Please have dinner ready by 8:30 he asks me, but can't be bothered to let me know he'll be late?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to cook dinner for him and his brother after his soccer game. Please have it ready by 8:30 he said. So off he goes. I had to race home from errands to have it done by then. 9 pm comes along and he finally calls to ...
A. 4 June 2013: I note that you added an "addendum" to your original submittal.... and it changes my reply in this manner:
Tardiness is IMPOLITE. For someone to be late, once or twice, it's OK to give them a "pass"...... For repeat/frequent tardines... (read in full...)
My ex is sleeping with my coworker! How do I get him to go away?
Q. So long story short my ex boyfriend broke up with me . He left me for some other girl but he keeps co,ing to my job first with his new girlfriend and then he's dating another girl who works at my job from another department. Idk why he keeps coming ...
A. 4 June 2013: Remember; The opposite of LOVE is not "hate".... it's "indifference"......
As long as you are spending/wasting your time and mental energy on this guy (and it's probably obvious, to him), then he knows he "has you".... (thinking about him)... ... (read in full...)
Why on earth did I feel the need for an affair? And will the stupidity fade over time?
Q. Hi. Feeling pretty stupid really. I'm married and have been for 21 years. We've had our ups and downs but seem relatively happy. Earlier this year we had some work down at our house. The guy doing the work seemed nice and was very professiona...
A. 4 June 2013: You write: "....is it common for men to do this sort of thing? Playing games just seems weird to me..."
Yes... we men do this all the time. We think that you (all) women are sitting about just waiting to be our next sexual conquest... (read in full...)
So how do I get him to be more responsible on stuff that matters?
Q. His loving and a friend and his my boyfriend. His good with words and reassurances and anything very trivial he will willingly do.... He will call 5 times a day..Ask how am doing when he gets good money, he will spoil me... He will be great ...
A. 4 June 2013: From your description, it's easy to see that this man is self-centered and spoiled.....
YOU can endure his behaviour, OR you can sit him down and tell him that he will HAVE TO face his life's responsibilities some day... either whilest he is with ... (read in full...)
My husband is a great dad except for his yelling!
Q. My husband is a great dad but if he has to ask my son and daughter to do somethng--ie clean up their rooms or take a shower more than twice, he starts yelling at them. My son is 10 and is really affected by that. he just starts crying and has told ...
A. 4 June 2013: Only HE can agree to - and DO - change his behaviour......
All YOU can "do" is remind him that it is unpleasant and stressful for him (and the kids) when he "communicates" in that manner.....
One thing you might try, with him, is to tell him t... (read in full...)
I'm so frustrated and angry with him and myself for letting me waste my time, energy and heart on someone who is not going to reciprocate. How do I let go of these feelings/
Q. I'm broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 6 weeks ago. Last weekend I saw him again and things got emotional and we ended up sleeping together. I told him that I still loved him and would like to go to counseling to work things out, and see if ...
A. 4 June 2013: Let's look at just the last bit of your submittal:
"I keep going over and over things in my head, the things I could have done different to make it work, and how psycho I became towards the end of the relationship because it wasn't working ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 6 years has been sexting a married woman!
Q. I have been with my bf for 6 years. I have found out he's sexting a married woman. He did some work at her house a couple of months ago and a short while after he started messaging her. She responded and they seemed intimate. He texted intimate ...
A. 4 June 2013: He's cheating on you pretty flagrantly. How much - and for how long - do you intend to put up with it? THAT is the ONLY real question in your submittal...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do some guys not like well-educated girls?
Q. I'm currently at quite a good university studying a rigorous subject, and as I don't know any guys from my uni I'd really like to go out with I've started dating those from outside uni. I don't make a big deal out of my education, or like to argue...
A. 4 June 2013: P.S. I have problems with "smart" girls because they are able to see right through me!!!!!... (read in full...)
Do some guys not like well-educated girls?
Q. I'm currently at quite a good university studying a rigorous subject, and as I don't know any guys from my uni I'd really like to go out with I've started dating those from outside uni. I don't make a big deal out of my education, or like to argue...
