Should I text my friend on his birthday?
Q. One of my friends is having a birthday soon. He doesn't generally tell people his birthday but he told me once and I have a good memory for birthdays. I sent him a happy birthday text last year, too. Thing is, this guy is kind of a self-absorbed ...
A. 6 August 2013: I suggest that you send him a "birthday" text that reads:
"Happy Birthday, A$$hole"!!!
That should cut through the tangles of your dilemma....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Success stories about people finding love again please!!
Q. Recently I've split up from my boyfriend of 2 years. We loved each other a lot and were inseparable. We spent so much time together and talked a lot about our future (i.e. kids, moving in etc). We were one of those typical love-bubble type of ...
A. 6 August 2013: Every time I've been dumped by my "girlfriend"... I've PROMISED myself that I'd "never love another girl, again"... and EVERY TIME... some hot little strumpet comes along and gets my attention.... and comes home with me (or takes me to her place)... ... (read in full...)
Twin Flames...A real or imagined concept?
Q. Do you believe in the concept of twin flames / soul mates? Do you think you've met yours? What does it feel like? Examples of movies that depict this kind of love are: The English Patient The End of The Affair Dangerous Beauty Brokeback ...
A. 6 August 2013: The guy who can REALLY give you a good answer to this question is former South Carolina governor Mark Sanford. That guy went for a walk on the "Appelacian Trail" in South Carolina.... turned South,... and didn't stop until he got to BUENOS AIRES ... (read in full...)
When separated from a marriage are you considered single and free to do whatever you want?
Q. When separated from a marriage are you considered single and able to do whatever you want to do? I am separated from my husband. Living somewhere else and not speaking. Looking to get an apartment and move on until the point divorce is possible, we ...
A. 5 August 2013: I can't give you much advice as to how a woman approaches this issue of being "single, and available".... but CAN tell you that, from a "guy" point of view, we consider ourselves "single and available" the first time that our lady friend irks ... (read in full...)
Since we moved in together, my fiance seems to have lost all interest in sex
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for 5 years now, and have lived together for a year and a half. Since we've been living together my fiancee seems to have lost all interest in sex. He is always saying he is too tired, or has lost his sex ...
A. 5 August 2013: When a man pursues a woman... it is much the same as a dog chasing an automobile.... He loves the pursuit.... but doesn't know what to do AFTER he catches the thing. (When was the last time you saw a dog at the wheel of a car?)..
Your man purs... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex?
Q. What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex? No offence to anyone here but I find that kind of behaviour revolting and it makes me see them as a lesser. I'm 26 now and this worries me. I was appalled ...
A. 5 August 2013: There is some chance that you will find such a creature.... much as there is some chance that the local ice cream truck will park outside your door, tomorrow, and hand out free samples all afternoon....
Just to hedge your bets, I suggest that you... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?
Q. I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...
A. 5 August 2013: Your predicament is crystal clear. Here's the details:
1. He has his bit on the side (you).... something that EVERY MAN (married or not) craves.
2. You have sold out your integrity for the last 6 years, and - in keeping with "woman-speak" - ... (read in full...)
What can I do to let him see to just let it go when she doesn't want him
Q. Well, i met a man in 2011 that had been seperated from his wife for two years. They remained friends and she was involved with soneone else. He asked her about divorce 8 months into the relationship and she said no, left her boyfriend, harrased me ...
A. 5 August 2013: Stay away from this character until he shows you his FINAL divorce papers....
THEN.... after he shows you those papers, stay away from him because he's a jerk....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I do not understand why he has to play me like this.
Q. Hi all, I am in an annoying situation. I met a guy in March. I am 27 and he is 28. When I first met him, he seemed nice and harmless. I chatted with him on fb but he responded very slowly. I was fed up one day and stopped talking to him About one...
A. 4 August 2013: He's "playing" you because YOU LET HIM DO SO!!!!!!
Frankly, the whole incident/affair that you described sounds quite childish to me... AND, not worth your time or effort....
Certainly, there are MANY MORE guys "out there" who will not behave ... (read in full...)
How can I have an orgasm without touching the clitoris?
Q. Please help on how i can achieve an orgasm through squeezing the clit without touching it? I've never managed to make it happen and i need tips on how to....
A. 4 August 2013: My G/F gets orgasms when I walk in the room and smile at her.... So... yes, it can happen!!!!!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 4 August 2013: Why waste your time with a guy who - obviously - is neither marriage nor family "material?"??????
Dump him.... and, as you continue your life... and some time, find some other man who strikes your fancy... make sure that you and he are "on the ... (read in full...)
My ex and father of my children seems happier away from me. Will he come back when our 2nd child is born?
