My boyfriend is attending a wedding, his ex will be there and it's also my birthday. How should I read his request that I not attend the wedding?
Q. Hi, I am confused about what to do and how to feel... My boyfriend will attend the wedding of a high school classmate. They are not close friends. They haven't seen each other for 2 years. He invited him to his wedding 3 weeks before the weddi...
A. 26 May 2013: OP: IF you choose not to agree with me... and IF you choose to give your "B/F" a pass for this boorish behaviour... THEN don't be surprised if, in a short time (just after the wedding), you are on here saying "Oh, boo-hoo, I just had a horrible ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract older men? Is it a vibe I'm giving off?
Q. Why do I attract older guys, in relationships? Is there a certain vibe I give off or is there a certain look I have that attracts men to cheat? I'm not saying I'm looking for a commitment from anyone. In reality, I don't want a relationship at all ...
A. 25 May 2013: I would guess that the key to your question is, that you spend time in places where such "older" men are typically found... AND - regardless of where you are... that you make eye contact with older men, moreso than you do with men your age and ... (read in full...)
My friend has been dating and now has no time for me
Q. My best friend of 10 years has recently started a new relationship and since then she has pretty much cut all contact with me. She tells me that she can't afford to do anything or she has no time to meet me, yet I see her tagged on Facebook 3/4 ...
A. 25 May 2013: Yes... oldbag is pretty much on-line with the final solution to your dilemma. You may have to simply reconcile that your long-term friend has made another, new, different life with the guy she's seeing.... AND let yourself be left out....
HOWEV... (read in full...)
The little death--a man crying after sex?
Q. I want to ask people about something I recently learnt about called "The Little Death" when a guy cries after sex. Why is this? None of my exes did this. Can someone explain this further?...
A. 25 May 2013: Some of us guys have waited so long for a sexual encounter that we are overwhelmed with it....and so we are prone to sobbing when we finally get a girl to put out for us.....
BD/DT... (read in full...)
Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia
Q. Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia (a form of sound sensitivity where noises like people chewing, breathing, snoring etc provoke a fight or flight/rage response in the sufferer) who can offer me any advice about coping with it? ...
A. 25 May 2013: I have two cousins who are stone-deaf (they have NO hearing, whatsoever).
If they saw this submittal, I'll bet they would say, "Damn, Dan, if I could ever hear ANYTHING I'd be so darned excited, that I wouldn't sleep for WEEKS just listenin... (read in full...)
How can I get this man to commit to me?
Q. Hi all. I'm 21 and my boyfried is 39. Yes, I realize the age difference but that's never mattered to me and my parents don't seem to mind much. We've been together since I was 18 and for being my age, that's a long time. Yes, we've both had a few ...
A. 25 May 2013: I think there are three important items in your submittal:
1. You write: " I'm a grown woman but quite literally all of my friends are either engaged, married, or have kids... or all of the above!" SO WHAT??? Is THAT the only reason you have... (read in full...)
If he was backing off from me, why go to such lengths to show that this girl is just his friend?
Q. I have a quick question about male behavior. I have a friend i work with.. He was real flirty and and a big group of us went out and he was all about me. I didn't really think a whole lot on it since he was going through a divorce and we were all ...
A. 25 May 2013: Some guys become very masterful at keeping multiple women "on the hook"..... and this guy seems to be one of them......
Your only "question" should be: Do I really want to take his bait?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is attending a wedding, his ex will be there and it's also my birthday. How should I read his request that I not attend the wedding?
Q. Hi, I am confused about what to do and how to feel... My boyfriend will attend the wedding of a high school classmate. They are not close friends. They haven't seen each other for 2 years. He invited him to his wedding 3 weeks before the weddi...
A. 25 May 2013: One needn't dig very deep to "see" what your "B/F" really has going on... and how it affects YOU. To wit:
This wedding is a chance to get away from YOU, and have a good-old-time with his old school chums... Too bad for you.
That it's you... (read in full...)
Please help me understand my bisexual boyfriend!
