Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: It looks to me like you would love for someone to validate this boorish behaviour, based upon its occurring under the influence of alcohol..... HOWEVER,....
..... the behaviour you've described is NEVER O.K. Soooo,
Chalk up the 8 years to b... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: I suggest that you ignore "other people"..... and live your life....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 7 May 2013: The "number" of others who you shared intimacies with will have a MAJOR impact on your life if one of them happens to be infected with the HIV virus....... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a man 21 years older than me. Could it work?
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old woman and I find a 45 year old man attractive who barely looks 40, he could pass for late 30s. My question is does anyone know of any successful stories of people with an age gap this big? My ex was 36, we split due to other ...
A. 5 May 2013: Waht difference does it make (the opinions of Aunts and Uncles).... since you've written: "...who barely looks 40, he could pass for late 30s...." to clearly point out that - whatever you read/hear, here, you're going to continue with this ... (read in full...)
Will she come back to me because I can support her and her kids?
Q. I married a philippine women 3.years ago and I.regret that everyday of my life but im glad I discovered she was going to use me for a green card because I.went.back to visit her and.discovered she was sleeping with so many men and I wonder is she ...
A. 5 May 2013: I suggest that TWO things are in-order, here.....
1. Arrange for you and her to be DIVORCED (OR... maybe better.... get your marriage ANNULLED... .on the claim that it was fraudulant in the first place.....). Then...
2. Once you've done... (read in full...)
I always catch married man looking at me. I don't encourage him and don't want involvement. What do I do?
Q. I work in an office and there's this man. Let's call him... Joe. So Joe is very high up the chain - senior level and about 10 years older. I still think I'm imagining this because I'm a skinny muslim girl who looks about 19. I don't know wh...
A. 4 May 2013: Dear SMG: We men are, usually, DOGS..... We look for tender young girls who might put out for us.... and we try to send "signals" to them that we are "interested." ("Interested" means that we want to have sex with them....)
IF we find one... (read in full...)
I know he isn't good enough but I can't imagine life without him!
Q. I met him when I was 16. We had an instant attraction. We were friends though, for a few years until we shared our first kiss. After that, whether either of us had an other, we would be together when we got the chance. Finally we took a step towards ...
A. 4 May 2013: Let me compress your submittal for you:
"I would like to find a true, loyal, loving boyfriend. I keep hanging around with a guy who is not - and never will be - a "loyal, loving boyfriend." Am I wasting my time?"
Yes.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Where can a guy find a no strings attached friend with benefits?
Q. I'm a separated guy who wants a friend for a sexual relationship without the relationship. I'm having a very hard time finding a decent woman who like me wants a friend for sex but not a relationship. Sadly I've had offers from a few married friends ...
A. 4 May 2013: You can "get in line" with the oodles of OTHER guys who would like to find this dream arrangement.....
.... but, be aware that the line goes around the corner.... and down about 700 blocks, until you find the "end".......
In a word, you're lo... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm OLD and time is running out.
Q. All of my friends have found significant others and have been married for a while. I was in a long term relationship that didn't work out. He left me after 7 years together for a 25 year old. I find myself single, 36, no prospects. I'm in college ...
A. 4 May 2013: I think that the most important thing that you should be worrying about is if/whether or not your Social Security benefits run out before you sign your "final contract" with The Big Guy.....
Honestly.... you're 36!!!! "Old" can't even BEGIN to... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm really sexually attracted to loads of guys?
Q. is it weird that im really sexually attracted to loads of guys? most of my friends either have crushes or boyfriends and the fact that i think about sex so much is strange to them because ive never actually had it but ive come pretty close and i ...
A. 2 May 2013: Nope. You're not weird because you're a girl.... and you wouldn't be weird if you were a boy..... Sexual attractions... (and fantasies).... are pretty commonplace...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much onto his behavior? Or do you think he wants to get closer to me?
Q. The other night I went to my best guy friends house. He was quite drunk an played me some music on his guitar and we talked about some deep things. He likes to hug me a lot and shake my hand a lot. One of the times he hugged me I felt him Kiss my ...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes. Anything and everything stated under the influence of alcohol means NOTHING......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Out of nowhere he tells me that he's going to date this girl, that he loves her more then he ever loved me and he's completely positive that he's going to marry her. Um..what just happened?
Q. I started talking to an ex again about 5 months back. We'd been talking and it seemed like things were headed back toward a relationship. (Yay, because this was the one guy that I could actually see any future with). Then out of no where he tells me ...