Q. So me and my ex broke up 5 months ago at first we were seeing each other and we were thinking about getting back together we have a son (1) yr n one on the way. We used to live together but everytime we argue he would leave the house take his ...
A. 4 August 2013: It's unfortunate that the Good Lord didn't make it a condition that men GROW UP before they could spawn children.....
You have, evidently, coupled with a man-child who isn't worth your time or attentions...... so, chalk him up to a wreck that you... (read in full...)
Married couples with a family don't take holidays apart from one another do they?
Q. I wonder if anyone has any advice, or have been in a similar situation. My husband wins lots of trips abroad through work. I'm talking Las Vegas staying in top hotels and Ibiza. While the trip is paid for food and drink etc is not. My proble...
A. 4 August 2013: If he really gave a darn about you... he'd figure out how to make those "prize-vacations" in to family affairs....
That he doesn't, tells you that he is so self-centered as to think that it's OK to dump on you, passively, whilest he goes along an... (read in full...)
Would you confront your man if you found out...
Q. I've been married to my husband for 13 years. We started out with a great sex life. Things mellowed out to a completed halt after dealing with infertility issues. I do love him however, we have had major fights regarding porn. I don't like it and ...
A. 4 August 2013: Frankly, as a guy, I would suggest that you give up on him, take your daughter, and be on your way. He, apparently, shows no sign of understanding you and "where you're coming from".... which is another way of saying that he is rather narcisstic, ... (read in full...)
Girls, how long do you want your guys to last in bed?
Q. How long do you want your guys to last in bed, girls? How long have your guys lasted? What's the record? Tell us about it. How long is too long and how short is too short during sex??? ...
A. 2 August 2013: Once, I lasted for seven months.... Then, she asked me; "Where is our relationship going?"..... and I was out of there before the next commercial came on the telly....... (read in full...)
I've been saving for 9 months so that my boyfriend and I could move in together only to find that he has saved NOTHING at all. Is he subconsciously telling m he doesn't want to move to my area?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for coming up to two years and for the past year we've been talking about moving in together. We ruled out me moving to him because it is so much more expensive to live in his area that...
A. 1 August 2013: This paragraph is really the "answer" to your question:
"We've had countless conversations about it and every time he says he wants to have a bit of money saved before he moves down here which is fair enough but he NEVER SAVES."
What he's say... (read in full...)
How can I believe that he isn't cheating when he's using porn and having phone sex?
Q. Me and my fiance are together now for almost 8 years we have 2 boys together as far as I know him he is watching porn and keep on denying it, I cought him 4 times already having phonesex with other woman, he keeps on saying he will never cheat on me ...
A. 1 August 2013: We guys use an exquisite logic to define "cheating".... which results in this "definition":
Cheating; the resultant description of what a man must 'fess up to WHEN HE IS CAUGHT IN BED - IN FLAGRANTE DILECTO - with his tart. ALL ELSE that he ... (read in full...)
How do I keep this relationship without having contact with his friends?
Q. How to tell him that's not what I want? I was on a trip, and met this guy. The way he dressed and acted I didn't know he was so young, 30. I am in my 40s with grown child. We spend couple days together, and on a second day I stayed with hi...
A. 31 July 2013: Next time you will be visiting him... print out a copy of this submittal.... after meeting, hand the copy to him and say, "Hey, (his name here), I wrote this, and it's about you and me, and I'd like your opinion about it. What say?"
Follo... (read in full...)
Do I believe the things he tells me when he's sober or when he's drunk?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a while now. We were once best friends but we have decided to take our relationship a little further. (we're not officially together though). He likes to go drinking with his friends but he's not a heavy dri...
A. 28 July 2013: Believe just 1/2 of what he sez when he's sober, and not a single thing that he sez when he's drunk alcohol....
Good luck...
P.S. This advice also will apply to all the rest of the guys you will ever meet!!!!... (read in full...)
What do I say or do to make my ex realize he has to chose between his ex girlfriend and me? I need to move on!
Q. Hi I broke up with my ex bf about 3 years ago I still have strong feeling for him but I no nothing with happen again. He now has a new gf and I have started slowly but finally moving on but lately I have been getting messages from him ...
A. 28 July 2013: What you have to do - or say - is to YOURSELF... and it is: "Why would I bother with this charade?"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do people cope with being plain looking?
Q. Has anyone else ever had this? At 21 I was really good looking, then at 23 I noticed my face changing, not aging like wrinkles just started to look like another family member (one I didn't want to look like) I was still fairly good looking the...
A. 28 July 2013: I survived being downright ugly by developing a terrific PERSONALITY!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What do I do to keep him chasing me?
Q. I have known this guy for a year n half we were pretty close. Recently he has given me excuses that is far too busy to msg me i let it slide he may be telling the truth. I have his other number i see him online on whatsapp at stupid times. Anyway...
