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writes:Hi, I'm just looking for some clarification or an opinion on something my boyfriend said to me. We have been together for over 3 years now, and we had a conversation a few nights ago where he said that "You're the forever girl, you're the one where I went, yep she's the one... But I wish I had met you when I was older." We are 19 now, so I'm guessing he was meaning maybe he wishes he had had some freedom while he was young, had other experiences etc, or could have them. I guess I'm just confused as to what this means. Is this a bad thing that he's said this? Does it mean he may want to live his life rather than be tied down at the moment? And I should just clarify that in no way do I stop him from doing anything he wants, obviously apart from dating other girls and stuff like that, but generally he lives his life like someone our age would if they were single. Any replies much appreciated! (: Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): Honestly OP, don't worry about it. My boyfriend and I have been together for the same amount of time and have had the exact conversation.When asking him what he meant, he went on to state that he would have preferred meeting me after University. Simply because we have been together since Sixth Form and he hasn't ever had a single life as an adult. Which is perfectly understandable, as I sort of feel the same - As in, I don't know what it's like to be an adult and alone. However, we both followed this conversation by discussing how we'd never jeopardised our relationship over something as silly as timing - especially when we're young. And those saying that being young means he doesn't want commitment, that's b^^^^^t. The right guy can commit to the right girl. Age doesn't really come in to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): I think you need to ask him just what infAct did he mean, then be very quiet do not interrupt until he clarity's this for you .. My opinion is he getting restless and wonders what it would be like living the 'single life' .. What you have to do is prepare what your going to reply if the worse comes to light.. Do not cry in front of him, this will only stroke his ego and make him stay out of guilt .. Instead stay strong and say casual !' well I guess if you've made your mind up, that's it. I hope that when you are ready you find someone as great as me, then again that's just a fantasy' and laugh and say the grass ins't always greener on the other side it's just more grass' and don't worry I won't be crying on my pillow for you I be too busy having fun and as you said maybe it is time for a change. Then walk away head highAnd get out with friends, go on dates do not wait around for him . He should have thought about how young he was before getting into a relationship not 3 years later.. But better now than if you two had children.. Count your blessing and move on..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (1 June 2013):
 Sometimes, we guys will say the GOOFIEST - and shallowest - things when we are trying to sound "deep." This is that sort of thing......
Ask him what the **** he means.... but don't cut him any slack if he offers a rambling, disjointed - and not at all clear - "answer".....
Good luck.....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 June 2013):
 It's a compliment that you are a girl every man wants. It's not a good thing because he's still young and not ready for commitment. When you are a relationship a man does not have the freedom to live a single life. He can have decent male friends to hang out with, that's it. If he wants to life the single life then you can't be his forever girl waiting for him only when he wants you in between dating. I think he is being vague because he is afraid of confrontation. He is trying to open up about the truth but hoping there won't be an argument. So this is a time you get him to be honest with you by not nagging, complaining, but just ask him, curiously, does he have a wish to date other girls.
It's a bad thing you find this out after three years. It's not when you think that now maybe you have the freedom to find a guy who is ready for commitment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): Ask him, it would be wrong for us to guess. Really OP, you're paranoid enough as is about what he meant and I would be too. It does come across the way you think it does. But what it means to him is something only he can tell you.
Ask him what he meant by that and assume nothing until you talk it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): you're right in what you think he means :)
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