A. 2 May 2013: I suggest that you forget him and move on with your life. EVEN if he should "return" to you and claim that he's come to his senses (that's how we guys couch these things in terms that make us sound honorable!).... he REALLY is still quite a child, ... (read in full...)
My fiancé 'needs space'!
Q. I am having a major panic. Im engaged (was) to be married this December. Two weeks ago my fiance had an arguement that escalated and we pretty much havnt spoken. Now at the best of times he can be insecure and Im getting all the blame here as I ...
A. 2 May 2013: Here's a bit of "guyspeak" that you might find helpful....
"I need space".... really means, "I've decided that you aren't the girl for me... and so I am going to put some distance and time between us.... so I can see if I might find "somethi... (read in full...)
Can a serial monogamist finally really commit?!
Q. My boyfriend has been a serial monogamist - so how do I know I'm just not another woman he commits to for a short period of time ?! He says all the right things - and he's open to having children. He has told me he's "invested" ... We've been dating ...
A. 1 May 2013: Count your Blessings that he has not been a serial "POLYGAMIST".... and get on with your life......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My parents want me to go to the prom but I don't want to go!
Q. My class senior prom is coming up. My parents are trying to pressure me to go but I just do not want to go since none of my friends are going. My friends and I are having a pool party at one of my friends house instead (cheaper and don...
A. 1 May 2013: Tell your parents that it's charming that THEY want you to go to prom..... BUT, that YOU don't much prefer to "do" school "dances-like" things.... and, so, you'd prefer to do something ELSE on "prom night"..... AND that a friend of your's is having ... (read in full...)
New girl seems to be displacing me from my circle of friends
Q. I have never been popular but I do have a small group of friends, probably about 7 or 8 people, and we are all really close. For a while now, they have all been becoming friends with this other girl. This girl is really gorgeous and gets a ton of ...
A. 1 May 2013: Believe me.... she will - ultimately - "tip her hand" as to who she is and what she is all about.....
THEN, you - and your high standards - will make YOU stand out... and YOU will be high on the list of preferred young women in your "group".... (read in full...)
I'm committed to my boyfriend so why do I dream about other guys?
Q. I keep having these re-occuring dreams about men. Either they're these cute little dreams.of us together or it sexual. It's always about someone who I've either found attractive at one point, or have liked, and all these men in some way I still have ...
A. 1 May 2013: No, you're NOT a horrible person.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why does the girlfriend of my boyfriend's friend act this way? It makes me very uncomfortable!
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and his friends are like most guys these days. They're young, horny, flirty, like to play xbox and pc games, party, etc. One of my boyfriend's friends has a new girlfriend now and she is really beautiful. I don't wanna sound arro...
A. 1 May 2013: "Sounds" to me like you've got 'way too much time on your hands (to think about such matters),... and a VERY vivid imagination..... and none of this is likely to advance YOUR lot in life.....
Surely, you have other "stuff" to think about besides ... (read in full...)
How do I forgive the man that raped my wife?
Q. My wife was drugged and raped when she was 15 years old at a party - she relived the story to me when we first met and I knew that I may need to be there for her to work through any issues that arose from that incident. However she is a very ...
A. 1 May 2013: I suggest that,.. whenever you find your thoughts drifting to that incident.. in HER past - not your's -..... that you go out and play 18 holes of golf....
After you have played about 144 holes of golf, maybe THEN you'll realize that you're c... (read in full...)
Why will he not tell me the truth? Is my husband gay?
Q. I've been with my husband for 12 years. In the beginning of our relationship he put a porn video on to see if I'd be willing to watch it with him. Just a few seconds on there was a shemale on the screen. He quickly turned it off and said he didn'...
A. 29 April 2013:
It's always possible to believe that he is bisexual, or gay... HOWEVER, I wouldn't suggest that his watching shemale (GLBT) porn is proof-positive of that. After all, pornographic material IS fantasy.... and there is a great "distance" from WATC... (read in full...)
We were happy until I had a miscarriage. After that we argued constantly and broke up.I miss him. So what can I do?
Q. Hi everyone my ex and I broke up middle of march after a 4 month relationship we had known each other to speak to for 5 years then we got together the relationship was intense we both fell in love moved in together i fell pregnant which w...
