I'm scared that my new boyfriend with his shady past may hurt me, or leave me!
Q. My boyfriend has a very shady past,he ws never in love,has had meaningless sex and not treated women thaat well! And I met him and the first 2 dates I thought may be he wants the same from me,but after those 2 dates he started liking me more,wan...
A. 21 May 2013: OP: It's frustrating that you made your submittal as if you wanted "input" or "answers"..... and you GOT THEM ... from people who will give you the best advice they've got... THEN, with your last submittal.... you are, effectively, "saying".... "I ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my new boyfriend with his shady past may hurt me, or leave me!
Q. My boyfriend has a very shady past,he ws never in love,has had meaningless sex and not treated women thaat well! And I met him and the first 2 dates I thought may be he wants the same from me,but after those 2 dates he started liking me more,wan...
A. 20 May 2013: C'mon.... isn't it clear enough to you to see "what this guy is made of"???????
AND,... you clearly have SOME IDEA.. since you write "...I am scared,what if he hurts me?..."
Is THAT anything that a girl could, or would, write about an upstand... (read in full...)
have people broken mirrors and actually had bad luck after?
Q. you might think i'm stupid for even asking this question. But this morning I dropped my mirror and a chunk of the corner cracked and came off. I am quite superstitious, so I was wondering if it is true that if you break a mirror it's bad luck? ...
A. 20 May 2013: Here's what Stevie Wonder had to say about this matter:
"...Thirteen month old baby,
Broke the looking glass,
Seven years of bad luck,
the good things in your past...."
Couldn't be any clearer than that!
Good luck...
... (read in full...)
B/f ended things rudely denied dating a co-worker and now they're hugging and kissing at work!
Q. I am so hurt by my ex and I really just want to vent... we dated for about 6 months and it starts off great... we met at work, went out on dates that he paid for, we spent alot of time outside of work, and generally enjoyed our time together...I ...
A. 20 May 2013: You are well rid of this guy. Now... get on with your life and don't let ANY aspect of what went on between the two of you take up even a MOMENT of your time.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because of this girl and now I feel like she's replaced me. I'm really hurt
Q. Hi guys. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he was basically cheating on me. He didn't sleep with her or physically cheat on me, but I found out that him and her were flirting a lot and always up talking all night and exchanging ...
A. 20 May 2013: Best advice I can offer is for you to separate yourself from that sophomoric situation that you've described.... and let out a "Whew" .... and be glad that they are in your past.....
Good luck with your, much better, future....... (read in full...)
Mother in law blamed me for her son's change of behavior.
Q. My husband is a grown man he's 33years old 4 years older than me He was 30 when he join the Army and I was pregnant with our twins while he was gone. He's always a Momma's boy for the last 6 years we dated ( joint bank account with mom) his whole ...
A. 20 May 2013: I have a cardinal's nest right outside my window... I can see it, now....
A while back, Mr and Mrs Cardinal started sitting on the nest constantly... and, after a few weeks, there were little cardinals in the nest with their little beaks peeking ... (read in full...)
Does she like me? Or just being nice?
Q. I've been working with this girl for about a month now, and I really like her. But the problem is I don't know if she likes me back or not. I'm not very good at telling when a girl likes you or if they're just being friendly. Whenever I'm w...
A. 19 May 2013: From the "sound" of your submittal, I'd say the only way this girl could make her interest in you any clearer or certain would be if she printed it in large, bold letters on a ping-pong paddle and smacked you directly in the nose with it!!!!!
... (read in full...)
Should I ask older guy to meet up again? Or wait until he asks me?
Q. I met this guy at a bar.. He was the one that talked to me first and he said it'd be a shame if we didn't see each other again. I spend almost 24hours with him after we met. Then I asked him to meet again by texting and he said yes. So after we...
A. 19 May 2013: From the "sound" of your submittal, I'd say you are appearing as clingy and desperate (to him).... Soooo, he thinks that he's got total control of what (and IF) anything goes on between the two of you.....
I suggest that you "go silent".... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to call me a different name during sex!