A. 4 June 2013: I think this is the key phrase in your submittal: "...I don't feel I could have a relationship with someone who didn't follow my religion...."
The simple "answer" is to find someone who claims to be of your religion... and who interprets and prac... (read in full...)
How can he just move on? How do I stop being jealous of how happy he is?
Q. I used to be a serial dater, one serious relationship right after the next. And after a breakup that took me almost a year to recover from, I realized I needed time to myself, to evaluate and just really take care of myself. To learn and work on my ...
A. 4 June 2013: I believe there's a "typo" error in your submittal. You claim to be describing what's gone on between you and a guy who you noted as "I'm 26, he's 30.".... but the guy you've described acts like a 13-year old.... Is that the issue?
You can do l... (read in full...)
I'm in panic mode and wondering what I can do to turn this around!
Q. I am in panic mode, I met a man on line whom I love greatly. We have been spending each weekend together, he has spent time with my son and myself and I have met his family, but unfortunately I keep having insecurity issues because he is a huge ...
A. 4 June 2013: I think that this is the key phrase in your submittal:
"..He says that he isnt interested in anyone else but me, but....." It was OK until you got to the "but"... because therein is the key to your "problem".... which (problem) is that you have... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives excuses not to have sex and I'm running out of ideas!
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together for three years and I can honestly say that we are in love. However in the recent few months our relationship has changed... We have stopped having sex.. My girlfriend no longer wishes to have sex with me. ...
A. 3 June 2013: THIS is the most important phrase in your submittal: "...Now I understand sex isn't everything in a relationship but it's a big part of one...."
I've opined about this occasionally, in the past,... because I think that we (couples... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my boss who is still very much married. I'm lost!
Q. Pregnant, depressed, alone, and ruined my own life... guess it will be two lives ruined soon. I was dating a guy going through a divorce, he was funny, charming, passionate, I adored being around him. He was also my boss. That was a weird factor. I ...
A. 3 June 2013: You've got good advice from anon and chigirl... so let that be your "guide"....
Meanwhile, please remember that "life" can last a long time.... and this (incident) will prove transient, and you will have lots and lots of good times in the future..... (read in full...)
Is it rude to ask someone about a scar?
Q. Is it rude to ask about a scar? I've had a tummy tuck and lost 20ilbs. after. I am happy with my physique now and enjoy wearing bikinis. I had a friend ask me the other day about a 1inch scar from the surgery. I just mentioned I had ...
A. 3 June 2013: Next time someone asks you that question, look them straight in the eye and say, "I'm very proud of that scar. See, I am in a motorcycle gang and I got that in a knife fight. You should have SEEN how cobbled up the other girl was!!!!!"
That ... (read in full...)
I had sex with one person, but I think I want to wait until I'm married now.
Q. My original plan that I had for myself my whole life was to wait until I was married to have sex (not for religious reasons, I'm just traditional). I'll try to make a long story short: last year I met a guy and fell in love quick. I thought we had ...
A. 3 June 2013: This is YOUR question.... so ONLY YOU can answer it!!!!
IF you feel that you want to wait until you're married before you enjoy intimacies - despite this unpleasant experience that you've included, herein - then, do so....
It's of no importance... (read in full...)
Is dating him worth the challenge?
Q. I'm getting to know this guy, and we are getting along well. I like the fact that he is mature and romantic. But I feel that maybe things might not work out, since he is a divirced dad that has full custody of his 3 year old and I'm 19 and he is 28. ...
A. 3 June 2013: It certainly has the potential to be a problem.... BUT, needn't be fatal to a relationship. You and he will have to decide that.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
The first guy knew the other guy. Did I do the right thing by telling the truth?
Q. So I went out with this guy on a date, and go figure one of co-workers and I slept together, before even started talking with the guy I went on the date on. He asked me if I knew him since he had seen we were friends on facebook and I told him the ...
A. 2 June 2013: So, in summary... you put out for one guy.... and another guy who knows the guy you put out for.... you went on a date with him.... and you're concerned that they will compare notes?????? Is that it????
