How do I approach my girlfriend about losing weight?
Q. In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wh...
A. 30 March 2013: In my opinion, a guy can't "do" a darn thing to change the attitude and activities of a woman who is balooning in size, (and) who is griping about herself, and acknowledging that she is becoming less appealing because of that....
Soooo, reconcil... (read in full...)
How should we handle this rude and nosy neighbour?
Q. Can anyone please off me any advice on how to deal with my competitive and rude neighbour? Basically my husband and i moved to our house about 2 years ago and we get on with all our neighbours but we have 1 particular neighbour who is very ...
A. 30 March 2013: WHY would you want to interact with jerks, such as the neighbors that you've described????... ... (read in full...)
Dilemma--ex girlfriend pregnant wants me back but I'm dating someone else now
Q. Well, in late nov I met this rlly cute gurl n we really hit it off and we had sex for first weekend and we had sex again a week later n she told she took birth control. And she had her period in the same week. And then she blew me off n hurt me n we ...
A. 29 March 2013: Really, Brent.... at "30-35" you are no longer in the elementary school yard.... loving one girl at recess, one day, and another, the next......
Please reconstruct yourself as an ADULT and reconsider what are your choices..... ARE YOU the "man" wh... (read in full...)
I want a FWB relationship that is exclusive with him
Q. I have a friends with 'some' benefits type of relationship going with a very hot n sexy guy. He's the hottest guy I've ever laid eyes on, and he makes me wanna just be free and not hold back in any way, or I might regret it. However, becau...
A. 29 March 2013: So.... he's quite the male-whore, and YOU want something that's exclusive.... sounds like total incompatibility to me...... I suggest you look elsewhere to find a (an exclusive) guy to take care of that itch that you have between your knees....
... (read in full...)
Why can't I have sex?
Q. I have tried to have sex with my women two times this week and my penis has not worked well at all. Even with her giving me head ....I don’t know what to do. I only 32 and this has never happened before! What is wrong? ...
A. 29 March 2013: Go to, and ask this question of, your urologist.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why does everyone like this girl and want to be with her?
Q. Dear cupid, there is this girl who I know of and I'm quite worried about her and concerned for my friends, but I don't know if I should stay out of it or start doing something about this. Basically, she is going around and fooling around a...
A. 29 March 2013: If your contentions are correct.... then this girl has become the whore for all of your gang.... It's up to her (and your gang) to decide if they're happy with that arrangement.....
HOWEVER, consider that she may, also, have chosen to be the w... (read in full...)
Am I in a genuine relationship or what is this?
Q. Does my boyfriend really love me? My relationship with my bf is already 4 years.We met in internet dating and been dating 1 year before we met personally.His been living with me for 3 years.I have a son from my first relationship.My problem is,from ...
A. 27 March 2013: You've asked: "Does my boyfriend really love me?".... and then gone in to a submittal about a man who shares the same address as you, and - beyond that - ignores you, and lives his life on his terms.
THAT, dear OP, is NOT love... that's indiffer... (read in full...)
Is My Ex worth taking back
Q. Hi is this man worth giving another chance? I miscarried beginning of february i was gutted the next day my boyfriend started arguing with me then 4 days later he split up with me i really loved him but he hurt me so much what should i do any ...
A. 27 March 2013: There's nothing like misfortune to bring out the best (or WORST!) in a person....
You write: "...the next day my boyfriend started arguing with me then 4 days later he split up with me...."
WHAT does that "tell" you about this guy? I'm r... (read in full...)
Cant seem to get the right guy to ask me out?
Q. I'm 21 and considered very attractive and nice but I can't seem to get the kind of boyfriend I would like. If I am out at a club, a party or whatever, the only kind of guys that hit on me are the really outgoing, overly confident ones or the really ...
A. 27 March 2013: IF clubbing and partying are the only venues at which you are looking for guys.... AND if the only guys you are encountering there are those who you describe... who seem to be at the ends of the spectrum of the traits you would like to find.... ... (read in full...)
Mother, Baby, BF and financial Woes
Q. Been seeing a guy from work for past 3 months, everything's going lovely, he is 54 and I'm 22! Yeah big age gap I know, I have a one year old but he's completely fine with that my issue is my mum, I currently live with her as she looks after my baby ...
A. 27 March 2013: Before giving any advice..... I need to learn just why your Mother doesn't like your man. Reply?... (read in full...)
My wife is interested in a non-intercourse foursome with our best friends!
Q. My wife and I have been happily married for 4 years. No real fights everything is great. We have two beautiful girls together. In the past year and a half we have become extremely good friends with another married couple. My wife and the woman ...
