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writes: I'm getting married in May. I'm having a bit of an issue. I told my bridesmaids they could pick out whatever shoe they wanted. One of my bridesmaids bought a shoe that is a size too big. I know you can stuff a shoe to make it fit correctly. However this particular shoe is a 4 inch heel with an open toe and open back. I'm a little concerned the back of the shoe will be noticeably big. The dress shows off the shoes. I'm just curious if anyone knows how obvious it is when a tall heel with open toes and open back is a size too big. It's a 12 if that helps. I don't really want to say anything to the bridesmaid unless I have too. If it isn't noticeable that's great. I'm just concerned she won't be able to walk down the aisle properly since they are heels. Also does anyone know how comfortable it'll be to wear this kind of shoe a size too big for five hours? I thought of going ahead and buying the bridesmaids flip-flops for the reception do you think I should do this. It's just another expense but with this situation I'm even more concerned her feet will be in pain by the end. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): Surely your bridemaid has tried the shoe and walked in it, to see if it fits. You are getting way too streesssed about trivia, she won't want to trip either, she knows if she can do it in heels for five hours.
TIP if you are worrying so much call a dress rehearsal and see for yourself.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 One shoe size up shouldn't make that much of a difference and I agree that this is her problem, not yours. You have enough to handle right now without, as SVC says, micromanaging others.
You could remind your bridesmaids to bring comfortable shoes for the reception, but beyond that I'd leave their footwear entirely up to them.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 I think that this is her problem, not yours. She knows her shoe size one would think. If she has a problem walking in them, then that's her problem. If her feet start to hurt after 5 hours, still her problem. She chose to get those shoes.
You're being very nice to think of her, but come on. You have tons of other things you need to think about and use your energy on, rather than babysit adults who are perfectly capable of walking bare-feet, or bring their own flip-flops, if the heels are too much.
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 I find it warming that you're looking out for her feet! Nobody want the embarrassment of tripping over at a wedding! Down the aisle :s My suggestion would be to get her smaller shoes. Open back are difficult to walk in if they are too big because they don't have much to hold on with to begin with and if they're big, they'll slip and become hard to walk in. Trust me, I have a lot of heels ;) haha xo hope your wedding goes beautifully and congratulations!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 Well if they are open toed and slip ons then one size bigger will not be noticeable. Why are you so micro managing adult women that you know what shoes they bought and did you ask why she got it a size too big?
In addition, while it's nice of you to worry about her feet hurting, it's really not something you have any control over.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 April 2013):
 I've heard of "Bridezillas"... and have friends (both men and women) who are OCD about their homes and automobiles.... and some who are "sanitary" obsessed..... AND, I thought I'd "seen it all"..... and, then, I read this.....
Are you SERIOUSLY so in need of something to fret about, that you have detected THIS minute detail to be your concern from now until your wedding????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): Mate, she bought the shoe so she has tried it on it obviously fits the right size was probably too small. Get over it and worry about the stag do.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 April 2013):
 I think the flip flop idea is great, but honestly SHE is the one who has to wear the too big shoes, so I really wouldn't worry about it. If she tried them on and can walk in them it's fine. But the added touch of flip flops is nice of you.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 Flip flops are always a nice idea, regardless of whether the shoes fit or not : ) you and your bridesmaids will appreciate having flat shoes to change into after a long day, even well fitting heels are eventually going to hurt after being on your feet all day so I'd go ahead and buy the flip flops anyway.Do you know why your bridesmaid bought shoes that are too big for her? Why didnt she buy shoes that fit? That seems pretty silly to me, after all we all know what size our feet are and its not hard to buy shoes that fit.From the sounds of things the style of shoe she has chosen cannot be stuffed to make them fit - so they will be very uncomfortable for her all day and they will be sliding around off her feet as she walks around. She is risking tripping and falling as well, because the shoes will be sliding around she wont be very balanced in them and may easily fall over. I'd talk to her if I were you, ask why she bought the wrong size and see if she can take them back and exchange them for the correct size. Tell her you dont mind what style of shoe she has, its just that you want her to be comfortable and dont want her to be in pain all day with badly fitting shoes.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 You should get her another pair of shoes. What's done is done. No-one should have to wear a shoe that is too big because it will be uncomfortable and she will not enjoy the wedding at all. That's my two cents worth. Adios
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