Q. My current boyfriend, Johnny, used to go out with a 21 year old bisexual guy, Kevin. They dated for 4 years. During that time, their relationship was open from the start and Johnny who is gay, forced himself to conform to Kevin's ways and slept with ...
A. 25 May 2013: I think you are "spending" a lot of time thinking and worrying about a guy who doesn't sound much like "partner" material for you. There must be many, much better, prospects available.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Will we be passing HPV back and forth if we keep having sex?
Q. Hello, well a women friend of mine, had a pap smear, it came back she has hpv, am the only man she's been with in years, I'm wondering, I've been told it can up to 2 years for your immune system to clear it up, I know their is a lot of different ...
A. 25 May 2013: Ask a qualified medicine man (a DOCTOR)....'cuz this is an important question.... far more so than for you to ask us (Aunts and Uncles) here, and believe that we can give you proper, or qualified, advice......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I tolerate this kind of behavior from my boyfriend?
Q. Last night I went to a bar with my boyfriend, we went to order the drinks and the bartender was an old man. After that we sat in a table and were talking, all of a sudden my boyfriend started saying bad things to me, he said i was a bitch and go ...
A. 25 May 2013: The key to your entire submittal is this phrase:
"...he has said similar kind of thing sometimes in the past ..."
You could give him a "pass" for being an a$shole, ONCE.
A SECOND time was 'way too much.... if, this was the THIRD or more-th tim... (read in full...)
Why a sudden change of mind for us so soon after deciding we didn't want a child?
Q. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, we had the "baby talk" and both decided it was right timing right now, but I've been panicking about the unprotected sex we had. I asked him as we cuddled in bed last night what he wants for us in the future ...
A. 25 May 2013: Let me interpret for you....
He said: ".. can we have a baby..." and "...if I'm pregnant now he'll be happy and if I'm not he won't mind" just after you and he had completed unprotected sex.....
Don't you see what he really "said"???? He s... (read in full...)
Would you be offended if a guy you were dating joked you are a cheap date?
Q. I was seeing someone, everything was going well but it recently fizzled out and she decided she just wants to be friends. I've been wracking my brains trying to remember if I did or said anything wrong and all I can think of is a time when we were ...
A. 25 May 2013: DON'T APOLOGIZE for something that you aren't even sure is your transgression!!!!!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My mother doesn't want to relocated to a new city. Do I leave her behind?
Q. I am relocating to a different city. My mother lives with me and she doesn't want to relocate with me. She has sundowning sometime and I don't feel comfortable leaving her behind. How can I convince her to go with me. We have been living together ...
A. 25 May 2013: Sometimes, you just have to grow up and cut the apron strings that bind you...
I see nothing in your submittal that would/could/should prevent you from getting on with your life.... and expecting that your Mother will get on with her's, without ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for ex wives/husbands going on vacation together normal?
Q. I am on my third marriage/my wife also her third. My wife is going on vacation with her grown kids, grandchildren and with her ex husband from her first marriage. The ex is bringing his girlfriend also. I just find it strange that she would want to ...
A. 25 May 2013: It's not "the norm" (normal)... but not unheard of....
YOU should find it interesting that your wifey doesn't take/make her OWN time to have vacations with her kids... WITHOUT "daddy" (Hubby No. 1)....
IF you told her how you felt about this ... (read in full...)
Does my sons dad love our son or is he just hanging around for sex from me?
Q. I met my ex almost four years ago. We had known each other a few mnth and i fell pregnant. He is from africa and when i met him he had two yrs before visa ran out.we had a pretty good relationship. But the situation was hard i didnt think he wa...
A. 25 May 2013: There's really only one sentence in your entire submittal that has anything to do with your plight. It is:
"And in whole time i have known him he has always wanted to have sex with me on a regular basis."
Starting with that, reconcile these ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend may be hiding her past from me. How can I know whether she's a virgin?
Q. Hey friends.. I have a girlfriend and i love her much. we are in relationship from past 2 months. we met and became friends in her hometown. actually i guess that she is hiding her past from me and i dont feel good..so here her past goes.. ...