A. 26 March 2013: My S/O and I have foursomes with friends of ours all the time. We call it "playing Bridge...."
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Help! I want to break it off but it doesn't work!
Q. dear cupid, i need help. ive been in an on and off again relationship with this man that tells me that he does love and honor me. i do see some truth in that but as our relationship went on he became controlling and very insecure. the w...
A. 26 March 2013: You stop calling him... stop emailing him.... don't go to places where you might encounter him..... DON'T answer calls that come from his phone.... DON'T reply to any electronic communcations that come from him....
Really, how hard can this be?... (read in full...)
Can a man tell me what a lady needs to do for some steamy sex from her husband?
Q. I need direct, honest answers, preferably from men. I love my husband and don't plan to cheat or divorce. I find him extremely attractive and he shows me love via copious amounts of affection and support. Our sex life on the other hand, i...
A. 26 March 2013: From what you've described... you simply MUST reconcile to yourself (and hubby) whether or not you and he have a sexual mis-match. IF you do... and IF neither of you will budge (make changes in the sexual part of your marriage/relationship)... then ... (read in full...)
Working on things with my Ex but she goes round to another guys house
Q. Ok here goes... Im not going to just show one side of the story here because this is all my fault... I split up with my girlfriend of 3 years in december 2012 because i thought i didnt love her anymore. I started hanging around with another gir...
A. 26 March 2013: SURE they're "just friends"....
AND, it don't rain in Indianapolis in the Summer time...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Does the depth of a woman reveal if she was sleeping with another person?
Q. I have been having sex with my lady friend for over 15 years and I used to be able to hit the back wall of her vagina because she used to say it hurt when I went to deep we had broken up for a little while she said that she did not sleep with nobody ...
A. 26 March 2013: I LOVE questions like this.... because they prove - again, and beyond a reasonable doubt - that we guys are OBSESSED with our penises..... AND we believe that intercourse is all about us.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it too much to expect that he at least acknowledge the gift?
Q. Dear Cupid I bought a really expensive gift for my bf and sent it to him. He received his gift today and i called him to check whether he liked it or not, even sent him a message. No response for anything. I called again and he yelled at me...
A. 26 March 2013: WHY would you spend even another MINUTE thinking about/ asking about/ or posting about this total A$$?????
It's OK for you to break off with him... now that you know that he is an unrequited jerk....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
We've been friends all our lives, so why the sudden hatred? He is ignoring me and has even deleted me from Facebook....
Q. So a guy I know since childhood has come to my life and started texting me daily, we were always platonic friends or shall I say neighbors, we live in 2 different countries so we texted for 3 months and clashed twice due to his insistance on going ...
A. 26 March 2013: IN the same manner that it is difficult to clap using only one hand... it is difficult/impossible for ONE person (out of two) to have a relationship....
Let this thing go..... and get on with your life....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does he really love me at all? I think I should break up with him because he is not the same person anymore...
Q. I'm 22yrs and my guy is 26 plus we've been dating getting to 4 years, we both love each other very much, he calls, pays me visit at my place of work, he treat me well each time i pay him visit. each time i log in my facebook now if he is online he ...
A. 26 March 2013: I think the behaviour of your "boyfriend" sounds very suspicious.... enough so that I would suggest that you discontinue seeing him.....
Urgency ... all the time????? "Sounds" to me like he keeps you on the line to fill in when he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore my judgemental family until they learn how to deal with my choices?
Q. I am a decent girl. 19 years old, never skipped a day of school, never had a grade bellow B-, never drank, smoked nor did drugs, rarely go out partying. Of course, I'm a teenager girl AND a college student, so sometimes (mainly in Summer) I spend ...
A. 26 March 2013: It's quite a "Catch-22" that you "sound" like a great daughter.... smart and responsible.... and/but your "family" chooses to give you feedback/advice/comments about your activities, which comments would be more appropriate if you were a ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly announced that she doesn't love me and wants a divorce! How can I get over the heartbreak?
Q. I have been with my wife for 11 years and married for 6. We have 3 children together! A week ago she said that she has no feelings for me in fact she hates me, and she has not loved me for the last 5 years! She wants a divorce! I have always stayed ...
A. 26 March 2013: Here's a "light at the end of the tunnel..."
The opposite of "love" is NOT "hate"..... it's indifference or ambivalence..... Your wife is only telling you that she is going through a phase wherein she is confused about who she is and what she... (read in full...)
Can you have sex without feelings?
Q. I am super confused, please help me figure this one out! If a guy said he never had relationships with a girl, he only used her for sex, how in the name of everything that's good can it carry on for 2-3 months and no feelings whatsoever developed? ...
A. 25 March 2013: What you are overlooking is that the male of this species is TOTALLY driven/motivated by the pleasure of his penis.