A. 28 July 2013: You ask: "...what do i do to keep him chasing me?"
I answer: WHY bother trying to get him to "chase" you... when his actions have shown - quite clearly - that he's not worth your time or efforts??????
You're up...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to have sex with my ex husband's best friend?
Q. So me my now ex husband and our best Male friend and his now ex wife,have all been friends for many years. me and my ex husband were married for 5 years and my friend and his wife where married for 7 years.. my birthday recently passed and my ...
A. 27 July 2013:
Aren't there a couple of New York Yankee baseball players who did just this (swapped partners) back in the 60s or 70s???? I think they were Mike Kekich and Fritz Peterson...
At the time, many of us thought it was amusing... and now, many ye... (read in full...)
Need Advice to get my best male friend back!!
Q. I need help, I'm confused and hurt! I'm a 29 year old female with two kids that just now file for a divorce, before our divorce I always call my childhood friend (married man now) for advice cause he's always good at that, he's the type of friend y...
A. 27 July 2013: So.. YOU'VE got a marriage which is - or has - deteriorated until it is unsalvageable.... AND, you want to keep dragging in to your life/predicament an old "boyfriend" who, you've learned, has his own marriage/ relationship difficulties going on.... ... (read in full...)
My future in-laws refuse to help my fiancé but do everything for his irresponsible brother who has just got his new girlfriend pregnant
Q. I have a situation...well maybe not really a situation of my own, but I feel it affects my fiance and I enough that I'm not sure how to respond to it. MY fiance's brother just found out his girlfriend of 2 1/2 months is pregnant. Neither has a de...
A. 27 July 2013: It's always a frustrating matter to have to live with sibling-and-parent dynamics that seem to point to one sibling being treated "better" than the other....
Keep in mind that the ONLY part(s) of life that you (and B/F) can control are YOUR OWN... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was meeting his ex behind my back and I'm finding it very hard to trust him again
Q. I really want to work things out with my boyfriend but I don't know if I can trust him. We've been together two years, we met when I was finishing with someone else and he waited almost a year to actually be with me, during which time he had plen...
A. 27 July 2013: You know, we guys are funny creatures. We will say (and do) most anything to keep a woman who we like to have sex with to continue doing so (having sex)......
Your "B/F" has tipped his hand... so, now, you have GOOD REASON to believe that he ... (read in full...)
My husband's friend verbally attacked me and my husband believes him over me even though there were witnesses
Q. Hi,I am 24 years old and I now its 3 years to my marriage and there was always problem my husband spent more time with friends thn me.....but I managed as I love him so much,but now one of my husband's friend his name is suraj and he is married and ...
A. 27 July 2013: Well..... it "looks" to me like you've seen just how the "good old boy" network of India works.....
Your hubby thinks that YOU are chattel (look it up!)... AND that his "friends" will tell him the truth about you - and/or anything else - regardle... (read in full...)
Should I ask my b/f why he hasn't said I love you to me yet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. I am very happy, but need some advice. He hasn't told me loves me, though in more ways than 1, I do feel loved. Should I bring up the fact that he hasn't said this yet? Also, for the sake of his ...
A. 25 July 2013: I dated a girl for six years, and never heard her speak "I love you"... or anything like that.... I got concerned, so began to pull back from her, and found that NOTHING CHANGED....she didn't recognize any pull-back.... and kept on, in life, as if ... (read in full...)
I've already pitched in money for a holiday and now my girlfriend is treating me like crap. I don't think I want to be with her.
Q. About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and ...
A. 24 July 2013: AS a guy who's G/F stole a set of silverware (with box) that was worth more than $3000..... I'd say that $500 is pretty inexpensive as a cost to dump a girl who you think doesn't give a whit about you......
Good luck....
P.S. If any of you kn... (read in full...)
Does chronic depression affect a man's erection and sex drive?
Q. Could my sexual dysfunction caused by low grade , chronic, depression? I have a very damaged sexual function, and my life is deeply effected by it. My wife is thinking about living me, because she feels,Im not attracted to her anymore, and she is ...
A. 24 July 2013: Makes no difference what we've "heard"...... Get your a$$ to a urologist and find out what is really going on!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate or inappropriate for your sister to live with your soon-to-be ex husband?
Q. Appropriate or inappropriate? My husband and I were having problems. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and requested to live in the house, I said no and gave her other options. My husband and I were on the verge of separation, I didn't think it ...
A. 24 July 2013: I'm imagining that your Sister and your soon-to-be ex- will find lots of things that they have in-common... including an itch between their knees.... and YOU, Dear Girl, will be out of the picture....and it will be none of your business how they ... (read in full...)