A. 25 May 2013: To the anonymous medical student: PLEASE keep your OPINIONS to yourself!!!!
I've been using that line ("If I suck or fondle them, they'll get bigger....") for neigh on 50 years now. IF any of my prospects should get wind of what you've postulat... (read in full...)
Are there some women that just do not like receiving oral sex?
Q. Hi there, I have a question about oral sex on a woman friend (or lack of). Several months ago when we first became intimate, she performed oral on me (with condom)and i politely asked if i could return the favour. The answer to my question was 'No, ...
A. 24 May 2013: Please note: When I wrote: "I did (locate one, once), too."..... I meant a girl who didn't like oral... NOT a Yeti!!!!!!
Hope this clarifies the matter....... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has another girl?
Q. I'm 22. my guy is is 27 and we've been dating almost 4years. We both see each other we pay each other visit ,call each other on phone and joke but now his attitude towards me change suddenly, i don't seems to get him any longer if i pay him visi...
A. 24 May 2013: This man that you describe, it not worthy of another minute of your time and mental energy.....
Drop him, and get a REAL boyfriend...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I facing a big problem here? Could my boyfriend be interested in this girl who talks really inappropriate sexual stuff with him?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry but this is going to be a long post. I am really upset here and I need some advice. A girl my boyfriend knows (they're not really friends, but know each other) is always trying to talk to my boyfriend about stuff that I fee...
A. 24 May 2013: I think the situation you've described is rather like your B/F experiencing a racy sex life vicariously, through his "friend."
It's inappropriate, yes.... but his participating in it "tells you" a great deal about "B/F".... mainly that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Are there some women that just do not like receiving oral sex?
Q. Hi there, I have a question about oral sex on a woman friend (or lack of). Several months ago when we first became intimate, she performed oral on me (with condom)and i politely asked if i could return the favour. The answer to my question was 'No, ...
A. 24 May 2013: Yes, there are a few such women..... about as many of them as there are Yetis in the Himalayan mountains..... (Consider yourself quite a pioneer for having located one.... P.S. I did (locate one, once), too.)
Good luck...... (read in full...)
We broke up. What life lessons can I learn from this?
Q. hi aunts and uncles.... i finally got the chance to ask my ex after a year and a half of being seperated and divorced, why he left me. i wanted to know what mistakes i made so that my next relationship would not end up breaking up because of a...
A. 23 May 2013: Let me help you by interpreting what he REALLY "said" to you (I'm an expert translator of "guyspeak"....)
He SAID.... "I kinda got tired of you... and went looking for some greener grass... and believed I'd found it... AND - not incident... (read in full...)
Ex BF says he won't consider a reconciliation if I go on a holiday with my friend! What should I do?
Q. I have been split up with my ex for 3 weeks now. We were living together and he said he wanted a break. We have argued constantly over the 2 years it seems he wants me of a weekday then of a weekend he just wants his mates. I can admit I have bee...
A. 23 May 2013: Cripes!!! You break up with the guy... then, STILL LET HIM CONTROL YOU AND MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE!!! How difficult is it to see that YOU have a serious decision to make. That is: Do YOU live your life, as YOU wish?????
OR, do you live the ... (read in full...)
My fiance says that if I gain weight, he won't make love to me in the same way! How should I respond?
Q. My fiance has told me he hates fat women. He thinks they are disgusting and have no self control. His mother is heavy and he points to her for his reasoning. He told me, while making love to me, that if I ever gain weight, that he will not make...
A. 23 May 2013: I'm with the anonymous replier...... When a man or woman chooses (Yes... they CHOOSE to do so!!!) to let their body, their weight, their appearance go to pot... they are really sending a "message" to their partner and the World: Which message is: ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to take down dating profile when you've met someone you like?
Q. Hi Aunts I've been dating someone for several weeks, all is going well, and it's getting increasingly intimate though we havent had sex. I only date one person at a time, which is still normal for my generation in the UK. I met him online and...
A. 23 May 2013: When you become so woefully destitute that you can't pay your water, electricity and phone bill ... THEN you stop our dating site payments....
