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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, i've been in a relationship with my partner for two and a half years now. we have a one year old together. I am now 7 months through my second pregnancy. However on monday i was shopping with him and went to hold his hand and he stopped me and said "we arent even together anymore." i was so hurt and confused, i ended up breaking down in tears in the middle of the shopping center. i have asked why and how and he said he changed it on facebook and he just said he needed a break. i am really hurt and confused by this. i havent changed or anything and i just want to know the reason why. in 2011 when i was pregnant with my first born my partner did this, he broke up with me, flirted with other people (he didnt actually go with anyone else just flirted) so i am wondering, does this seem like a pattern? I would really like to hear some advice or what you would do in this situation. Do i approach him and demand a reason why? do i leave him be to sort himself out? i'm just really hurt and confused, i love my partner to pieces, we were engaged and everything, everything was going so well, our sex life was fine, family life was fine. any advice or tips would be very helpful. Thank you.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (20 April 2013):
 Hi
Two pregnancies in two and a half years is ALOT for anyone 18-21 to cope with.
He sure doesn't sound mature enough to be a father if changing his Facebook status is how he ends a relationship with the mother of his children.
As you fall pregnant so easily you should BOTH have been using every type of contraception going or did you sit and plan your family together? He could be turned off by the size of you, which is shallow but he IS only young.
Or as others have said the sheer enormity of having another child when he is so young, with all the responsibility has maybe made him run.
He just has to look at his single friends, see what he is missing, decide being tied down is not what he wants.Men can walk away without looking back but ultimately he has to be a dad or pay support for them for the next 18 years.
Give him a few days then give him an ultimatum,TALK to him,
YOU need to use that time to think back over his behaviour because he won't have just decided in 5 minutes, there must have been clues. Be prepared for the worst though, you could be another single mum.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (19 April 2013):
 Isn't it ironic??? ..... that the Good Lord will give BOYS a penis and two sacksful of sperm.... BUT He doesn't insist that that boy becomes a man before he can use them???????
Good luck...
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reader, R1 +, writes (19 April 2013):
 We need more info here. Something must have happened, he wouldn't just have changed his Facebook status without there being any warning signs... Was he growing distant? Did you argue? Anything change?
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