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writes:i asked my husband, does he think i am beautiful? He said he didn't know.He never looks at me that way. When i asked him what he likes about me, he said he doesn't know. What do this mean or what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (21 April 2013):
 HI
I think you know what you should do deep down, and that is leave him!
Normally I would advice to patch up a marriage, and work on the issues. BUT your husband sounds like a complete and utter p**s taker.
why continue with this man? it's obvious from what you are saying he don't love you, respect you, care about you. Infact he is not even thinking about you, his probally having affairs and all sorts behind your back and your allowing him to treat you this way.
If you put a dress on that don't fit properly would you go out wearing it?? NO is the answer, so why stay with a man that don't fit into your heart? get out of this loveless marriage, and get some confidence back. He is useing you to be his house slave not a wife.
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank for the responses! i asks him these questions, because he always say mean thing to me. every time i try to talk about that interesting to me, or trying joke around with him. he say he don't care about that stuff or he say something you funny you just being stupid. and i didn't have to ask these question before because he was good to me. i just don't understand why he can't talk or laugh with me but he always on the phone with one of his female friends laughing, talking giving them advice on thing that interesting them also going over their house playing with there kids and enjoy there company,why not me. and no he don't talk to me its more like at me.and no he don't cuddles or take me out. i feel so lonely and unhappy. i know don't if its something i did wrong. what can i do to fit my marriage? or maybe its my weight, because the girls he talk to on the phone or on Facebook are smaller or better shape then me.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 April 2013):
 After I read your submittal, I am totally confused as to WHY he didn't "answer" your questions thusly:
1. "I think you are the most beautiful girl in the world." and,
2. "I like EVERYTHING about you... and, each day, I love you MORE and MORE..."
Anything other than that "tells" you that your man doesn't have the foggiest idea what life is all about....
Good luck....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 April 2013):
 Were you a mail order bride or something? Why didn''t you ask him these questions BEFORE you married him?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (20 April 2013):
HI
If your Husband say's he doesn't know if your beautiful or what he likes about you, then I suggest you tell him there is no point in this marriage.
What kind of husband would be that cold about their wife?
none that I know, only the type who are no longer attracted to their wife and want out. So rather than just end the marriage he will emotionally screw with your head.
get out of this loveless marriage and meet a man who will truly value you and respect you enough to tell you WHY he thinks your beautiful and how YOU make him feel from the very day he met you. THAT'S THE KIND OF HUSBAND YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE!!
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2013): You should ask him what it means OP. From where I'm sitting it doesn't sound good but he could have been having a bad day, may have been medicated or maybe you just ask these questions too much and it's gotten old now.
What you should do is ask him more important questions. Like do you love me or are in love with me, are you happy in this marriage. How is it that you don't look at your own wife in terms of how beautiful she is to you?
It won't do you any good for us to speculate here OP because based on the tiny bit you have written here it looks very bad, it would be best if we didn't put ideas into your head because you really need to sit down and have a long meaningful conversation about your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2013):
He may just feel embarrassed or doesn't know how to put into words how he feels .. Does he make you feel special . As in giving you cuddles ? Talking to you ? Spending time with you ?
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