend. He is 32 and i am 23. We both have elementary school age daughters. His daughter doesnt live with him now, but in two months she will,move in with him full time. When i met her she wasnt ...
A. 24 April 2013: Sorry to sound "father like".... but this paragraph jumps out at me: "He wants us to move in so we can build our future. Kids, maybe marriage. Now i spend every weekend.at his house and he stays one night during the week. Its really a pain."
... (read in full...)
Why do I not attract any interest?
Q. Hello all, I am having trouble understanding why I have so many issues attracting or being approached by women at bars and other public places. I dress well, believe i am attractive, have a good personality but I get no interest whatsoever from ...
A. 24 April 2013: THIS is the key phrase in your submittal: "...I may send a vibe ...."
WHY? Because when someone sends a vibe, that can cancel out ALL ELSE that they are "doing" to try to be attractive to, and/or approach others who trigger their fancy...... (read in full...)
22 and never been in a relationship... What can I do to change that?
Q. So I just turned 22 the other week and something came to my realization... I've never EVER been in an actual relationship with a guy. I've flirted, I've had a little fun (nothing leading to sex, I am still a virgin...) but have never had someone I ...
A. 24 April 2013: Appearance - whether breathtakingly gorgeous, or clock-stopping ugly - is NOT what gets a date/relationship for women..... It is APPROACHABILITY..... and, from your description, you are struggling with that.....
Rather than spend time and mental e... (read in full...)
I feel second best.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months, and i have a 1 year old son. When i first met him, he always put us first and called and texted but lately he always puts his female friend of 16 years above me. He goes to her first...
A. 24 April 2013: Does "been together" mean that you and he live at the same address???? If so, imagine the images of "family" and "adulthood" that your son is beginning to see and understand.... i.e. YOU are pursuing a man who has some "other" woman-friend who is ... (read in full...)
Am I being played? I gave my last husband excuses for his behaviour, I don't want to do it again.
Q. I have had two disasterous marriages with men who treated me badly. I have three lovely children all under 11 I work full time and recently bought my own house. I do want a loving meaningful relationship I am fourty and work from home on my own. I ...
A. 22 April 2013: I think everything in your submittal is unnecessary except this: " Over the last three weeks he has changed. He never tells me he loves me and if I say it hardly ever says it back. He works long hours but on the evenings he could come up early he ... (read in full...)
I created a fake ad on Craigslist to see if my boyfriend would make contact. He did, now what do I do?
Q. A little background info first: my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. He always told me I was his first love and I'm the first girl he's even considered marriage with and so on. His family has even told me I'm the first ...
A. 22 April 2013: How many times are you going to play this game?
There's no reason to continue things with this guy. He's, obviously, a player..... and you are NOT his "number one" priority in his life.... so why frustrate yourself? You've "got the goods" o... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to think the man I"m dating is secretly having an affair with a married woman?
Q. I started dating a man 53 whom is newly divorced few days back in Feb 2013. Yet he is always talking about this woman whom helps him with his dad. My guy's Dad lives with him. The woman who helps is also married and is a co-worker of his. This ...
A. 20 April 2013: I vote for "high-tail, cut and run...."
good luck...... (read in full...)
40 something year old girlfriend embarrassed by 24 year old boyfriend- How do I fix this?
Q. My girlfriend and I have a bit of an age gap. I'm 24. She just turned 40. I went to hang out with some of her grad student friends (we're both in grad school) and she introduced me as her roommate. We do live with each other; but, we're ...
A. 20 April 2013: "Sounds" to me that she's after your "cub-like" anatomy... and that's the end of that....
A REAL "cougar" wouldn't put you in such positions of stress.... SO..... you need to ask her to clarify things for you.....
P.S. REAL cougars don't ev... (read in full...)
Does my husband not even care enough about me to answer these questions?
Q. i asked my husband, does he think i am beautiful? He said he didn't know. He never looks at me that way. When i asked him what he likes about me, he said he doesn't know. What do this mean or what should i do? ...