Q. Ok so now my Long term boyfriend has asked if he could call me by another girls name during sex. Im very uncomfrotable and seriously am thinking of breaking us up. Is this normal??? And then when I told him no he went soft during sex. Lost his hard ...
A. 19 May 2013: This can be a problem... I've had it happen a few times, myself.....
It USUALLY happens that we guys call out the name of one of our fantasy girls.... More than once, I've called out "Angie" (Dickenson) or, "Tippy" (Hedron) whilest in the thro... (read in full...)
I still want to be with her but she was my bestfriend's lover. What are my options?
Q. three months back my best friend introduced me to his galfriend,a few days from there we became friends with ma friend's galfriend.. Before i knew it we fell in love ,within days of the affair we got caught and i lost a friend,to make things wors...
A. 18 May 2013: This is really not such a difficult question...... WHY?
Because one needn't look at this from a human point of view..... ANYONE who would swoop in and pick off his "best friend's" girlfriend MUST, necessarily, only stick to rules made for DOGS... (read in full...)
Lately my boyfriend is always making comments about other chicks. Should I be worried?
Q. I dont know if I am being paranoid but lately I have noticed my boyfriend taking too big of an interest in other chicks, especially when other guys are around. Let me explain. Well we've dated for two years and he has always been very respectful ...
A. 17 May 2013: You need to be concerned only enough, and long enough, to dump this "B/F" who hasn't yet grown up....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to be fwb but then gave me the cold shoulder
Q. I am a 34 yr divorced woman. I have been working with wonderful people and love my job. At work I met a good looking man with a troubled past and is now trying to get his life together. He is very quite and sometimes kinda speaks his mind. He is ...
A. 17 May 2013: "Friends with benefits" means different things to different people.....
To men, it means that, whenever he gets a stiffy and needs a warm, soft place to put it, he has a gal who will respond to his call, invite him over and put out for him........ (read in full...)
What age do most guys start thinking about a commitment to one person?
Q. Is it wrong that I don't feel like its problem that I don't have a relationship at 23? I feel pressured by my family to find a man that I can get serious with. They see hanging out with random guys as a waste of time unless they have long term ...
A. 17 May 2013: WHOSE life is it to live???..... Your's? ... or, your family's?????
IF it's "your's," then you - and ONLY YOU - are entitled to decide if/when/where/how/why you want to "settle down" with someone....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any right to be angry? Or was I to blame for being naive?
Q. Well I was dating a guy for a month. It was a LDR and on the third date, I had to spend the night at his, due to distance. The date did not go too well, we had a bit of a falliing out but made up. In the night, he said he would prepare the spare ro...
A. 16 May 2013: I think the time (a month) and contact (third date) shows that you were, or became, OK with rushing things..... So many guys will present a facade of decency in the pursuit of s-x that it is understandable that you allowed yourself to be ... (read in full...)
Fake profiles on match.com?
Q. I'd like feedback from other guys who have used match.com. I've had a profile up for a week and already I've received quite a few winks from real hotties. I know sites do this to get gulible men to sign up so I expected one or two, but should I ...
A. 13 May 2013: This is the serious Sageoldguy.....
On TWO occasions I met women through Match dot com... and BOTH lead to very good... and long-term relationships....
Soooo, I think that matching sites.... and "Match," in particular, are a great place to m... (read in full...)
I'm married but it feels wrong to let this woman slip through my fingers!
Q. Possible drama ahead.. I am a happily married man with 3 young children and a loving wife. I am also deeply in love with another, younger, single woman. I'm approaching 40 and so I can understand that this may related to a mid-life crisis, but I tr...
A. 13 May 2013: Ya know what I think we should do with this submittal?
I think we should forward it to Mark Sanford, in South Carolina, and get HIS advice!!! After all, HE is an EXPERT on matters such as this!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Which one do I let go?
Q. I am having to choose between two men and its killing me inside, i was with one for a year, we got engaged after a week, we have both had a lot happen, his mum died, then my dad but before his mum died i found out he had been texting his ex over a ...
