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writes:I've been with my bf for a year. I met his friend for the first time 3 months ago. Where we both fell straight in love with each other. Love at first sight. No joke. We've seen each other only twice since, both occasions lots of mutual friends were present. We trade glances at one another, every time my heart beats faster. We've barely said two words to each other. Its an impossible situation. Is there such a thing as love at first sight? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 If you've only spoken two words to each other how can you possibly know what he feels for you?
This is one sided girl. Either break up with your current guy and run the risk if figuring out if he even noticed you, or stick to your guy and stop being silly.
The gras is greener on the other side, and you are having a mental fling. Hows your relationship currently working out for you? What on earth makes you think you can love a guy you know absolutely nothing about?
Here's a link to another guy who asks pretty much the exact same question, and the advice given is really good and will apply for you as well. Hope you read it! It will be a wakeup call!
http://blogs.news.com.au/bossy/index.php/news/comments/could_it_really_be_love_at_first_sight/
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reader, person12345  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 It's instant attraction. Love is not something that can happen instantaneously, it has to grow and be supported by trust. It means nothing about your compatibility, just that you're attracted to each other. Keep it on the back burner. If things don't work out with you and your current bf, then go for it. But dumping him for his friend would be a mistake. And cheating would never EVER be a good idea. It's absolutely a horrendous thing to do to someone and you might make it hard for him to ever trust someone again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): YES, YES, YES...I myself experienced it when I was 15 with my childhood sweetheart. Tried to ignore it, but ultimately we got together, married and have a beautiful son. Our relationship spanned a total of nearly twenty years, most very, very happy, but at such a young age one has to grow into an individual, we parted, but have remained close and although he is now living in Australia, we still have a bond.
I have ONLY experienced love at first sight, and NO I don't mean physical lust, but that intangible connection that one can never really describe, because it's down to 'chemistry' like a jigsaw fitting together.....and you should never try, as LOVE is a FEELING NOT a LOGICAL thought pattern, and I think I have some experience in this, as this is what I've studied.
My next two relationships were the same, both long-term, NOT brief encounters. So YES it can happen! People are sceptical on this subject, as most people rarely find such a connection, they tend to go for initial attraction, then let everything grow, but with ' LOVE at first sight ' you feel as though you have bypassed all that, as everything seems so natural, even though you hardly know each other.
However, I would add, if you've hardly spoken two words, it may be just a striking physical attraction, he fits your perfect physical blueprint, we all have one, and only when it appears do we describe such feelings - But to make it the perfect jigsaw you need the deeper emotional connection too, no I don't mean, flirting or having loads in common, as very often it's the 'intangible stuff' you cannot put your finger on, may be not the kind of guy you would normally be head over heels for, but this guy does it for you, and you can't explain it.
IF this is you, please DON'T keep your present boyfriend hanging on as an insurance policy - let him go, and explore your own feelings. He is not your husband, he is your boyfriend, and although demands the highest of respect, if he's NOT the one, then be sensitive and let him find someone who will feel he is the ONE!
Good luck!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Love at first sight? Well, when i first met my husband, we were going down some stairs, our hands brushed each others, I have to tell you I was a gonna. Back to you, if you are feeling like this about someone else then you should finish with your current boyfriend before you go any further. I have to ask though if you have barely said two words to each other how do you know that he is feeling the same? Be careful you don't get caught up in the romance of it all and mistake your feelings.
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reader, Meesh76 +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I think it is possible to feel a strong attraction to someone immediately and this can develop into an infatuation. Most of the time this has a bigger impact then love as there is no rationalising it. Added to which there is the thrill of knowing you shouldn't really be going down that road and you don't know the person yet so its all anticipation. One word of advice it is often said that the trailer is better than the film and I have found that to be true. If you think there may be something there spend some time together and get to know each other. See wat happens.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I don't know if there is love at first sight, but I do know there is instant attraction. I think a lot of people have mistaken lust for love. And there is definitely lust at first sight. I tend to not be a big believer in love at first sight, but I do think there is an exception to every rule. Give it some time, spend some time together if possible, and see what happens. :)
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