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writes:I have been Dateing a women for about two years who I met on line she never told me she was married and she even set a date for us to be married and now I found out she is married still liveing with her husband, she has been lieing to me for the past almost 2 years, I have made many changes in my life and work sold property in order to make a life with this women only to find out she has never filed for a divorce her husband knows nothing of or about us and I have had my life destroyed by this women, can I sue this women for the damages she has caused me, I surely dont want a lier and a cheater, what can I do other then get away from this heartless women ,
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): It is unlikely you can sue her unless you can provide documented proof that she has directly caused you financial loss; or took something of tangible value. I'm afraid we can't sue for a broken heart, my friend. Did you buy her an engagement ring? You may be able to get it back. Have you made any other major purchases to her benefit? Paid any of her bills? I hope you have all your receipts and/or canceled checks. You may need to seek legal advice. I hope she lives in this country?!Did you give her large sums of cash with a signed promissory note? Anything given in cash or cannot be proven, is a gift.I always warn people of these online relationships. People are able to hide the truth, and create a persona catering to your vanity and needs. You have to be able to connect with a person on a more personal level, and be close enough to share flexible time. If they can't offer you regular face-time, that in itself should be a red-flag. If you rarely (if ever) or have not met in person, I'm not sure how things may have come to this point.I notice your approximate age, and I would assume you are a mature gentleman; possibly divorced. I know people feel making connections over the internet is the thing to do nowadays; but you make yourself more vulnerable to scams and fraud.When you can't do an impromptu drop-in, or make spontaneous plans because you are separated either by distance or limited access; you run the risk of what you have fallen victim too.Seek legal advice at once if you suspect mail-fraud or you have given her access to any of your personal accounts or bankcards. Close those accounts immediately; if they are active. Report possible fraud. You don't say specifically how she has destroyed your life. I'm sure you're embarrassed and feel betrayed, but there is no legal recourse for that. If you sold property but didn't give her any of the proceeds; simply use it to your own benefit.Cut your losses. Pull yourself together. Salvage your feelings and concentrate on rebuilding your life. Don't beat yourself up. You were lonely, but vulnerable.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2013):
 Some of life's lessons can be pretty expensive, upsetting of one's life.... and REALLY SUCK. It sounds like this is your "expensive, upsetting and sucky" lesson.
Put it behind you and never look back.... (and DON'T repeat it!!!!!).....
Good luck....
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