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writes:Dear cupid, I had a falling out with the main person in my friend group I guess you can say. It was just a little argument over something really silly, something I didn't even do, but I apologized and he still won't speak to me.Well since then I guess he's been talking bad about me to the other people in the group and now they have been weird and different with me and now nobody even wants to talk to me or anything anymore. The whole group usually hangs out every weekend and I'm not invited anymore. I've tried to talk with them individually and most of the time I'm ignored. The whole group is always together and they'll post stuff on facebook and I just get really sad that I'm not a part of the group anymore.I know it's silly, but I'm really hurt over this. They were the only friends I had. I don't have anything to do now or anyone to talk to. We all had plans to do stuff this summer, and now I'm not going to be invited to any of it. I'm really sad and feel lonely now. What should I do?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 May 2013):
 Sometimes, you just have to swallow hard, shrug your shoulders and say (to yourself): "Well... I guess that bunch isn't interested in having me around.... so I'll just go out and do things by myself, or find another group of people who I like, and who like me... and we can do fun/interesting stuff together......"
After all... there's more than ONE "group" in this world!
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): If everyone in your friend group is now ignoring you, it is time to consider that the argument was much more serious than you realize. Whatever happened, it upset all of your friends.
I think you need to take a good look at yourself and try to figure out what you could change for the positive. Once they realize that you've matured, then they will probably be friendly with you again.
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reader, playitagain-sam +, writes (29 May 2013):
I'm not sure what you can do to change their minds. Hopefully they will realize after some time that they were being stupid and you can rekindle a friendship with at least some of them. In the meantime the best thing you can do is go out and make new friends and take control of your summer. Have fun without them. Make them feel left out and jealous. Not in a purposefully mean way, but prove to them and yourself that you don't need them to have fun. Down the road you'll probably realize most of them weren't worth being friends with anyway.Check out online social groups / activity groups and get involved. It might be scary at first, but you'd be surprised how easy it is to make friends this way. You're still young and your social groups will probably change a lot over the next decade. Hone the skill of making new friends and you'll be much happier in the long run.
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