A. 29 April 2013: What you should do is reconcile that your man-friend was strictly a "fair-weather" friend.... who folded when the going was other than ideal (the miscarriage)..... so he "tipped his hand" that you'd never, really, be able to depend on his if/when ... (read in full...)
It seems like my husband is attracted to everyone but me!
Q. I asked my husband why me never says anything nice to me I asked him is there anything you find attractive about me. He said I can't think of anything but he said to me in front if exwife that I'm jealous of her cause she's pretty an your big fat ...
A. 29 April 2013: Doesn't sound like much of a "husband" to me....
Dump him and get a real husband.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 28 April 2013: Two points come to mind:
1. You say that this policeman is "separated". THAT is not a great deal... for him, or you. How many times do we see, on this site, both men and women expressing despair because they developed feelings for someone ... (read in full...)
Can a guy have an orgasm while dry humping?
Q. My bf and I sometimes have dry-humping (we've not had no sex yet, but he had with other girls before me). I often have an orgasm, but don't know if he has too. Can a guy reach an orgasm with dry humping? And if so, does he always wet his boxers?...
A. 28 April 2013: Driven by the flood of testosterone that we incur, at your age, we guys can get an orgasm just thinking about an episode of "Police Woman" with Angie Dickenson exposing her gorgeous, shapely legs!!!!! And, yes, there's no other place for the ooze ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated once, now he has a second chance, will he do it again?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 months broke up for about a month, due to the fact I had caught him cheating and chatting up other girls. It all started when we were about a month in, and he was accused of kissing a girl at a party, w...
A. 28 April 2013: The greatest "trust" you ought to have is trust in your intuition......
This guy sounds like one of those cliche "once a cheater, always a cheater" types.....
So.... why expose yourself to the likely despair and angst that you might (... (read in full...)
I miss talking to her! Will time bring her back?
Q. i still love this girl so much it hurts and i feel like crying. we tried being friends the first 3 weeks of our breakup. but she said i act crazy asking how she is i slipped i love you a few times as well. sex jokes with friends and simple stuff ...
A. 28 April 2013: Don't waste your time and mental energy believing and conniving (yourself) that your's and her "relationship" is going to arise from the dead, like Lazarus.....
INstead, direct all your time and attention to getting on with your life... WITHOUT ... (read in full...)
I know I deserve way better than this! What do I do about this marriage?
Q. Ok here is the situation at hand, my husband, I just don't know anymore with him, on 4/27/13 I was having bad chest pains and I was thinking about going to the er, he wouldn't even go with me, he said that all my anxiety attacks are coming from me, ...
A. 28 April 2013: Sounds to me like you can correct matters by simply staying away from TWO THINGS: Your "husband" and your family......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I know my ex needs comfort. How do I tell him he can always come to me?
Q. Ok. My kids fathers mom and dad died and I need some advice, I know that it is killing him, how do i comfort him? His current girlfriend and I don't really get along. I know he needs someone to talk to and he usually comes to me for comfort. I have ...
A. 28 April 2013:
Are you reall naive enough to believe that you want to keep this situation alive????? For Heaven's sake... YOU AND HE BROKE UP!!!!!! Let him get on and live his life on his own.... IF he has problems with that, let HIM address them.....
I s... (read in full...)
I haven't told my parents about him. If I break up with him he'll tell them and I'll be homeless.
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for 2years and want to break up. If he breaks up with me that's all fine and dandy his family knows everything about us. But if I break up with him... I dont know what he would do my parents don't like him and they ...
A. 28 April 2013: WHAT???!!!??? Please explain why there is some connection between your breaking up with this guy... and you're having a place to live..... Even a guy as sage and as old as I am can't find a connection between these two ideas/concepts....
Thank... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 28 April 2013: What's different is that, this year, you happened to encounter some more-roguish and cruder creeps than you did last year.....
HOWEVER, consider just HOW you appear in scanty shorts... and WHAT IS THE MESSAGE that "others" may believe that you... (read in full...)
He can't seem to feel love for me. He does care about me. Should I break up with him? Or are there other options to consider?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years we live together and get along great. All the arguments stopped once we started living together and everything flows great. The one problem we still have, is that he can't seem to feel love for me. ...
A. 27 April 2013: How do you KNOW that he "doesn't feel love for (you) me..."?
Need more info....... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to gain his feelings back ?
Q. So once again my boyfriend and I are having issues. He told me he Lost feelings and interest in me .. He said he wants me to make him get those feelings back. I have no clue how to do that :( I feel that after I see him tomorrow I will be a single ...
