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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 May 2013):
 It is normal for a man to "check out" other women. Would you rather him looking at other men?
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (30 May 2013):
 My guy knows not to make "looking obvious" when we are out. When we first met, he would point all of the "hot chicks" ((immature sounding )) on tv/movies which pissed me off. I told him to be respectful and stop saying that in front of me.
Did you have a conversation when you first met him about this? You should have nipped this situation right in the bud. I would sit him down with you and tell him how you really feel hurt by this, cry a little... maybe he will get the picture ;) good luck!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (30 May 2013):
Looking is completely normal. Flirting and ogling are not. It sounds like its the former, meaning the issue is with you, not him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 May 2013):
 @largentsgirl89 : but " noticing " people IS normal - for men and for women. Everybody does it . We are biologically geared to NOTICE what feels attractive to us and gives us positive visual stimulation. From a person to a building or painting etc.
What is not normal and not respectful is passing from noticing to staring or ogling. So, I guess it all depends which form this guy's " looking at " takes.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (30 May 2013):
 I find this extremely disrespectful and unnecessary. If he wants to check out other women, check out other men. If he thinks his behavior is normal then you noticing other men should also be normal.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (30 May 2013):
 Oh wants good for him is good for you, also point out the good looking woman and good looking guys to him, that will make him uncomfortable. This is a difficult battle to win. My husband use to do it and I started pointing out the good looking woman to him and mention it to friends and family in a joking way, he stopped cause he was embarrassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): I have a great relationship with a man for the past three years. He doesn't look at other women or stare. It was what we agreed upon when we became exclusive property. I don't think it is normal. I guess you never set boundaries in your relationship . You can try to change it or live with your poor decision making or lack of. Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 May 2013):
 he he looking casually or is he staring and being an idiot about it?
just looking is normal. My husband looks and if I see a pretty thing I'll point her out to him so he can have his eye candy....
but when he gets stupid about it (looks too long or makes a comment) I'll call him on it with "don't hurt yourself"
just looking is normal, he's married not dead.
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reader, Kk123 +, writes (29 May 2013):
When he does this find a cute guy around you and stare right at his package and squint your eyes a lil he will get pissed then if he says something to you for it tell him you will stop if he will...problem solved :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 May 2013):
 There's normal.... and then there's "normal".....
It's almost difficult to NOT look at women.... WHAT is a guy to do????? Turn his eyes to the floor whenever a woman comes in to his purview??????
HOWEVER..... there's no reason for a guy to OGLE women... ESPECIALLY if/when he is with his wife/girlfriend....
You can give a guy a "pass" for "eying" a woman under the first set of circumstances. For the second set of circumstances, you take him out of sight and smack him in the side of the head and tell him that "ogling" is NOT "OK".....
Isn't that clear????
Good luck..
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reader, playitagain-sam +, writes (29 May 2013):
It's normal, but I consider it to be rude when with your wife/girlfriend.
A few glances is one thing, but lingering or staring so much that the object of his attention is creeped out - well give him a tug on the arm and hopefully you can train him to keep his male-tendencies within reasonable perimeters.
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86  +, writes (29 May 2013):
When you are with him not so much, but if he is on his own I'd say alot of people look at other people it doesn't mean that much.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 May 2013):
 He's right, it is normal. Are you talking about staring so hard that he trips over things or a quick look? It's best for you to just stop looking for it and eventually you will stop noticing.
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