A. 13 May 2013: You write: "...he insists nothing was going on so i had to forgive him...." WHY did you "have to" forgive him??????
This ex- of your's sounds like a real drama-idiot... and I can't imagine why you'd spend another minute of your time and mental e... (read in full...)
We haven't even gone out on a first date and he's told me he wants to see me naked and squeeze me! Is this normal?
Q. Hi, am a girl of 22 years old and for the past 4months I have met a man double my age. Most of the times we have casual talks only. We meet but not regularly. He says he is single. I like the guy. To my suprise he just told me that he wants to see ...
A. 13 May 2013: He's a creep... Ignore him... and stay away from him... and give him no more of your time or attention... EVER!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm married but it feels wrong to let this woman slip through my fingers!
Q. Possible drama ahead.. I am a happily married man with 3 young children and a loving wife. I am also deeply in love with another, younger, single woman. I'm approaching 40 and so I can understand that this may related to a mid-life crisis, but I tr...
A. 12 May 2013: Your submittal is a "classic".... as written by a man who KNOWS that he's considering to do something uber-stupid... and seeks, desperately, to validate that stupid something that he's comtemplating..... You won't get that (validation) from me... ... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 12 May 2013: No... it's NOT (appropriate).
Don't you see this for what it really IS????? It's an attempt, by him, to keep YOU "on the hook".... so that - as he imagines things - he keeps you from severing him from your life, entirely,... in the hopes that, so... (read in full...)
Fake profiles on match.com?
Q. I'd like feedback from other guys who have used match.com. I've had a profile up for a week and already I've received quite a few winks from real hotties. I know sites do this to get gulible men to sign up so I expected one or two, but should I ...
A. 12 May 2013: I know what you are saying, Brother. I KNEW that Martha Stewart was going to be on Match (it was revealed on the "Today" show!!!).... and - don't you know - I put up my most persuasive and enticing reply to her... and the darned woman hasn't yet ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has moved out again, for the fifth time!
Q. My boyfriend of two years moved out again for the fifth time. He usually calls or comes back by now but not this time. His Family is being very nasty towards me and he didnt just move out he moved 3 hours away. When he left he said he was going to ...
A. 12 May 2013: I suggest that you adjust your first sentence, such that it reads: "My boyfriend moved out again, for the fifth, AND LAST time....."
THAT would "solve" your problem.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's behavior has shaken me to my wounded, abandonment-fearing core. Am I the one who needs to work on my issues? Or is his behavior unacceptable?
Q. Can I trust my boyfriend? I have trust issues stemming from childhood (parental divorce, alcoholic parent, stressed out parent, etc). I've improved in the trust department, but still have a long ways to go. I live with my boyfriend of 2.5...
A. 12 May 2013: If your going to spend the rest of your life "walking on eggshells"... then you must reconcile that frivolous incidents like this are going to have 'way more effect on YOU then they would (have) on most other people.....
You really should seek pro... (read in full...)
How can she say she loves me so much and then turn around and tear me apart and break up?
Q. hey guys. thanks for taking the time to read this. i'm really hurting right now and i don't know what to do. i'd been with my gf about six months now and i thought everything was perfect! we had just yesterday been discussing us getting an apart...
A. 12 May 2013: I think your submittal is a "textbook case" about why Muslims and "infidels" (read: "Christians, Protestants, Jews, Buddists, Hindus, Taoists or any other religion that isn't Muslim...") can't co-exist.....
Dump your "girlfriend" .... and chal... (read in full...)
My baby daddy has a new girlfriend but wont let me live my own life!
Q. I have kids with a guy. And he has a new girlfriend but he still sends me flowers. And cards, still texts me he misses me. And I have started dating someone new. I have told my boyfriend and he is mad. I can't stop talking to him or cut him out of ...
A. 12 May 2013: You can't do a darn thing to "keep your Baby Daddy from sending you things"..... What you CAN DO, is not react to those things that he sends you... AND continue to ignore the useless b**tard.... (BUT, don't forget to let him keep making payments to ... (read in full...)