A. 27 April 2013: "Sounds" to me like you have a very self-serving "B/F" who is, clearly, telling you that YOU have to make HIM love you....... HUH????????
I suggest that you count your blessings... and end "tomorrow" as a single woman who is prepared to get on w... (read in full...)
Husband has gone away again to think... I really need some help and strategies
Q. My husband of two years has left the family home again for a few days to "clear his head" and to "sort himself out" and I'm bewildered! We have had discussions (not arguments) with one another recently as we understand the marriage is not as good ...
A. 27 April 2013: Let me see if my arithmetic is correct..... You have a "husband of two years".... and "... a 5 year old child together..."
So, that means that what you've described has been going on for FIVE years..... AND, your age is 41-50 (in your forties)... (read in full...)
Does everything has to be "his way"? Is there anyway to get him to see reason?
Q. Hello everyone, hoping to get some objective feedback. My partner and I have been together for three and a half years, but have been in a long distance relationship for the past 1 year and 8 months (approx) and we have a two year old son who live...
A. 27 April 2013: "Sounds" to me like you've spawned with a man-child.... AND you're now enduring the consequences of that so-called "relationship".... which was sincere and meaningful for YOU.... but was pretty blase for him.....
Let him go on his own way.... ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her being a threat to our relationship?
Q. Im a 20 year old female and i am in a relationship with a great guy. BUt I'm concerned you see a few months back the girl showed up out of the blue to see him before he got home from work i was at the house making dinner and she introduced herself ...
A. 27 April 2013: No.... you are NOT "over-reacting...." I am a strong believer in "womans' intuition"..... and I "see" that coming on strong in the situation that you've described....
Here you have an out-of-the-blue woman showing up.... who CLEARLY is much clo... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Did he get mad at me for not sleeping with him?
Q. There is this guy in my class who I had never spoken to until last Friday (I am very quiet in class). Last Friday, I somehow ended up talking to him and we went to eat after school. At night, I ended up at a small party with my friends and he w...
A. 26 April 2013: First: You write, " I broke up with my boyfriend of three years .... a few months ago and I have no idea what dating is like any more!!!" Well, you're in luck, because "dating" hasn't really changed much over the last few months.....
Secon... (read in full...)
What he said to me made me so sick to my stomach that I didn't sleep all night. What are my options?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years we had a perfect relationship but then he got addicted to drugs. I had to become more of a mom figure to him. Then a girl friend due to everything he was getting himself into. But through it all I stuck by h...
A. 26 April 2013: Isn't THIS one of those instances wherein a woman really HAS "invested" in her relationship...... but that "investment" just has no "return"??????
I think you need to give serious thought to simply reconciling that this guy is not going to get "... (read in full...)
It's over, but he still wants me around?
Q. My ex boyfriend of 5 years dumped me 4 months ago and won't let me go. He broke my heart. He told me he wasn't fully sure I was the one for him and he couldn't go on feeling these feelings of uncertainty any longer. He told me he loved me and...
A. 25 April 2013: Let me help you with a little "guy-speak" interpretation....
To have "feelings of uncertainty...." means "I think that we're moving up on you expecting me to be committed to what is going on between the two of us... and me not seeking out other gi... (read in full...)
Why did he just up and leave me and his kids?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, we have two kids. A one and two year old. Just the other day. i was out, and he just up and left without notice. Got a email that he has gone crazy so he is away for a while, but I know that was a lie being ...
A. 25 April 2013: You should think that you;ve learned a very painful... and, probably, expensive lesson about men and life.....
1. Men have a propensity to behave like DOGS... ironically, when you least expect it... AND when you least need that angst...... (read in full...)
We don't have any kids and I even hate to mention this, but should I run before it's too late?
Q. My husband is a jerk and very careless with money! I don't even know where to start!!! Ok, I've taken a few deep breaths and I think I'm ready to explain. My husband is very naïve when it comes to all things money. For example, he wants to tak...
A. 25 April 2013: Yes... it WAS a mistake to marry this man-child who hasn't figured out that he can't put his hand out to "Daddy" and get an advance on his allowance to fund his each-and-every whim.....
That said, say a gracious "Thank you" to the Good Lord, th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?
Q. I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...
A. 25 April 2013: HOW one-sided and self-serving does this creep have to be before you are able to see that there is no future with him????? Send him on his way....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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