Simple solution: Stay away from either/b... (read in full...)
She never told me she was married, and she's destroyed my life
Q. I have been Dateing a women for about two years who I met on line she never told me she was married and she even set a date for us to be married and now I found out she is married still liveing with her husband, she has been lieing to me for the ...
A. 1 June 2013: Some of life's lessons can be pretty expensive, upsetting of one's life.... and REALLY SUCK. It sounds like this is your "expensive, upsetting and sucky" lesson.
Put it behind you and never look back.... (and DON'T repeat it!!!!!).....
Good lu... (read in full...)
Intimacy issues with my girlfriend! Help!
Q. Me and my girfriend, we recently moved on to the physical phase in our relationship. She's a virgin and wanted to go things slowly so we took things very slowly. Didn't even undo both our pants for weeks. After that we slowly moved down. I love her ...
A. 1 June 2013: P.S. As for "phases".... I can't BEGIN to count how many of my "relationships" have gone directly from the "Thanks for dinner" phase to the "Don't EVER contact me, again, you creep" phase!!!!!... (read in full...)
I have that constant feeling in my gut telling me "He's not the one"!
Q. Hello, I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, we are in a long distance relationship. I've noticed that lately he's getting very distant, he'd rather spend his time playing video games with his friends, we can go for days without talking ...
A. 1 June 2013: Have you and this character ever actually "met" in-the-flesh??????
If not... then you are banking a lot of emotions and feelings on a guy who you have NO REASON to believe that he is actually who he SEZ he is.....
"Long distance" and "c... (read in full...)
Intimacy issues with my girlfriend! Help!
Q. Me and my girfriend, we recently moved on to the physical phase in our relationship. She's a virgin and wanted to go things slowly so we took things very slowly. Didn't even undo both our pants for weeks. After that we slowly moved down. I love her ...
A. 1 June 2013: I swear... if my G/F cried every time I performed oral for her..... she would have died from DEHYDRATION long ago!!!!
Some girls are just uber-sensitive..... Be attentive to her, and who KNOWS just how far - and for how long - you and she will... (read in full...)
He cares less and less although he used to want to spend time with me!
Q. my boyfriend keeps staying out all night and its really upsetting me. I told him he needed to let me in after work as I didn't have a key and left me waiting on the doorstep and never showed up. I rang and text with no luck. This morning he text ...
A. 1 June 2013: What the heck kind of a "relationship" are you IN?????
You "live" somewhere..... but don't have a key to the door for entry?????? HUH??????
Please elaborate...... and give us the details..... so that we can tell you - definitively - t... (read in full...)
Are guys really that lazy? He's so random about texting!
Q. I am really confused with this guy. I've known him for about 2 months. I don't know whether we are dating or not. We went out for about 4 dates. We kissed on our last date and did a little bit more (neck kissing, boobs groping) but we didn't go all ...
A. 1 June 2013: We're not necessarily lazy.. What we are is DUMB!!!!
WE think that you girls are falling all over yourselves to get to spend time with (AND, provide s*x for) us!!!! AND, thereby, we can communicate with you if and when we wish... and not at other... (read in full...)
"He wishes he has met me when he was older?" What do his words mean? Is it a bad thing that he said this?
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for some clarification or an opinion on something my boyfriend said to me. We have been together for over 3 years now, and we had a conversation a few nights ago where he said that "You're the forever girl, you're the one wher...
A. 1 June 2013: Sometimes, we guys will say the GOOFIEST - and shallowest - things when we are trying to sound "deep." This is that sort of thing......
Ask him what the **** he means.... but don't cut him any slack if he offers a rambling, disjointed - and not ... (read in full...)
His ex keeps in touch. Should I be worried that my Bf sends texts to his ex sometimes?
Q. I saw a simple "hi, just dropping you a text to see how you're keeping" text on my boyfriends phone. We had been talking previously the day before about knowing phone numbers by heart and he mentioned a couple of his exes in his list! There's one ...