Until then, you've GOT to "keep your oar in the water".... being ready to meet that NEW "perfect... (read in full...)
My girlfriend may be hiding her past from me. How can I know whether she's a virgin?
Q. Hey friends.. I have a girlfriend and i love her much. we are in relationship from past 2 months. we met and became friends in her hometown. actually i guess that she is hiding her past from me and i dont feel good..so here her past goes.. ...
A. 23 May 2013: You can't. What difference does it make???
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does guys keep their female friends so long so close because they really want to be just friends or because they like them?
Q. I have a friend of 5 years and I kinda like him ever since we first met. He is an amazing guy and I would love to be more than just friends, but even though we are close, and there is some tension, he never actually said he likes me or he never ...
A. 23 May 2013: We like to keep them handy as a "fallback" .... in case the new model doesn't work out to our satisfaction....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
No sex for 2 years - should I walk away from this otherwise happy relationship?
Q. My mate and and I have not had sex for 2 years He says he can't get a hard on anymore, but he can materbate and watch porn alone, I am not sure if it is me or if he avoids me, I am happy about everything else in our relationship but the sex. He ...
A. 23 May 2013: You walk. Been there; done that... Don't waste your time...
Sexual incompatibility is probably about the WORST problem that two people can have.... If they have OTHER incompatibilities, they can, and will, talk about them and seek to bring th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed his mind about wanting children and now I feel like he resents me....
Q. At the beginning of my relationship i made it clear i had no plans for children in my life, not because i dont like them but because i want to keep my freedom etc and not go through pregnancy in general. My boyfriend said he did not mind either ...
A. 22 May 2013: All you can do is sit down with him.... look at all the details, and make an informed decision....
"Sounds" like this is the "decision": You would like to be married, but don't want to spawn and raise children. He also wants to be married.... (read in full...)
He said my friend is a bit more beautiful than I am, is it ok for him to say this?
Q. I was with my boyfriend and we were talking,in the course of that i talked about my girlfriend and asked him if we look alike,he said yes that i and my girlfriend look alike but its just that she is a bit more beautiful than i am....is it okay that ...
A. 22 May 2013: No... it was NOT OK for him to say this to you.
HOWEVER, if it is an isolated incident... and not at all in keeping with how you and he usually get on.... I suggest you give him a "Pass" for his momentary stupidity..
With any luck... in the f... (read in full...)
Struggling to trust my girlfriend after she kissed another man....
Q. My situation is that my long term girlfriend of 9 years kissed another man at work. She came clean about it all and turns out that this dick has been pursuing her for about 6 years! She said she got curious and kissed him and that she immedia...
A. 22 May 2013: You say she "....kissed another man at work..." then, "If not, what would you do about it?"
Here in the Colonies, we would consider what you describe (his advances toward her) to be "workplace sexual harrassment".... and would bring it to the atte... (read in full...)
How do I warn my friend about my former FWB without reliving my story?
Q. Dear cupid I was in FWB for around 3 years on and off. He was my collegue at work and I was in love with him. Long story short he was very abusive towards the end and dumped me a month ago. We see each other at work, he carries on as if I don't ex...
A. 22 May 2013: The two who responded before me have both made the same case, and it's important. That is; YOU and this creep engaged in a "FWB" arrangement.... and HE chose to discontinue it.... YOUR reaction to HIS behaviour and his breaking off the FWB is ... (read in full...)
My Wedding. Does any one have any solutions? I'm just terrified of everything and everything revolving around me
Q. Hi! So I dont really know what to do for this, but I'm afraid of my wedding. I'm not afraid of commitment or anything and Im not afraid to go to other peoples weddings- just afraid of my own. I start looking at venues or dresses and just panic. ...
A. 22 May 2013: You've goten some great - and widespread - advice here... as is typical on this site..... However, I don't see it ... so might offer this suggestion, if you do choose to go on with the larger wedding: Consider being hypnotized with the intention ... (read in full...)
How could a guy like him fall for a girl like her?
