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... Send *ilmishap a private message | | | *ilmishap's profile:at 32 i am currently in a hostel 37 weeks pregnant. My bf is a drinker a i left him in aug then discovered i was pregnant.
i live 150 miles away from my family.
I grew up in care have had 3 long term relationships. and have dabbled with with alcohlism. Saw sense about 3 years ago. sadly my life is in limbo right now as i cut out all my drinking buddies but such low self esteem I have not made any new friends since. |
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Has my boyfriend broken up without telling me? He owes me money!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf (or ex) of 3 years was very abusive lately (verbally), we had a fight, actually to be precise he called me names and stormed out of my apartment. He said he's getting bored with me, i tried hard to make myself interesting to hi...
A. 7 May 2013: hope to god he has. if nothing you do makes him happy then he is an unhappy person. Misery loves company. when you leave him and look back you WILL feel ashamed of Your behaviour. No man should have a woman jumping through hoops to try and achieve ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this awkward behavior?
Q. I had this major crush on this guy at work and so we began to talk and he seemed interested in me so we exchanged numbers. Admittedly, I did most of the texting. He hardly texted me. One day he said he lost my number and would need it again at one ...
A. 7 May 2013: he has his chance he blew it. The more you chase the more his ego grows. He may well be telling ppl you'obsessed' . remove his number from your phone. Be civil. No matter how much you want to pull him up on his behaviour. DONT. bite your tongue. He ... (read in full...)
Do I leave or Do I stay?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years (together for 17) and have 3 children (17, 14, and 12). Things between his family and I were tolerable at best in the beginning, but it was well known that they didn't like me because I am white (he ...
A. 7 May 2013: is there no where HE can go? clearly ultimatums dont work have u approached the council or womens aid? they are fantastic an dmay be able to offer practical advice. i would give up on the idea of it going back to how it was. Scary i know but the ... (read in full...)
Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: so is it likely that the 'flirting' is something more when im no tthere?... (read in full...)
I'm confused about the ratings on Dear Cupid
Q. confused about ratings? how many do u nd to get before theyy show up and is it 5 for high/good Q or A? plus is there any way of answering that is likelyy to be rated? I rate a lot but dont thinlk anyone has rated me :(...
A. 7 May 2013: thank u for clearing that up. x... (read in full...)
What to do now, do I say something else to him? I feel lost and crushed by his lies and his games
Q. I am going to try to make this as short as possible by giving enough info but it's a long story. any advice is welcomed. refrain from judgement and ill comments please. My fiance and I got into an argument one day. very stupid argument and...
A. 6 May 2013: This isnt what u want to hear. GET HIM OUT OF YOUR HEAD. you Know you desrve more than this. The whole time he has a hol don you, he is stopping u meeting a decent man who will treat u properly. But while so fixated on this man all you can do is ... (read in full...)
Brokenhearted after boyfriend cheated. What do I do next?
Q. Hi all, how to i recover from a broken heart and the feeling of being totally foolish with I guy i love and would have spent my life with. I found out from a good friend if mine that he caught him at 3am with another girl walking down the street ...
A. 6 May 2013: you know what to do. Decide to have it out with him and see how yyou 'feel' as he explains. If you feel he is hiding something. try and leave him. Or try carrying on. But i doubt hell change... (read in full...)
We don't have much in common nor much to talk about. If breaking up seems too difficult what can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused with how I'm feeling. I've been with my boyfriend about 9 months. He seems to be crazy about me, like he's always said I'm his soulmate an that he would move in with me right away if I asked him and that he wants to be with...
A. 6 May 2013: you have a RIGHT to end a reltionship. Yes it will hurt you both. but being together to avoid hurt or guilt is deceitful. Breaking up is hard to do cuz its often EASIER to go back to the familiar. if it feels wrong, listen to your gut... (read in full...)
What changes could help to make my relationship with my BF less boring? Don't want to breakup.
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly a year now and I'm starting to get bored with our relationship and I've stopped wanting to have any physical contact with him. He's always working and I can only see him at night for like an ...
A. 6 May 2013: it doesnt sound like u have alot to work with. maybe suggest a timetable change if poss? Or try and go a week without seeing each other. You should know when you next see him if its worth the effort. Or not. best of luck... (read in full...)
I know my ex needs comfort. How do I tell him he can always come to me?
Q. Ok. My kids fathers mom and dad died and I need some advice, I know that it is killing him, how do i comfort him? His current girlfriend and I don't really get along. I know he needs someone to talk to and he usually comes to me for comfort. I have ...
A. 28 April 2013: You dont. He has a GF. Is it possible you and her don't get along because of your insistence on 'being there' for him?. I dont know any person who would feel an ex providing emotional support to their partner is healthy or desirable. (suspect you ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and feeling sad knowing my child's father won't be in the picture
Q. Im having to face being a single mum and only in the last week or so I have been feeling loss of love towards my baby. I know it could be hormonal but i dont like feeling this way. Especially when I felt nothing but excitement towards my baby from ...
A. 28 April 2013: i think you know this should be a temporary bad time. You have been a single parent already. It wont get easier now you have another child but you CAN cope. it sounds like your struggling to adjust to another change inyour already hectic life. ... (read in full...)
Why does he still keep contacting me? He knows I care. But refuses to give me a commitment to be exclusive.
Q. I recently ended things with a guy I was seeing because he wasn't ready to see me exclusively. It was hard at first, I really did like him, but with time ill be ok. The thing is though even though we are not together anymore, he will still text me. ...
A. 25 December 2012: he is hoping to rekindle what sounds like it was lots of fun...for him. you did the right thing and YOU KNOW IT. can u block his number? self control can only carry you so far. I would avoid letting him sweet talk you back into a shoddy situation x ... (read in full...)
He expects so much. Gives back nothing. Am I not supposed to feel appreciated by my boyfriend?
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3 years never appreciates me even for things I do for him. However much I do for him and the lengths I go to do things for him, he just treats as if it's my duty to serve him. Am I not supposed to feel appreciated by my b...
A. 25 December 2012: you do not mention what his reaction would be if you said no?... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I marry my boyfriend, he'll continue his late nights at the pub while I continue to wait for him to come home!
Q. I am writing this because I am at the end of my patience with a realtationship. When we met I was overwelmed by the love and happyness in the realtionship and after 3 years togther we have got a lovely house and we often talk about getting married ...
A. 21 December 2012: you claim to be confident that he wants to commit. Where did this misplaced confidence appear from?. He is NOT commited to anything but his own enjoyment.
You have told him his behaviour leaves you feeling aggrieved. He responded with the (lau... (read in full...)
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