Is he playing with my emotions?
Q. I met this guy from a friend of mine a year ago, and I started developing feeling for him. He initiated the first meeting, and took me to the "City" and everything was fine for a couple of dates. One day he started being really obnoxious, telling ...
A. 20 March 2013: I didn't read your entire submittal, because, before I finished the first two paragraphs, I was able to discern that you and this guy have not NEARLY enough in-common to continue seeing one-another. THAT is my advice....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my mother's anxiety about money, she'll essentially throw away money yet say spending it on my education is a problem, help!
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but I hope someone on here can give me some advice. My mom works like 24/7, no joke. She's always put work ahead of everything else in life. When she'd come home she'd spend hours paying bills, and saying how expe...
A. 20 March 2013: According to the heading of your submittal, your age is "22-25".... For many/most of us.... by that age, we are adult and not depending only (or, at all) upon our parent(s) to continue paying our way through life....
Did I miss somethin... (read in full...)
Is "no contact" really the best way to get over a breakup?
Q. Hi Everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend a couple months ago. I went "no contact" for the first 2 weeks but it was too difficult for me...I missed him so much, to the point of physical pain. Is this typical? We've been talking since then,...
A. 20 March 2013: My prediction? That you and he will choose to be F-buddies, or FWBs until graduation.... then... who knows?
Have fun,... and, Good luck....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: There was no "hate" in my submittals.... I tried, only, to get you to see how your's and his behaviour looks "from the outside, looking in."
Refer back to CVS's submittal..... She told you, quite forthrightly, that your B/F's words are strictly... (read in full...)
Men: Why is my husband watching porn that involves fat women over 60?
Q. Hi, I'm married woman in my 30s and have a small son. Me and my husband watch porn together, but recently I found out that he is watching a different type of porn when I'm not around, it involves the opposite of me, women that are over 60 and fat. ...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm guessing that your hubby loves BACON... .and he wants to see where it comes from........ (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 20 March 2013: IF I posted naked pics of myself on-line, my S/O would believe, only, that I was trying to get myself arrested by the morality or silliness police.....
P.S. .... or the "stupidity" police....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: P.P.S. The behaviour that you describe.... I would call it "Two-way blackmail".... .wherein you each tell the other how catastrophic it would/will be when you finally decide to go on your separate ways....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: OP: Your additional submittal made it perfectly clear that you and B/F are mutually co-dependent.... and that you (both) are willing to stay in this downward spiral until something (who knows what?) happens that FORCES the two of you to grow up and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: I would boil your whole submittal to these basics:
1. You and he live at the same address, but are not married.... (no committment),
2. He is a cheater....
3. YOU recognize that things are not "right" between you... AND they've deter... (read in full...)
I can't wait till sex is over!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Our sex life is great.. Maybe a little too great. We have sex everyday. Sometines more than once. T first it was great but now sometimes I can't wait till it's over. We've even stopped doing it so often ...
A. 20 March 2013: The key here is that you've TALKED to him..... but he doesn't seem to have LISTENED.....
Try the "talking" again... but ask him to LISTEN.....
If you can get the talking and listening to BOTH take place, then you (and he) should have an i... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 20 March 2013: Sounds to me like you've got yourself a cheating man who doesn't seem to "see" the error in/of his ways....
WHY would you want to entangle yourself with (marry) such a creature?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend didn't support me in ways I needed. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I feel betrayed
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, he has a sister who is my age who I really dislike due to many things she did to me in the past. She seemed to be jealous of my relationship with her brother (things such as making fun of me at scho...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm reading the story of a "relationship" which has oh-so-much dysfunction in it ... betrayal, lack of support, theft .... I can't begin to imagine why you'd want to stay in such a "relationship" with this guy.... since it seems to include his nasty ... (read in full...)
My Wife Talking about sex toys with a collegue!
Q. Had a bit of a barney with my wife (of 5 months) last night. She said that she had a conversation with a male collegue about his business selling Sex Toys - I thought this was innapropriate and got the proverbial hump. Anway, thats not so much the ...
A. 20 March 2013: I agree with k_c. Your reaction to her discussion of this "other" man's business was a bit much.... (Would you have have felt equally miffed if she'd discussed his business of selling ice cream from a vending truck?)..
NOW, it's time for you ... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: Some guys get their kicks toying with others (women)... (
Some women do the same thing, incidentally.....)
You seem to have found one such guy....
He seems to be quite the jerk.... so put him out of your mind and your life... and get on w... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: We men do all sorts of things to justify the behaviour of our women and the frustrations we experience when they choose not to be sexually active with us.....