A. 20 April 2013: After I read your submittal, I am totally confused as to WHY he didn't "answer" your questions thusly:
1. "I think you are the most beautiful girl in the world." and,
2. "I like EVERYTHING about you... and, each day, I love you MORE and MOR... (read in full...)
He resents me for revealing to others he is a cross-dresser. Can I fix this?
Q. So I completly messed up my relationship. When we fell on hard times over a year ago I told my not so best friend that my boyfriend was a cross dresser. Honestly I am pretty inky I like it. Well she tossed it in his face cats out of the bag now and ...
A. 20 April 2013: You are faced with that dilemma of how to "unring" a bell...
Once you've exposed this detail of your man's life... then you (and he) have to live with the fallout from its revelation.....
HOWEVER.... being a C/D is NOT fatal!!!! ... a... (read in full...)
This woman keeps flirting with my fiance right in front of me, what should I do?
Q. I know there isn't anything I can actually do about this but maybe someone who has gone through this can tell me what I should do. Basically I need to know how to best handle a situation where this woman flirts with my fiance right in front o...
A. 20 April 2013: You write: "...She flirts with him online and over the phone as well. ..." ...(noting "online" and "over the phone"...)
What the heck kind of a "boyfriend" do you have? Your gripe ISN'T with HER.... it SHOULD BE with your "boyfrie... (read in full...)
Pregnant and my BF says its over, is this a patern as he did teh same in the first pregnancy!
Q. Hi everyone, i've been in a relationship with my partner for two and a half years now. we have a one year old together. I am now 7 months through my second pregnancy. However on monday i was shopping with him and went to hold his hand and he stopped ...
A. 19 April 2013: Isn't it ironic??? ..... that the Good Lord will give BOYS a penis and two sacksful of sperm.... BUT He doesn't insist that that boy becomes a man before he can use them???????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents wont allow me to date my boyfriend who is 8 years older than me.
Q. I just need to vent a little and am hoping to hear some others' inputs on the situation. I am 19 years old and am in college, but I am staying at home with my parents. I work part time and help pitch in with bills (not much but as much as I can do ...
A. 19 April 2013: Your feedback submittal, of April 18, 'splains a lot!!!!
It's easy to understand "where your Mother is coming from".......
I hope you will stay close to her.... AND will make it clear to your man-friend just WHAT is going on between you and ... (read in full...)
How do you handle being around someone who doesn't like you?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question but what I would like to talk about is how to deal with being around someone who doesn't like you/you don't like them. I usually get along with people and when I find out that someone doesn't like me it re...
A. 18 April 2013: Sometimes, a situation like this is inevitable, considering that we often "hang with" people who we LIKE.... but someone who we DON'T like .... has those same people in-common with US.... Could be because you enjoy a sport, or attend the same ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents wont allow me to date my boyfriend who is 8 years older than me.
Q. I just need to vent a little and am hoping to hear some others' inputs on the situation. I am 19 years old and am in college, but I am staying at home with my parents. I work part time and help pitch in with bills (not much but as much as I can do ...
A. 18 April 2013: I have two comments:
1. The REAL issue, at home, is NOT the age difference... It is that your parents' "little girl" is finally growing up and exhibiting behaviour that is typical of ANY young adult who, prospectively, might be leaving the nest... (read in full...)
Why did my ex burn every bridge possible during the break up
Q. My ex-boyfriend burned so many bridges during the break up. For example taking expensive furniture, not paying my grandpa his $1500 back, called the landlord on me, took my computer knowing I'm a student,and he cut my cell phone off. Only for me to ...
A. 18 April 2013: It can be frustrating to view the actions of another person through your eyes and filter those actions through your brain.... along with the morals and expectations that you have of others.
There's no accounting for what he did..... AND, it's cle... (read in full...)
I am tired of telling people what they want to hear instead of what is actually on my mind. What to do?