Q. Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I have been dating the most wonderful man, Jeff, for about a year now, I have met his parents and he’s met mine, we’re planning to get married early next year. Everything’s perfect and I may be j...
A. 22 May 2013: While I don't think that Jeff has shown himself to be the most assertive and independent-thinking guy.... I do think that it's better that you let his past be past.... UNLESS you want to fulminate about it forever......
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why do I miss him, even after a week? He dumped me!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years dumped me last week. He was very abusive for that past 6 months. Long story short, I haven't called him since the day he dumped me. I'm making myself busy at work so I won't have time to mope. But for the past 2 days...
A. 22 May 2013: I suggest that you take up doing "Sudoku" puzzles....
You can find that with difficulty from "pretty darn easy" to "absolutely diabolical".....
They will keep you busy, and will keep your mind off this creep that you've described...... (read in full...)
She's pregnant with the other guy's child, says she doesn't want him anymore but then why does she still have his photos, help!
Q. Please help me i had been dating for 9years with my girlfriend, I find out she was seeing someone else then i move out of our apartment i still love her a lot we even have a child together i find out she is pregnant with that guys child she told she ...
A. 22 May 2013: "The girl" is a tramp. Don't worry about her.
Be a good Father to your son (the one you spawned with the tramp)......
That's the best - and most complete - advice I can offer...
Good luck...
... (read in full...)
Dodgy messages on husband's phone, suspicions of a prostitute, should I phone the person to see who it is?
Q. I have been married for almost ten years and we have a six year old son. My husband has always been interested in porn (every year or so he slips up and I "find" something, particularly quite young women although not illegal), but I have had no ...
A. 21 May 2013: Don't plan to be devestated on behalf of your son.... Let him be devestated on his own, for his own reasons....
YOU have a greater problem... a rat for a husband.....
Best advice: Confront him ONCE. TELL him you are aware of his trysts. ASK... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 21 May 2013: You ask two questions... and I have two counter-questions. To wit:
My question is, how do I teach him humility and self reflection/evaluation? For the most part, you don't. THAT was his parents' job....
How do you teach someone that say... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex is getting out of jail and he once told me he'd never love me as much as he loves her, am I going to get kicked to the curb when she's back?
Q. Hi everyone. To start off Im engaged and happy for the most part. My fiancé list year got full custody of his kids which I love with all my heart. The kids mother went to jail and ate now getting out early.my fiancé knew about her getting out early ...
A. 21 May 2013: Well.... when the kids' Mother gets out of the klink, you'll find out in short order whether or not you're going to end up UNDER the bus, or riding in it!!!!!!
Ain't much you can do 'til then.... cuz "baby daddy" doesn't seem to be very forthcom... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guy friends to touch each other?
Q. Is it normal for guy friends to touch each other so much? My boyfriend says all guys do this, but I don't think so. In their group of friends they are always joking about having sex with each other, and they grab each others asses and squeeze it. ...
A. 21 May 2013: I was GONNA say that it's not very common..... but then, I noticed that you live in DENMARK... the home of Legos......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my new boyfriend with his shady past may hurt me, or leave me!
Q. My boyfriend has a very shady past,he ws never in love,has had meaningless sex and not treated women thaat well! And I met him and the first 2 dates I thought may be he wants the same from me,but after those 2 dates he started liking me more,wan...
A. 21 May 2013: OP: It's frustrating that you made your submittal as if you wanted "input" or "answers"..... and you GOT THEM ... from people who will give you the best advice they've got... THEN, with your last submittal.... you are, effectively, "saying".... "I ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my new boyfriend with his shady past may hurt me, or leave me!
Q. My boyfriend has a very shady past,he ws never in love,has had meaningless sex and not treated women thaat well! And I met him and the first 2 dates I thought may be he wants the same from me,but after those 2 dates he started liking me more,wan...
A. 20 May 2013: C'mon.... isn't it clear enough to you to see "what this guy is made of"???????
AND,... you clearly have SOME IDEA.. since you write "...I am scared,what if he hurts me?..."
Is THAT anything that a girl could, or would, write about an upstand... (read in full...)
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