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writes:I started dating a man 53 whom is newly divorced few days back in Feb 2013.Yet he is always talking about this woman whom helps him with his dad. My guy's Dad lives with him.The woman who helps is also married and is a co-worker of his. This married woman helped him out when he got separated from his wife whom cheated on him. He had a doctor appointment which required someone take him home after his procedure. His co-worker (this female married friend above )took a vacation day off to take him, yet other male co-workers had volunteered he refused their help. Her offer to help he did not refuse. I did not know him at that time, she has assisted him with watching out for his dad when he is out of town.He goes to her house for dinner, church, yet she is married. Her husband he says is a snake in the grass he feels and is ready to strike. Her husband goes with her to the guy I'm dating house when he needed help fixing things in his house. The woman's husband told the man I"m dating I trust my wife. Yet as I see it the man I"m dating is falling in love with this married woman and her husband does not like the idea.That husband is always talking to his wife and around them all the time. He helps them out as well at their house on projects. Yet I'm very weary of all this. I really like this guy and I ask myself is this normal? He goes to their house to eat she invites him over. I've met her two times once when I first started dating him and once at church and she asked us to go to dinner with them which is a ritual it seems that she and her husband invite him to go with them and also another man. Seems this married woman whom I'm weary about has this harem of men swooning over her and I found out she also helped another man whom recently got divorced as well and he is always jumping to her every whim.I don't understand this. Its not that he's talking about his ex constantly its that he's always talking about this married woman that is bothering me.Is their some secret affair going on I"m wondering? Am I crazy to think he is having an affair. The guy I'm dating knows so much about this woman's family life, and also says she said her son looks up to him more than his father. OKay help me what is wrong with this picture? I'm about ready to high tail it and run and cut my loses before I get in any deeper than I already am with my heart. Lost and confused
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 April 2013):
 I vote for "high-tail, cut and run...."
good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2013): Also we were asked to go out to eat with them after church. And she nice yet we made plans to do something together next day said she would call, she didn't. I don't live in same town as the guy I"m dating live 120 miles away, no big deal. I don't want to control him or be controlled. I'm just confused about this situation. I was married 20plus years he died 8yrs ago of a anurziem, and met someone 3yrs later dated 3yrs he passed away of cancer. Maybe the uncertainly of life and me not being able to control what happens. I don't know..confusing it is for me because I've never met people whom behaved like this before. lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2013): Been dating him 3 months. But more to the story its just werid, he was called into his HR about his phone calls to a married woman that was harrassing they told him and he said no problem will take care of it, then he tells me he is called into HR again couple weeks later people accusing him of having an affair, I was like huh? he goes with the woman he is friends with. I understand helping no problems its nice that she is helping his dad, and helped him. But everyday? the guy I'm dating tells me her husband is upset and tells her its not responsiblity. Then another situation was suppose to have plans and he cancels because he's taking her son to texas to teach him a lesson, to help her with her son because he missed to many days in school got kicked out of school. And I go what about his dad, he goes you don't understand she is the one yells at her son to get up go school her husband is already left for work. Ok but he has a dad I told him is it not his responsiblity to talk with his son, and does her husband know your doing this he goes we've talked yet he doesn't know about this. Well found out the husband got mad cause his wife planned this with the guy I"m dating without telling him, when they told him seems her husband got upset and told him he over stepped his bounds. okay I understand kindness and concern and wanting to help its all good. Yet he talks and tells me all this stuff and what am I to think? LOL jezzz. Yes I'm weary I'm dating and I can push a man away guess due to my loss of my fiancee 2yrs ago. maybe I over think things I don't know maybe I"m afraid to let him get close.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 April 2013):
 You ask what is wrong with the picture, how long have you been in a relationship? From you question it seems to have been only a short time.
What are you wanting to happen here, do you want 'your guy' to stop accepting dinner invitations to this lady and her husband's house. Are you expecting this lady and her husband to stop visiting and caring about 'your guy's" dad?
Do you think your guy should change jobs so that he is no longer a co worker of this lady?
Exactly what has your boyfriend and this lady done to make you so suspicious?
Should people not help other people in case somebody like you decides they are cheating on their husbands?
What's your story, what were you doing before you met this man? How long have you known him, where did you meet, did you know his ex wife, did you meet his friends, including this woman and her husband, before or after he divorced his wife.
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