How can I walk away from this relationship without hurting myself?
Q. I have a boyfriend for already four years. The second year into our relationship he was not working and it aggravated me because it brought alot of problems. Eventually I got so annoyed, I went back to NY (we had moved to California) to just get ...
A. 12 May 2013: As I see it... this predicament started when you were 17 YO..... a mere child.... AND, you've given this "boyfriend" all sorts of "passes" believing that HE might grow up (and "catch up" to you!).... He didn't....
Soooo, WHAT is the question... (read in full...)
Jealousy is eating away at me about my boyfriend's ex
Q. My boyfriend and I are great together, he loves and appreciates me and vice versa and the sex is great. The only problem in our relationship is my jealousy! I often ask questions about one of exes of two and a half years ago. He is very honest about ...
A. 12 May 2013: Jealousy is like battery acid. IF you are dumb enough to drink it, destroy your tongue and taste buds, and it will hollow you out and prevent you from ever enjoying the fruits/foods of life, in the future.....
IF you put up your hand and say, "Ge... (read in full...)
I found out I'm the other girl and I'm pregnant!
Q. I went on three dates with a guy(who said he was single)I had just met. We hooked up twice, and now I'm pregnant. We tried to make things work as a couple, but he ended that after less than a day, because he said it felt forced. We both decided to ...
A. 12 May 2013: You ask: "....What should I say to him?"
You say to him: "Well, Mr Dog.... you got me to put out for you.... and you knocked me up... and you gave me just enough encouragement to keep me interested. THEN, I found out that you have another,... (read in full...)
I have a very low sex drive. Please help. Is there anything that could help?
Q. Hi-I LOVE my fiance so very much. We both have full time jobs and two dogs that take up a lot of our time ). I have no self esteem issues what so ever, I a very confident person. Our relationship is very lovey and we truly are in love- never ar...
A. 11 May 2013: I have a theory about sex and sexuality... may I present it in this manner?:
1. You make time to walk/run your dogs, every day... don't you?????
2. You go to work and do your jobs, every day.... don't you????
Then.... why not cons... (read in full...)
He obviously likes me, so why doesn't he just tell me he wants me to be his girlfriend?
Q. How does one get a guy who shows many signs of liking them more than just a friend or hookup to ask them out officially? We have known each other a few years. Initially we started as just a college hookup thing when drunk but I got tired of that ...
A. 11 May 2013: you ask: "... so why doesn't he just tell me he wants me to be his girlfriend?...."
Answer: Because guys don't want to be B/F;G/F if they don't have to!!!! WE want a woman to be available for sex... but we really eschew all the entangle... (read in full...)
We had a fight and I haven't heard from him since
Q. Dear Cupid Its been a week since my bf ( or ex) called me. We had a fight a week back when he unloaded his frustation on me and called me names. Usually when he verbally abuses i wont fight back, this time i couldnt take it, so fought back. Sin...
A. 9 May 2013: Your submittal sounds oh-so-just-like a girl (or, woman) who is void of self-confidence... and thinks that her worth is reflected in the behaviour of some MAN who she fancies......
That said..... Give up on this creature... think not a whit abo... (read in full...)
When is the right time to sleep with a guy after you have started going on dates?
Q. Hello Aunts, I have a question that I feel I haven't been able to find an answer to because every way I try it I seem to be wrong: When is the right time to sleep with a guy after you have started going on dates. I used to start the physi...
A. 9 May 2013:
There are TWO answers to this question....
1. Guys will say, "Shortly after the dinner he takes you to.... as soon as you and he can get out of the public eye.... in to someplace horizontal...."
2. Women will say, "After he has wined ... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?
Q. I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past ...
A. 9 May 2013: I can't speak for ALL guys..... but I CAN tell you that women routinely put out for me because they think I am extremely wealthy, and they think that if they do so (put out) that I will take them on exotic vacations, buy them expensive jewelry and ... (read in full...)
Is it really just that I have terrible luck and that every time we make major plans she has some other important thing come up in her life?
