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writes: My Girlfriend want's an open relationship and i don't. We have been together for 3 years and are gonna get engaged and married. Still she is barely able to see me because of my job and college. I don't know what i should do.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Unfortunately all you can do is express your feelings on the matter. If you don't want an open relationship and she does, it will only end in heartbreak for you. If she's unwilling to remain monogamous when you want that, you should hold off on getting engaged and maybe even take a break from the relationship.
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 September 2010):
 If she's asking for an open relationship during your engagement, I give it 99% odds she already has a man picked out, and 95% she's already sleeping with him. Especially if she has lots of time where you aren't around.
Now, marriage is a terrible idea in general for men (check my profile for an article on that subject), but with this girl, it's even worse. Do not, do *not* marry her. Cancel it now. I'm really sorry for you, but don't set yourself up to be hurt worse.
There are plenty of good women out there, so don't lose faith.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (30 September 2010):
If the two of you have been together for 3 years but you just don't have the time to give her (I'm sure despite your best attempts), is it possible this is her way of trying to manipulate you into giving her more time? Moo is right, if the parties are split on wanting this, it will never work and can only turn out badly.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 If one person wants it and the other one doesn't it will never work. You will end up hurt and bitter. Don't propose to her until you have sorted this out.
Best wishes to you
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