A. 1 June 2013: I suggest that you leave "normal/not-normal" out of the question.... and simply recognize that we guys routinely keep our ex's on the hook in consideration that we might approach them to get them to put out for us, sometime in the future.....
... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him prove that I love him? I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I just had a new boyfriend ane he want me to have sex with him to prove that i love him,i told him that i am a virgin but i am not,i dont want to lose him,what can i do?...
A. 1 June 2013: P.P.S. "Losing him" sounds like the better deal, here!!!!!... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him prove that I love him? I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I just had a new boyfriend ane he want me to have sex with him to prove that i love him,i told him that i am a virgin but i am not,i dont want to lose him,what can i do?...
A. 1 June 2013: That old "...prove that you love me by putting out for me..." line is SO threadbare, dog-eared and worn out that only the youngest, and most naive, women are ever falling for it, any more....
YOU sound like you've "caught on" to it, as well. N... (read in full...)
Fiance walked out on me while pregnant, I found out he's living with his ex. He wants me back but I can't get over the hurt!
Q. he walked away without a word and left town when I was pregnant. two days later said he left to give me space. I was hurt so I didn't allow him to come right back. then I had the baby he said he was so sorry about hurting me the way he did by ...
A. 30 May 2013: This "man" sounds much more like a child.
You'll be much happier if you keep him OUT of your life...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My former teacher always knew how I felt about him. He knew I always loved him, so why he reacted like this when I admitted it?
Q. Dear readers, I simply need help and advice. I have been some stupid school girl and fell for a married teacher. I don't even know how to put into words and I don't know whose fault. But what happened has happened. This teacher didn'...
A. 29 May 2013: There are handful of articles available, on this site, about teacher/student goings-on. They NEVER end well.... as you are learning.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want to hurt my husband with words the way that he hurts me!
Q. My husband always says harsh words to me which make me feel worthless and they stay in my mind for a long time. He says words which belittle me and make me feel worthless. Anytime I give an opinion or request he jus turns it down so harshly. When he ...
A. 29 May 2013: You and he can take to beating up on one-another until there's nothing left of either of you..... OR...
ONE of you (I suggest, you!), can say: "This isn't going anywhere. I'm going to simply disappear from this jerk's life, and make a life - a... (read in full...)
We all had plans to do stuff this summer, and now I'm not going to be invited to any of it. I'm really sad and feel lonely now. What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid, I had a falling out with the main person in my friend group I guess you can say. It was just a little argument over something really silly, something I didn't even do, but I apologized and he still won't speak to me. Well since the...
A. 29 May 2013: Sometimes, you just have to swallow hard, shrug your shoulders and say (to yourself): "Well... I guess that bunch isn't interested in having me around.... so I'll just go out and do things by myself, or find another group of people who I like, and ... (read in full...)
My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?
Q. whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...
A. 29 May 2013: There's normal.... and then there's "normal".....
It's almost difficult to NOT look at women.... WHAT is a guy to do????? Turn his eyes to the floor whenever a woman comes in to his purview??????
HOWEVER..... there's no reason for a guy to OGL... (read in full...)
Can a man who lies to me about everything be a keeper? Should I carry on with him or what?
Q. Dear cupid.It was a LDR but we are livin together now in Gauteng,6months now but we've been in this for 4 years nw. My problem is that-I visited him so many times at his province of residence,he introduced me to his family BUT he lied abt his mom ...
A. 29 May 2013: All the lying and drama...... WHY would you bother even thinking about this creep?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
After a fight and make up, girlfriend says no sex. We are going on a holiday and no sex???
Q. Hi AA's This question is long winded so apologies. Ive been going out with a girl for 4 years now, in reality she is very insecure but also has to have her own way as she believes what she wants is the right thing and dosnt see outside the bo...
A. 27 May 2013: If she had said to you, "let's go on this holiday, but, I don't want you brushing your teeth while we are (on holiday)...." ... or, ".. I don't want you to eat lunches..." ... " or, take baths...." Would you consider those to be an outlandish ... (read in full...)
Herpes. How do I tell my volatire partner? Should I avoid a big fight and not tell, or take a risk??? please help!!