In fact, this works both ways.... so, IF we (men or women) choose to spend time wit... (read in full...)
How can I forget my ex boyfriend if I still hate him?
Q. How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him for lying to me many times?Im trying to forgive him many times but still he deny the truth i was hurt why he did to me like this i was honest to me him,he promise many things but i know all of that is ...
A. 20 March 2013: "..How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him..."
You can't. It's a fine line between love and hate. The "opposite" of "love" is NOT "hate"... it's "indifference") ...and you can only forget him if you choose to discontinue thinking about hi... (read in full...)
I found out I am his mistress and cannot let him go?
Q. Hi all, I am a newly divorced lady and I'm in a relationship with a man who is 8 years younger than me. Its a fairly new relationshi (3 months) and when I got involved with the man,he gave me the impression that his relationship with the baby ma...
A. 20 March 2013: You write: "He categorically stated that his marriage has nothing to do with our relation and he sees no problem with us continuing with it. He told me that he would not accept his being married as a reason for me ending our relationship.."
WHO i... (read in full...)
How do I get someone I care about to stop smoking?
Q. I need some serious help. I feel like such a terrible person because I can't control my own emotions. Recently my friend started smoking and its crushed me, I've cried everyday since, just knowing he does it upsets me and I'd give anything in...
A. 20 March 2013: Just a brief follow-up.....
1. Those who tolerate a smoking partner, do so at their own discretion.... As well....
1A. For those who seek companionship/love on "dating" sites.... note how many men or women will simply not consider a smoke... (read in full...)
How do I get someone I care about to stop smoking?
Q. I need some serious help. I feel like such a terrible person because I can't control my own emotions. Recently my friend started smoking and its crushed me, I've cried everyday since, just knowing he does it upsets me and I'd give anything in...
A. 19 March 2013: Nicotine is a horrible addiction.... however, it's one that is oh-so insidious.... People, like your friend, start to smoke and, naively, believe that they will be able to stop "at any time".... Who was it, Mark Twain, who said, "To stop smoking ... (read in full...)
Should I sue my US wife for defamation from Pakistan?
Q. 8 Months ago, I got married to a US citizen in Pakistan. While Spouse visa petition was in final stage. We picked up a fight and now she wants divorce. If she doesn't come to Pakistan and I don't go to US, me and my family will face embarrassing ...
A. 14 March 2013: Your submittal reminds me of this story.....
A guy goes in to a lawyer's office and asks, "What are your fees?"
The lawyer replies, "I charge $400 for three questions."
The guy asks, "Isn't that quite a lot?"
The lawyer says, "Yes. ... (read in full...)
My Gf has a friend. I'd like to spend cozy moments with her friend. Can I do this successfully and not hurt my Gf?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for two years. But I'm attracted to her friend and I feel like going out with her friend to share cozy moments. I don't want to hurt my gf but at the same time I want to spend time with her friend. Help!! What ...
A. 14 March 2013: Well.... you are certainly putting matters in-place so that your G/F can learn BOTH at the SAME TIME: ... that YOU are an untrustworthy DOG.... AND that her "friend" is no "friend" indeed..... and that the two of you lying dogs deserve ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not open up to me!
Q. My boyfriend of 14 months won't open up to me and it's getting me very upset. Last night I knew something was troubling him and he told me to leave it. I proceeded to question him and he says it's personal and he doesn't want me to know. This ...
A. 14 March 2013: Of course your B/F has every right to keep some things to himself..... ESPECIALLY those details that apply to HIM and THE OTHER GIRLFRIEND that he is keeping....
Are your eyes open these days????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My wife is happier than she has been in years. But does her (male) co-worker need to be soooooo close to my wife? I don't know what to do.
Q. About a year ago my wife was disheartened because all her friends we're either pregnant or had kids and we we're not ready yet. She sort of had a mid-life crisis and befriended a co-worker who could talk to her. Since then they have become really c...
A. 14 March 2013: So..... your "wife" has a boyfriend who she brought home from work..... and you see all the evidence you need (to see) to understand that YOU are the "third wheel" in the party.... BUT, you give her "passes" to betray you.. and you continue to allow ... (read in full...)
I've decided I don't want to meet him. Not after his nasty remarks. How do I tell him this? And confirm that I only want to be friends?
Q. Ok, so, please don't judge. I've seemed to have gotten myself into a really bad situation. I want to give a brief story on how I met this guy, and what my problem is now. I met this guy online years ago. I was then 12, he was 13, and we became re...