A month ago he said he loves me, now I see a pic of him with someone else
Q. so i need some insight on what to do.. my ex boyfriend and i dated for almost 3 years..since we broke up we have been on and off..hooking up acting like a couple but not really a couple..i think he has commitment issues he keeps saying we dont wor...
A. 24 July 2013: You write: "...or should i just not talk to him ever again? but then i feel like he gets off easy if i dont confront him???..."
I vote for this. Don't confront him... don't tell him what a jerk he is, and how he's leaving from the best thing he... (read in full...)
My wife is emotionally abusive and I don't love her anymore. How do I tell her I want a separation?
Q. Hello, and thanks for considering my question. My wife and I have been married for 5 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. We've been through some trying times, but my wife has always been very financially supportive as the main breadwinner of t...
A. 24 July 2013: While your wife's "style" may be unorthodox, it's understandable that, as the breadwinner in the family, she might believe that YOU are not "pulling your weight" in the family.... so there has be a resentment bubbling below the surface for some ... (read in full...)
The girl I've been dating has basically asked me to be on standby in case it doesn't work out with her ex
Q. So i have been seeing this girl for a month or two. We have had sex multiple times and tells me after the first night that she wants me to be her's. I stay the same and i go on vacation and she doesn't tell me whats going on. I come to find out she ...
A. 22 July 2013: I suggest that you just move on in your life, and let her's go as it will.....
Clearly, she is neither mature nor focused in her life.... so why should you sit around and wait until she does... or ...more importantly, until she DOESN'T mature a... (read in full...)
My husband says he's totally against cheating but I've found out that he made a pass at my mum. During our marriage he has also slept with a 17-y.o.
Q. hi, my husband and I have been together for 19yrs now, we have two children 3yr and 6yr. my husband has always talked about his strong morals especially over affairs he has said that even a kiss is a passionate moment and in his views is as good ...
A. 22 July 2013: Once you reconcile that hubby is a lying, cheating hypocrite, you will have no problem understanding "why this happened."
Your only real question is, do you want to continue to spend time with him.... the man who you now REALLY know who he is...... (read in full...)
My best male friend has cut me out of his life after his wife got jealous
Q. My male friend and I have been best friends ever since High School. We are both grown around our 30's now and we've been talking on the phone and emailing each other past years, I'am married with 2 kids and he just got married last year and a ...
A. 22 July 2013: If his wife thinks/thought that you and he were too close.. then she is entitled to be a little jealous.
By corresponding with him, as you did, and in the face of what you KNEW was his wife's jealousy, you put "best friend" in an impossib... (read in full...)
My mother is dating a man the same age as my fiance, who on top of everything is rude and pokes fun at my fiance's height
Q. My mother is turning 60 next year but she is dating (secretly she thinks but everyone knows) a man the same age as my 35 year old husband to be. I'm 29 and I think a 35 year old is an acceptable age for my future husband. I do not think my almost 6...
A. 22 July 2013: I'd focus on this, which you wrote: "... I feel if I try to talk to her she will call me delusional and walk away like she always does. What can I do."
What's wrong with having her "walk away"? You KNOW that you and she aren't going to see eye-... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's contact with me becoming less and less. Is he going off me? Or am I over-reacting?
Q. Hi, my new boyfriend and I are both 26. On nights out, he had tried to chat to me for a few months and I haven't wanted to speak to him as he was always so drunk with his friends, plus I wasn't ready to date after a break up. One night I gave in ...
A. 22 July 2013: There are two important bits of data that will help with a reply....
You write: "...now we have agreed we're a couple." Now... have you and he been initmate?
If the answer to that question (being intimate) is "yes"... then you and he are -... (read in full...)
Can you love someone and still cheat on them for so long?
Q. I have been in a true heart dilemma for the past year. It all started when I went back to work after my maternity leave, I was 34 at the time. I was married at the time going through a separation. I found my work to be a relief from the stress a...
A. 21 July 2013: Let's go through your questions, one at a time....
You write: "Should I write him a letter? Was he using me? Can someone use another person for sex for a whole year without any feelings toward them? Can you love someone and cheat on them for... (read in full...)
What he said broke my heart
Q. Hi My bf currently stays with his mother as he needs to take care of some family business. I went to meet him a week back and we had a small fight as i wanted to spend more time with him and he wants to hang around with his friends. I wa...
A. 21 July 2013:
Dump him....... (read in full...)
Does my unusual prefrence doom me to being alone?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I have a pretty vague question but I'll try and go into detail. I'm a 17 year old female and all my life I've only been attracted to middle aged women. I realized I was gay at about 11 years old, so I consciously knew how I ...
A. 21 July 2013: I think your submittal reveals a young woman who knows herself very well..... and who will, ultimately, have one (or more!) relationships that are fulfilling and rewarding.
As to your questions "about yourself".... I suggest that, if you were to ... (read in full...)
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