Q. Hello everyone, Im a 28 yr old female. I just took standard blood work because im in the health field and a routine gyn pap, every thing came out normal. I got a letter about about my bloodwork. I called the office and found out I have Herp...
A. 27 May 2013: I think two things are necessary:
1. Have a re-check (another) of your blood work to confirm the Herpes diagnosis..... It's not unheard-of that a sample gets mishandled, misplaced... whatever ... and whatever is claimed proves not to be so...... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my husband's need for sex when my sex drive is low due to pregnancy. Any advice?
Q. I'm so stressed out at the moment me and my husband split in November last year I had a couple of one night stands and ended up pregnant. Time has gone on and my husband wants to try again I have decided as I am almost 7 months pregnant I want to ...
A. 27 May 2013: WHAT are you thinking???????
First, this guy became your "ex" last November... and NOW he wants to rush, headlong, in to a SEXUAL relationship with you.... despite that YOU are pregnant, and your libido is - understandably - diminish... (read in full...)
My ex's gf is driving a wedge between my kids and their dad. How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid Im writing this through rage and tears... Me and my ex broke up 3 years ago, we have two amazing children together, He has moved on and has a child with another girl, their relationship is rocky most of the time, My ex has a bad Alc...
A. 27 May 2013: You write:"... but really shes the one driving a wedge between them and their dad, but i cant say anything... I really want to confront her but she wont talk to me its pathetic, any advice on what i should do?? "
I suggest you STOP at: "... but... (read in full...)
We've been together for 8 years, passion is wearing thin and I miss romance. Please advise?
Q. So I am really confused and desperate for answers. I have been with my partner for 8 years. I am 24 and he is 27. We are engaged to be married. Obviously we are very young but this is not unusual where we are from. We moved from home and emigrat...
A. 27 May 2013: Here's your "key" sentence: "I have spoken to him numerous times but nothing changes...."
AND, it ain't NEVER going to change.... He's got you - in the fashion, manner and where he wants you.... so he's shown you just who he REALLY is...
... (read in full...)
My gf is never interested in sex and I am starting to miss my ex. How should I deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend seems to never be interested in sex. We've been together for eight months now and only had sex TWICE, two months ago. It's getting to the point where I can't handle the frustration anymore. I take her out, I buy her gifts, flowers, ...
A. 27 May 2013: Howizzit???? ..... that you've spent as long as 8 months with this woman??????? Did you never get to the third date??????
good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is attending a wedding, his ex will be there and it's also my birthday. How should I read his request that I not attend the wedding?
Q. Hi, I am confused about what to do and how to feel... My boyfriend will attend the wedding of a high school classmate. They are not close friends. They haven't seen each other for 2 years. He invited him to his wedding 3 weeks before the weddi...
A. 26 May 2013: OP: IF you choose not to agree with me... and IF you choose to give your "B/F" a pass for this boorish behaviour... THEN don't be surprised if, in a short time (just after the wedding), you are on here saying "Oh, boo-hoo, I just had a horrible ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract older men? Is it a vibe I'm giving off?
Q. Why do I attract older guys, in relationships? Is there a certain vibe I give off or is there a certain look I have that attracts men to cheat? I'm not saying I'm looking for a commitment from anyone. In reality, I don't want a relationship at all ...
A. 25 May 2013: I would guess that the key to your question is, that you spend time in places where such "older" men are typically found... AND - regardless of where you are... that you make eye contact with older men, moreso than you do with men your age and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is attending a wedding, his ex will be there and it's also my birthday. How should I read his request that I not attend the wedding?
Q. Hi, I am confused about what to do and how to feel... My boyfriend will attend the wedding of a high school classmate. They are not close friends. They haven't seen each other for 2 years. He invited him to his wedding 3 weeks before the weddi...
A. 25 May 2013: One needn't dig very deep to "see" what your "B/F" really has going on... and how it affects YOU. To wit:
This wedding is a chance to get away from YOU, and have a good-old-time with his old school chums... Too bad for you.
That it's you... (read in full...)
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