Because women don't have one.... they are unable to understand just how outlandish men will be in the pursuit of dipping their we... (read in full...)
What's the difference between your "one true love" and your "first love"? Does everyone have a "one true love"?
Q. Everyone talks about their one true love and things like that, so is it common that most people? Will most people have a true love and a first love? What's the difference? Is it like (not the best simile I know) your first car say? You reme...
A. 24 March 2013: A person can have ONLY ONE "first love".... All the rest must reconcile that they are "later" loves.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 24 March 2013: I have had oodles of girls who have overlooked my physique.... and noticed that I can LICK MY EYEBROWS... and are so taken with me that they will buy me dinner as long as I will consent to go home with them, afterwards!!!!!! Good luck... Sign ... (read in full...)
Married man was flirting with me but now he tries to ignore me. Why?
Q. Hi everyone. Please don't judge because of what I am going to tell you. I have been flirting with an older married man and he has been flirting back. Long eye contact, a lot of smiling back and forth and all kinds of other things. He is alw...
A. 24 March 2013: He pulled back because he came to his senses, and realizes that his WIFE is going to take him to the cleaners if he's stupid enough to actually take you to bed and make out with you..... AND, thereby, he is going to be left destitute.... with ... (read in full...)
I have no experience -- help me read the signs that might tell me she wants me to make a move
Q. hi, i have met this girl through a mate and we are kind of getting with each other privately just to see how it goes, we allways get off with each other, snog and stuff, but i would like some advice on taking it further... im still a virgin so ...
A. 24 March 2013: I've alwayst taken it as a "sign" that a girl wants to go a little further, if she ties rope around her wrists, ties those cords to the bed-posts and lays out, naked, and says to me, "You know, stud-boy, I think that I have something that YOU ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend grounded. Guardian won't let me visit him or hang out with friends.
Q. Hey everybody I'm really sick and tired of my so called guardian... She makes my life a living hell, I'm 17 Turing 18 in 3 months and my boyfriend is 16 turning 17... She doesn't let me do nothing, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 ...
A. 24 March 2013: I think you should wait about 3 months for this cloud to pass overhead... then see if this submittal makes any sense....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Can making a song help me get over my crush on my teacher?
Q. i have a huge crush my my science teacher mr m..... and i think i need to get over it. i have to sing in every assembly and mybe i should sing a song like "what i go to school for" or "i have a crush on my teacher" what do you think? would singing ...
A. 23 March 2013: You can write and sing your song if you want. May I suggest a title for your song?....
"We shared 15 minutes of lovin'; now he's doin' 15 to 20..."
Please drop your idea... it is bound to be explosive....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I am a fem dom. Can I convince my man to be my sub?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a very attactive and girly girl feminine woman. I appreciate the beauty of a woman but am not sexually attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men but I will not allow a man to have intercourse with me in a traditional ...
A. 23 March 2013: I think you put the subject "on the table" for discussion... and, if your man is OK with it, you (and he) go for it.....
IF he isn't interested... then you (and he) will know - then and there - and can decide if you have a basis for continui... (read in full...)
How early is too early in a relationship for the following?
Q. How early is too early in a relationship for the following? 1. Love bites 2. Ear kisses 3. Being topless together 4. Boob/nipple kisses 5. Being in underwear together 6. Being in bed in underwear together 7. Having a shower together 8. Bein...
A. 23 March 2013: Most of us guys would expect to get through that list (to the prize at the bottom, No 11).... by the THIRD date.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want to end this affair with a married man feeling strong and independent. How do I do this?
Q. Basically I have been having an affair with a married man for almost a year now, Despite being pretty attached by now i've finally found the strength to accept that things are never going to happen with us and want to re-gain my self-respect and end ...
A. 23 March 2013: Here's what you do. Go to your mirror and look at the reflection there, and say to it (the reflection): "Well, girl, thank God that you didn't do something so stupid as to get knocked up by this cad. NOW, get on with Sageoldguy's advice...."
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What should I do about my fiance lying about porn?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started dated we made it very clear what we expect from each other. Together we made the commitment to be a christian couple and live that kind of life. I just had a baby with him and he asked me to marry him, i said yes, ...
A. 23 March 2013: What you need to do is be HONEST with yourself.....
1. "Christian" couples do NOT have children, THEN decide that they might want to marry...... You are being hypocritical about your (and B/F's) "Christianity"...
2. That detail de-bunked... (read in full...)
I love her but I'm emotionally drained, am I wasting my time? Should I put some distance between us?
Q. I'm dating a woman 16year younger than me. We get along most of the time but our bad times are or feel extreme. I have trust issues with her due to her deleting texts after snding and having multiple numbers under a contact e.g. she has my number ...