Q. My friend asks me my opinion on how I felt about her and her boyfriends relationship. I told her as long as shes happy thats what matters. She then tells me after a short amount of time that she now lives with him. she should have told me that to ...
A. 17 April 2013: "Giving advice" is a minefield... as Cindy notes...
There IS a line between being "brutally honest"... and "compassionately vague".... and that's what one often has to do, when asked....
IN any event... when faced with a "... what are your th... (read in full...)
does my boyfriend seem into the relationship?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together a year now. We're quite happy together. He has a very stressful job, and whenever he gets very stressed at work, I notice. He gets distant, and he's not able to keep in contact with me as much during the day, ...
A. 17 April 2013: Do you and he live at the same address?
If "yes," then Nora's reply is especially telling... as your "B/F" has a terrific arrangement... a "roommate" who DOES put out for him on those occasions when he so wishes... AND who keeps quiet and out-of-t... (read in full...)
I love him so should I break up with him or consider an open relationship?
Q. I've posted on here before and found the answers to be helpful, so I'm back. My boyfriend of about seven months and I are in love with each other despite our differences, which I don't mind since I actually like him as a person. He doesn't believe ...
A. 17 April 2013: Look at: "...He says breaks can make relationships stronger...."
Of course he sez that!!!! AND, he's only 50% wrong! It WILL make your's and his relationship stronger - FOR HIM!!! After all, he will now continue to gets sex from you... A... (read in full...)
How many more years am I suppose to invest in this relationship when I am already tired and over him?
Q. My head tells me to leave him but my heart tells me to keep on fighting for his love. He is so indifferent towards me he no longer comes to have lunch with me and he is gone all day. He says his works keeps him busy but what about me what about hi...
A. 17 April 2013: I like this phrase: "...How many more years am I suppose to invest in this relationship....?" because it is a stepping-stone to my explanation and reply.....
We often hear WOMEN speak of "investing" in a relationship.... as if it were a trust or... (read in full...)
He is not the "one". So how can I break up with him? He gets so upset when I mention breaking up.
Q. Hi thanks for reading, I'm looking for advice on how to end my relationship without hurting my boyfriend. We have been together for around 18 months, and he is the sweetest boyfriend I could have imagined... But he is not 'the one'. To be h...
A. 17 April 2013: I think it's important that you look at exactly what has happened, is happening and will happen....
1. When two people don't get to that "critical mass" of loving and enjoying one-another's company... then they can and should part ways... ... (read in full...)
Porn is just images of women on a screen. The men will never meet those porn stars. So why is watching porn such an issue for women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. T hey are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 April 2013: Spoken like a true man. Wish I'd said this, myself........ (read in full...)
My Bf is getting angry unneccessarly and calling me names. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Today is my bf birthday. I called him several times from the morning to wish him, he didn't pick up the call and not responding to text. He is in his parents house now. I know he is not sick nor busy, got the information from c...
A. 17 April 2013: From your submittal, I would conclude that your "relationship" with this guy has ended, or is beginning to end..... YOU hold the key.... IF you truly believe that there's something innocent behind this guy's unacceptable behaviour, then hang in ... (read in full...)
Should I consider an open relationship or break with my boyfriend even though I love him?
Q. I've posted on here before and found the answers to be helpful, so I'm back. My boyfriend of about seven months and I are in love with each other despite our differences, which I don't mind since I actually like him as a person. He doesn't believe ...
A. 16 April 2013:
This is one smooth-talking guy!!!! He's managed to get you so tangled-up in your's and his verbal underwear, such that YOU are seriously planning to sell your soul.... and HE's put it in-place that he has no real committment to be faithful to you.... (read in full...)
I don't want to raise another child alone. I don't think this relationship will last. Should I have an abortion?
Q. Hello all, I need some major advice. I am 29 and a decent paying job. I have a 12 year old that I have raised by myself. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant and fully comitted for about 3 years. This would be his first child. His job is not that gre...