A. 14 March 2013: You calmly say to him.. or Skype to him... or e-mail to him, a missive that says (use this verbatim): Hey, e-pal, it's become crystal clear that there IS NO "relationship" between us.... and NEVER WILL be a relationship between us.... so.... let's ... (read in full...)
Quick help for getting over this TERRIBLE relationship?
Q. I'm not going to go into details, but I'll give points of what he did. 1. Emotionally abusive. 2. Used me for sex. 3. Constantly had girls sleeping at his house. 4. Took advantage of me AFTER I had a miscarriage. 5. Called me stupi...
A. 14 March 2013: I suggest that you volunteer at a soup kitchen or an animal shelter..... THERE, you will see that your travails are not all that Earth-shattering, after all.... and it could startle you in to figuring out that you can let go of that LOUT who you ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy from work - how do we keep this professional?
Q. Hey, thanks for reading in advance! So I started seeing a guy from work, been on a few dates and its been nice, relationships at work are really frowned upon so we decided not to tell anyone. So here's my problem, well not a problem more...
A. 14 March 2013: Do I understand that you and he are at work together for about 12 hours each business day?
If "yes," then the answer is obvious... to wit: Do all the fooling around that you want, on your own time.... and behave in a professional manner all the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from looking for reasons why a girl might be playing games with me when we start to like each other? I'm ruining all of my potential relationships!
Q. I need some help with my annoying and ongoing problem, so here it is... Whenever me and a girl are getting close in person or online, I have a habit of pushing her away before things can develop any further and I could potentially get ...
A. 14 March 2013: Yes. I have some advice. Stop being a jerk and scuttling any potential relationships....
Does that help???
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He let my family and I believe for 3 years that his parents were dead!
Q. I'm not at all sure what to think about this, and would like some opinions. Here it goes: I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's been studying hard and is aiming for his masters, I support him fully and I know he does the same for me. We ...
A. 14 March 2013: I think you have a healthy suspicion about a guy who would - apparently - be DELIBERATELY evasive, or non-communicative, about his parents..... since "family" is usually something that a "couple" share about one-another.
What ELSE "isn't he telli... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? He tried to force himself on me, but I refused. Does he love me or is he just interested in sex?
Q. I'm 22 plus my boyfriend is 27plus we had been dating getting to 4 years now we both love each other but now I can't tell if he still loves me. Any time I pay him visit now he does things that I felt are not right for us. Now like touching my...
A. 14 March 2013: Don't worry..... if you and he have been "an item" for 4 years (!!!), and you are not putting out.... the "relationship" will immolate ALL BY ITSELF!!!!
Good luck with your next B/F........ (read in full...)
My wife is not responding sexually to me and her boss has been trying it on her.
Q. A little background. My wife and I have been together for over 8 years now and our relationship is a very good one! We do a lot together and have loads of fun together. Recently our sex life has dwindled down to once every 3 weeks to a month. It ...
A. 13 March 2013: You write: "I can’t tell if she is 100% faithful or not. "
I suggest that you NOT expect 100% until/unless you have less reason to believe that she is wandering....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My own GF won't give me a blowjob and I feel she's not really in to me.
Q. Hi, I know this is a touchy subject when it comes to women. I've read previous questions about this issue and I've witnessed how the female answerers pounce on the male poster as if he was asking something so vile and disgusting. Let me start b...
A. 12 March 2013: I think this submittal is about two people who really aren't "in concert" when it comes to intimate matters....
To complicate things..... you write: "I feel that if she was truly into me then she would at least try to please me the way I as..." ... (read in full...)
Due to get married in May but how can I trust my fiancé?
Q. Im going crazy. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my fiance for seven mostly great years. But the past few months, I have found out a few things. He was texting some girl he met at a job he was doing and called her beautiful. An...
A. 12 March 2013: One thing is for sure.... you don't marry him in May....
After seven years... how has it happened that the incidents that you've described took place??? Have you not seen similar behaviour from him in the past?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He and I are quite close. Do you think he's telling me he's leaving his wife?
Q. Married man at work rang my mobile whilst I was at work an he at home; I didn't know he had my number, He was very drunk and told me he needed to hear my voice and he missed me then told me he needed to tell me something. So I asked what? He sai...
A. 11 March 2013: Right... and it was important that he tell YOU first, about him and his wifey splitting up.... Doesn't that sound even a LITTLE BIT suspicious to you?????? AND, you and he will be/become "friends"... as you insist.... If every fling that start... (read in full...)
Why do I always want the ex that I don't have?
