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writes:hey guys. thanks for taking the time to read this.i'm really hurting right now and i don't know what to do. i'd been with my gf about six months now and i thought everything was perfect! we had just yesterday been discussing us getting an apartment together (her idea) once my lease ran out in another six months or so. she told me she sees us married one day and can't imagine her life without me. in fact, last night, she was over and we were walking out to my car and she just grabbed me and hugged me and told me how in love with me she was and how she knew she wanted to marry me one day. she says things like this very frequently. we never yell or raise our voices at each other and we get along great. we have an amazing sex life and are very affectionate and verbal and keep the romance alive by doing the occasional sweet and romantic thing together. all in all, i couldn't see what was about to happen coming.about three weeks ago, i was spending the night at her apartment and all of a sudden, out of nowhere, she starts mentioning all these differences we have and saying how she doesn't know if she thinks we could last. starts ripping me apart saying that i don't respect her culture (she's from saudi arabia - and i'm extremely respectful and fascinated by her culture), that i don't like to travel and so she'd be traveling alone, and how i'm a bit more pessimistic than she needs and she just doesn't know if we could work out. she just dumped it all on me all of a sudden. i felt attacked and caught off guard. well before the end of the night, she told me she was really sorry and she didn't mean it and that she wanted to be with me. she just had a freak out moment (she's been going to therapy to deal with some extremely personal stuff and is going through a tough time). i dropped it and forgave her. the next night i came over again and she dumped me again. same exact reasons. i was devistated. but then she called me again and begged me to forgive her. kept saying, yet again, that she didn't mean it. that she loves me and doesn't want to lose me. stupidly, i forgive her again. fast-forward to now, and the last handful of weeks have been incredible. i've stayed in her apartment constantly and practically lived there. she always wanted me to come stay the night and be with her all the time. we got really close. well out of the blue (an hour after she tells me i'm the love of her life and she wants to marry me), she dumps me AGAIN. she tells me she needs to be alone so she can figure out who she is and she can't seem to do that while being with me for whatever reason.i'm so hurt and confused. how can someone literally go from telling you that you are the love of their life and want to be with you forever, to wanting to break up in an hours span of time? she says she doesn't know who she is and it's not my fault. that she's just trying to figure herself out. but it's impossible for me to wrap my head around. i thought she wanted to be with me forever. who says they want to marry someone and then breaks up with them immediately after? please help. i'm so confused and lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol she's not muslim. her dad is american and a christian and her mom is from saudi but not a practicing muslim. my ex is non-religious.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (12 May 2013):
 I think your submittal is a "textbook case" about why Muslims and "infidels" (read: "Christians, Protestants, Jews, Buddists, Hindus, Taoists or any other religion that isn't Muslim...") can't co-exist.....
Dump your "girlfriend" .... and chalk this up as an unpleasant learning experience in your life.....
Good luck....
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