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writes:I saw a simple "hi, just dropping you a text to see how you're keeping" text on my boyfriends phone. We had been talking previously the day before about knowing phone numbers by heart and he mentioned a couple of his exes in his list! There's one that broke his heart. He says he hates her and could never forgive her but I know he has sporadic every few months "hi how are you keeping" conversations. Is this normal? They broke up over two yrs ago. He keeps this hidden from me but I'm super crazy about this certain ex!!! He has checked her FB profile sometimes too. Should I worry?
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reader, cscrcsm  +, writes (2 June 2013):
Personally, I don't think it's okay to keep in touch with exes. Many people disagree, but it sounds that you're like me. When we first started dating, my partner was still friends with most of his exes. I told him how uncomfortable I was with this and he stopped all contact immediately.
Some people will say my behavior was controlling, but I don't think it was. I'm much happier knowing that he's no longer facebook friends with any of them and he doesn't seem to care at all. He cares about me. If your boyfriend is unwilling to do the same for you, you probably have different values and aren't compatible.
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (1 June 2013):
 i don't think you should worry, but i also think you should probably talk to him about this. i personally think it can be a hit or miss situation. you'll never know how he really feels about her or anything at all unless you ask him and talk to him about it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2013):
 I suggest that you leave "normal/not-normal" out of the question.... and simply recognize that we guys routinely keep our ex's on the hook in consideration that we might approach them to get them to put out for us, sometime in the future.....
Good luck....
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