A. 16 April 2013: DON'T make your baby "pay" with his/her life for YOUR conjecture that your man (and you!) aren't sufficiently committed to one-another (AND to your baby!).... to remain together and be "parents" to this child.......
Heck, I'm as pro-abor... (read in full...)
My bridesmaid bought a shoe a size too big. I'm worried about how she's going to wear it for a couple of hours???
Q. I'm getting married in May. I'm having a bit of an issue. I told my bridesmaids they could pick out whatever shoe they wanted. One of my bridesmaids bought a shoe that is a size too big. I know you can stuff a shoe to make it fit correctly. However ...
A. 16 April 2013: I've heard of "Bridezillas"... and have friends (both men and women) who are OCD about their homes and automobiles.... and some who are "sanitary" obsessed..... AND, I thought I'd "seen it all"..... and, then, I read this.....
Are you SERIOUSL... (read in full...)
Should I ask the guy for a second date or assume he's not interested?
Q. Hi I had a date with a guy on Friday night. It went well, we had a good talk, laugh etc and have things in common. I find him attractive, but don't know if he feels the same way. I don't know if the chemistry was there. After a few drinks in a ...
A. 15 April 2013: There's a whole spectrum of "appearances".... from aloof to clingy/chasing.....
Why not cool things for a couple of days... and see if he DOES contact you for a second meeting/date?.... IF he doesn't.... AND if you see some affair that you'd li... (read in full...)
He wont show me affection!
Q. I have been with my partner for about 1 1/2 years and he is the man I love. I am a very happy girl with him and we care about each other a great deal. One niggling problem though is his reluctance to show me affection. I am quite an affectionate ...
A. 15 April 2013: You've described a rather one-sided "relationship"... in which HE gets all he wants... and YOU starve (intimately).
Decide, now, if you're content with that for the indefinite future. If you're NOT (content) then get yourself a new "boyfrie... (read in full...)
We tried to have sex for the first time but it wouldn't fit!
Q. Hello I think I'm not the first one to have this issue, but i couldn't calm down from all I've seen on the Internet. Last night, my boyfriend and I tried having sex for the first time. It was my first time, well I don't know if this ...
A. 14 April 2013: IDON'T be "mad" at yourself!!!! It's 'way too soon to conclude that "there's something wrong with (you) me...."
One's first intimate/sexual experience is likely to be very stressful (as you've described).... and one's body can react quite dr... (read in full...)
Married for nearly nine years, together with my wife for eleven and a half years and I've fallen for a 20 yr old girl
Q. Hi, I have been married for nearly nine years and together with my wife for eleven and half years. Recently the marriage has been going through a lull and I fell for a 20 yr old girl. We get on really well and cant stop wanting to be together...
A. 14 April 2013: Ah, yes.... the lure of a hot, young thing......
The ONLY phrase, in your submittal, that means ANYTHING, is this: "...and I fell for a 20 yr old girl. We get on really well and cant stop wanting to be together..."
NOW, wake up,... and remem... (read in full...)
Is this love without him saying those 3 little words?
Q. My baby always tells me that he cares for me " just so much" but has never said he loves me. He's a Capricorn and has said in the past that he a man who will show love when in love opposed to JUS saying it right out. He's also said that he's going ...
A. 12 April 2013: If the sexes (players' roles) were reversed.... you and I would have duplicate stories.......
I put up with this for about 6 years.... What I DID hear was, "I like you, a LOT...." After a while, I learned that THAT (above quote) really seemed t... (read in full...)
My unemployed boyfriend has HIV, but I still love him
Q. Hi 3 years ago my boyfriend told me he had HIV. I respected him and we went to the clinic and used condoms. His HIV was well under control. We've had some wonderful sex, however he kept it secret, and fell out with me for no apparent reason ...
A. 12 April 2013: Mary: Look at your last paragraph: "I don't think we can get together ever as he lives a long way away. I do love him - he says he loves me but forgets to call when he says ..... I'm making excuses for him. I don't know what to think when he talks ... (read in full...)
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