Q. am I overreacting and being unnecessarily suspicious or do I have actual reason to worry here? my gf and I have gone out for 3 years. we're in college together. over the time we've been together, things have been great. we have minor arguments ...
A. 9 May 2013: This girl is not nearly as serious as you are about what is "going on" between the two of you.....
From your list of "happenstances" and her excuses for avoiding you ..... if more than terribly suspicious... it is flagrantly inconsiderate and unbe... (read in full...)
I don't feel as close to my boyfriend as I think I should?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 25. We've been dating for 4 months. I'm not expecting him to tell me he loves me or anything but I feel very little intimacy with him. He talks about himself a lot and he seems to have a lot going for hi...
A. 9 May 2013: Yes... find a boyfriend who is less self-absorbed, and is available to "be" a boyfriend to you...... The behaviour that you described isn't likely to change/get better....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?
Q. Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept ey...
A. 8 May 2013: I think your idea is smarter than the one that I was going to suggest.
That was, for you to walk up to him, look him straight in the eye and say, "Ya know, handsome stud-muffin, I've been looking for someone just like you to provide the genetic ... (read in full...)
They've been acting odd ever since we came back from our holiday and asked them to move their car from our drive!
Q. I'm in an awkward situation with my neighbours and need advice... My husband and I live in an area whereby none of the houses have a garage and there is only 1 car space in the drives. There is an alternate parking area which is 10 minutes wa...
A. 8 May 2013: Looks like this is a single incident that has taken on a life of its own. There's plenty of "ungraciousness" that took place.... and so anyone can open the dialogue to cancel out what happened. By that, I mean:
1. Your neighbors were "wr... (read in full...)
I'm aware I don't love him, but I wonder if I'm being abused
Q. I am 22. My boyfriend is 39. Let's call him J. We've been dating for four months now. We just had our first fight. I slapped J's face as a joke and then he smacked my ass. Yes, I know that sounds funny and I probably shouldn't take it seriously but ...
A. 8 May 2013: May I re-state your submittal, for my own clarity?
"I am FWB with a guy. I've taken to slapping his face, periodically, (you said, "a lot")... all in "fun". He, apparently, got a bit ticked off that I, repeatedly, slap him, so he slapped ... (read in full...)
This is hurting ,me: I love him and I don't want to lose him. But what to do? He wants to try other girls, not for love, just sex
Q. Hi guys, Well I have this problem. And I appreciate you not judging me nor laughing. I have been with my bf for 7 years, we break up several times and lots happened but we still come back to each other because we do luv each other. But lately ...
A. 8 May 2013: I think that your B/F sincerely believes that he simply wants to copulate with any/all women who will consent to do so with him.....
What your B/F doesn't believe - or, understand - is that there IS a "love" component to sex for most people..... (read in full...)
A nasty fight gave me 30 stitches but now boyfriend is kind to me. Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years and I got into a nasty fight while we were drinking. I slapped at him and turned to run and then he pushed my face into a wall and split it wide open. I will have a permanent scar as it took 30 stitches to help me heal. My ...
A. 7 May 2013: Since you are in a forgiving mood.... then do so.... and you and he can get on in life... HOWEVER....
..... let him know that you expect him to be a model B/F from now until forever.... AND, if he ever so much as raised his VOICE to you (never M... (read in full...)
Nothing seems to turn me on anymore. Is it my age?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 24 years and have always had an active sex life together, at least 3 to 4 times a week even while he's been truck driving and is only home 3 nights a week, it's still 3-4 times a week. In all these years I can ...
A. 7 May 2013: Welcome to "middle age."
Now, print out this submittal and show it to hubby... and tell him that you believe that you and he need to work on your love-life... so that BOTH OF YOU have a good and active one...... After all... it IS possible... (read in full...)
Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: It looks to me like you would love for someone to validate this boorish behaviour, based upon its occurring under the influence of alcohol..... HOWEVER,....
..... the behaviour you've described is NEVER O.K. Soooo,
Chalk up the 8 years to b... (read in full...)
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