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writes:Hello, I'm a 22 yo student, happily engaged with a beatiful girl, currently living at her parents' place.This is a choice we mae a couple of years ago, because we know we couldn't get enough money to live in an apartment while we study, so we stay there. She has a younger sister, about 19 yo. They are very alike and we obvioulsy see each other alot, since we all live under the same roof. I have alof of things to juggle and I don't get along well with other women in general, except her and a very few of my friends' girlfriends.When we got engaged me and my girlfriend, one of the conditions put up BY HER was that I see at least another girl nake or have sex with another girl, so I could see how it's made elsewhere and confirm I really like my gf's way of doing it better.So of course it opened up my mind to all this dimension of contract I have to fulfill, and I understand the logic behind it. But lately, I have been fantasizing about a couple of my workmates, and even my sister in law. Because now I see how well we get along and how beautiful she is. I am a guy of action and so I keep fantasizing about her, and don't know what to do to make it stop. I can't run away or ask her to leave, since we all live at the same place and are nowhere near a project to leave this place. I can't tell her I fantasize about her, what wll se think, and more importantly what will she tell her sister? So now I'm stuck at that place, with two beautiful girls, engaged to one, fantisizing about both, and I don't know what to do to control it. For people who don't understand the contract between me and my gf, it's pretty simple. She's what I could categorize as a popular girl, so of course she had more couple experience than I did, and so that's why she came up with the idea, to try and even out the lack of experience I have, and come back informed and refreshed about our couple, and know why exactly I am here, sexually. (socially and romantically I love her and absolutely can't live without her company)I really need help, this is getting out of hands, and I have other tings to think about (not necessarily more important things, but eh). So this is more like 2 questions at once, how can I fulfill my part of the contract I have with my girlfriend, how can I control my thoughts about my sister in law?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Sounds like a test. I would use this opportunity to gush about your feelings and how much you love her and she's the only one for you and how you could never even consider sleeping with anyone else.
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reader, Nime +, writes (30 September 2010):
 It sounds to me like your girlfriend is testing you. She wants to see that you'd never, under any circumstances, sleep with another girl, even if she gave you the OK. It's a messed up way of testing how devoted you are to her and it's not fair or nice of her to do this to you. I'm almost certain your girlfriend is testing you (subconsciously or not), but if she is not, then it's likely she's had issues with cheating in the past and wants to make sure you get it out of your system now. Either way, I would not uphold your end of the 'contract'. It will be a disaster. As for her sister, either get your thoughts elsewhere or break off the engagement.
If you want an honest opinion, you may love your girlfriend deeply, but you don't sound anywhere near ready for marriage.
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reader, Ldu +, writes (30 September 2010):
Put it this way, if you mess around with your future sister in-law, it can jeopardize the relationship with your fiancée. Ask yourself is she worth losing the girl you plan to marry?
Secondly to fulfill your part of the contract, sheez i dont know if its soly to have sex with know emotional attachment ....hire an escort? just an idea.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 These kind of "contracts" can be very potent toxics. I know from statistics that the chances of couples into open relationship, or sharing spouses staying together are slim. Sex can get VERY complicated when people try to simplify it. Look, you don't have to fulfil the contract. The reason why people move from partner to partner (excluding "fun") is to find the right one. You have yourself a beautiful woman you love enough to spend your life with, why do you need something else? That's like finding a goldmine and looking for rhinestones. As for the sister-in-law, fantasies are fantasies, you're human and male, you can't help but fantasize about beautiful women. You alone control your actions so even if you fantasize, taking the bait is on your shoulders. I think that in time, this crush will fade. Focus more on your girl, make yourself remember why you love her and think on how starting ANYTHING with her own sister will break her heart. So be a man of thought and grab this situation by the tail.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (30 September 2010):
Sounds like quite a free-spirited girl you have there. If she has a good relationship with your sister, maybe you should just suggest that she be the one. Don't tell her you're fantasizing about her sister. Just present it like, "hey here's someone we can both trust." Seems like it's worth a shot.
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