A. 22 March 2013: Here's your answer... right in your own sentence: "...Am i wasting my time although i love her?...."
Yes, you're wasting your time. The remainder of that sentence is of no import....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Should I call off my engagement? He is possesive but my family need his money....
Q. Hello all, I would really be grateful if anyone can guide me through this problem I'm facing. Iv met my current fiance 1 year ago, we've started talking and we directly clicked, he's a really really well off business man who is much older than me,...
A. 22 March 2013: I've read through your submittal several times... and can't seem to find any difference between the "life" that you describe with this man, and a long-term contract for a prostitute......
You and he sound like two people whose peculiar... (read in full...)
Advice for dating a younger man?
Q. I have the opportunity to date a 26 year old man. The problem is that I'm 41. I've never dated anyone that young before. He is hot, sexy and we get along really well together. I'm very attracted to him. He really wants to date me, but I'm being ...
A. 22 March 2013: With any luck, you'll get to have a couple of dates (say, 4) with this guy before you will be required to commit the entire remainder of your life with him.....
Enjoy those dates; see what you and he have in-common; see how much you enjoy on... (read in full...)
Does anyone else share my fantasy for men that are much older than me?
Q. I am a 21 year old female, and I find myself fantasizing about much, much older men. They are normally well over 60, and usually the older or uglier they look, the more the fantasy turns me on. I'm not saying elderly men are ugly by default, but ...
A. 22 March 2013: Fantasies can be oh-so-wonderful.... because they can be outrageous, naughty, embarrassing or any other adjective that you can add here..... AND, they are not constrained by time, space and real physical limitations....
HOWEVER, it's importan... (read in full...)
How do I confess to my wife and my children that I have had countless affairs and 3 children came from these affairs?
Q. im not in the best of health and im trying to find the lord and confess my sins. just not sure how to tell my wife who im separated from that i wasnt as innocent as she thought. we got married in the military had a son and daughter and i let her ...
A. 22 March 2013: Here's one way to handle such a complex, complicated and potentially heartbreaking matter....
Write a letter to you wife and kids.... Pour out your guts as you did in this submittal.... BEG for their forgiveness (which you don't deserve, as you (... (read in full...)
I can't accept that my husband was in prison for a sex crime but the families all give me a hard time!
Q. I've been married 20 years, my husband has been a troubled person for the majority of those years, we now have 2 adult children. 6 years ago my husband was sentenced to 6 years in jail shortly after his conviction, I learned that he was doing time ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP: Cerebus has MOST of the advice that you need.... EXCEPT for one proviso. To wit: ARE YOU STILL MARRIED to this man??????? If "yes,".... and if you want him out of your life.... then you must divorce him and go on your own way.....
If yo... (read in full...)
My ex-wife is trying to turn our daughter against my girlfriend
Q. My ex wife has crossed her line,and for some reason blames everything on my girlfriend whose been nothing but nice to my child and my wife!and my child(amelia)she loves my girlfriend and has accepted her,she calls her to take her shopping,to discuss ...
A. 20 March 2013: Listen to SVC.... and take her advice. The view is SO MUCH BETTER from the high road!!!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My mother knew my b/f before we got together, and hates him
Q. So I've been seeing a guy for 2 months! He's quite a bit older but ages isn't my issue, he's separated from his wife but not a lot of people know and I've posted on here bout me not wanting to be slagged off at work for being a "home wrecker" even ...
A. 20 March 2013: I see a handful of reasons why you should be keeping your distance from this character (Reason number ONE?: THAT HE IS STILL MARRIED!!!!!)..... and all you can see is that your MOTHER - armed with the information that this guy is a cad - doesn't ... (read in full...)
Long distance guy doesn't like phone calls. I need more than just texting?!
Q. I'm 20, talking to a guy that's 21. We live just over 100 miles away. (I still find that LD if you can't see the person spontaneously) I'm in university and he graduated from university last year, and is now taking a gap year whilst working a...
A. 20 March 2013: AS a guy, I can - and will - tell you why this guy "prefers" texting to verbal phone calls.....
You see... with TEXTING, he isn't interrupted - whilest he is out with his OTHER "girlfriend" - by having to ANSWER your (verbal) call... He can let ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with my emotions?
Q. I met this guy from a friend of mine a year ago, and I started developing feeling for him. He initiated the first meeting, and took me to the "City" and everything was fine for a couple of dates. One day he started being really obnoxious, telling ...
A. 20 March 2013: I didn't read your entire submittal, because, before I finished the first two paragraphs, I was able to discern that you and this guy have not NEARLY enough in-common to continue seeing one-another. THAT is my advice....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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