Q. Got a problem and i have no idea why i cant deal with it. So I've just got back with my ex(2), we broke up maybe a year ago but now i cant seem to get over the fact my most recent ex(1) is happy without me and i seem drawn to her again. Howeve...
A. 11 March 2013: You're a young man.... becoming a real ADULT man.... just like the rest of us.... As you continue in your quest and CONquest of manhood (evidenced by your recent behaviour).... you will probably find that it will be more appropriate to c... (read in full...)
He and I are quite close. Do you think he's telling me he's leaving his wife?
Q. Married man at work rang my mobile whilst I was at work an he at home; I didn't know he had my number, He was very drunk and told me he needed to hear my voice and he missed me then told me he needed to tell me something. So I asked what? He sai...
A. 11 March 2013: It's Monday. What happened?... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in dating a man who has had meaningless sex?
Q. Hi I have a question, basically it is this what are the chances of finding a man who has only had sex exclusively in relationships? I'm not keen on the idea of being with a man who had sex with people without emotions attached. I am also not keen ...
A. 11 March 2013: You write: "I have only ever had sex with people I am dating or in a relationship with. I am the OP btw."
So..... your question is strictly rhetorical, isn't it? ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for a man who is sexually "broken"?
Q. Ok. Here it goes. I'm 30 and have never been in any sort of relationship with a woman. I keep to myself mostly and don't really enjoy going out and doing much of anything. I've been feeling very lonely lately and it's been getting worse. It's ...
A. 11 March 2013: I think you've written a submittal about a guy who has convinced himself that he has - and never will have - a relationship with a girl.... so he's scuttled anything that MIGHT have happened.... LONG BEFORE IT'S EVER TAKEN PLACE....
Would you go t... (read in full...)
How can I trust that he will never hurt me again?
Q. Hi aunts, I have written about this man on a couple of occasions in the past 3 years and got very sound advise. I thought I'd try again. So, to make a loooong story short, I met him, I was not interested, gradually he won me over comletel...
A. 11 March 2013: As long as you continue to give him "passes" for his unacceptable behaviour, then you can expect to come back on this site.... time and time, again,... and repeat this question....
It will ONLY stop if/when you come to your senses and decide t... (read in full...)
How do I ignore the constant diet chatter I face every day?
Q. I need some advice on how to ignore the constant diet chat I seem to be faced with every day as it is not helping with my own issues surrounding food. Basically, until I was about 22 I had a healthy relationship with food and didn't really focus ...
A. 11 March 2013: I think you are giving "food" 'way too much concern in your life...... WHY are you doing so????
Eat what you want, when you want (when you're hungry), and don't agonize over food, your weight and what "others" say about food and diet....... (read in full...)
I need to break things over ASAP but don't know how to go about it?
Q. I went on a date with a guy and then got into a relationship with him, but I have since realised we are not suited/ I am not happy with this. I need to end it ASAP so as not to lead him on, but I need some advice on how. I'll give a bit of 'back st...
A. 11 March 2013: Take this guy to someplace very public... like a coffee shop (Starbucks or Barnes&Noble, or Dunkin Donuts).... and say to him: "Hunchy-bunchy, I don't think you and I are going to make it as an item.... so, YOU'RE DUMPED"....
Then, walk out the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives me orders not to do something but its ok if she does it?
Q. ive been living with my girlfriend and her 2 kids for over a year. we lived in part of town moved to another part when we moved she changed. i do the dishs my own laundry sweep and mop the kitchen/dinning room floor. the appartment owner has a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Please get to a local community college and learn how to write a decipherable sentence.... then come on this site and re-submit this ... so that those of us who are literate can understand what you are trying to say!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in dating a man who has had meaningless sex?
Q. Hi I have a question, basically it is this what are the chances of finding a man who has only had sex exclusively in relationships? I'm not keen on the idea of being with a man who had sex with people without emotions attached. I am also not keen ...
A. 10 March 2013: It would take you HOURS to read my entire treatise which justifies and validates us guys for our meaningless sex-capades...... so here's the "Reader's Digest" version:
Guys like to put their weenies someplace warm, soft and wet.... Women (all of ... (read in full...)
He and I are quite close. Do you think he's telling me he's leaving his wife?
Q. Married man at work rang my mobile whilst I was at work an he at home; I didn't know he had my number, He was very drunk and told me he needed to hear my voice and he missed me then told me he needed to tell me something. So I asked what? He sai...
A. 10 March 2013: You can keep your hopes up until you and he speak on Monday.... and then you will learn some few things from amongst these:
1. He gets drunk and does stupid things (Like, call you),
2. He is dumb enough to try to tempt you with some sort o... (read in full...)
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