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writes:Can you really have a MFF threesome with your wife and the man never touch the other woman involved?Is a threesome or more, orgasim any better or different than an orgasim with a single partner?How is anal sex different than vaginal sex in how it feels to a man?Who regrets having a threesome or more? Who regrets NOT having a threesome or more?[Mod note: multiple questions from same poster combined, as they all relate to threesomes or sex.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Hi there, been there done thathere's my storymy husband of a year of marriage wanted to have a mmf he said he wanted to see me with another man. I was against it everyone says hey if you dont want to then just say no! maybe its me but i did say no at first then i thought will he stop fantasizing i said no, i had all these questions finally i decided to give in. I did not enjoy it, its not as intimate as one on one. So after that time i felt ok you got to experience what you wanted i didnt enjoy so no more. thats the way it was for 8 years. my marriage was miserable, my husband was controlling, possesive and miserable i was at my wits end not knowing what to do to save the marriage.I brought back the 3some and things were great for him and i found myself wanting to have an affair and i did. This was not acceptable by husband he did not find out though. i know I have told my husband of 10 years that i want out but he does not. it is a difficult situation either way what isnt it that people dont get about marriage... the union of 2 people not 3 not 4 but just the fact that someone even brings up the fantasy is a recipe for disaster. so in repsonse to who enjoys it more, it the man hands down every time.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (7 October 2010):
I have to contradict Dorothy Dix on the question about anal sex. While both anal and vaginal sex are enjoyable, the tightness of the anus can lead to a more intense sensation during intercourse, and thus can be more enjoyable. Chaffing and dryness are a complete non-issue as long as lube is used (which is a must!) If the proper measures are taken, anal sex can be quite pleasurable for both the man and the woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was asking because my partner told me that he, his ex-wife, and another woman did this he said that he never touched the other woman. This was the wifes idea. He was told what she and the other woman were going to do. He walks in the bedroom and the two women are performing oral sex on each other. He says that he only touched his wife. The other woman turns out to be a lesbian. He does his thing with his wife and then sits down to cry. He says that his fantasy turned into a nightmare. It was nothing like he imagined it would be.
I have never done this but somehow I have trouble comprehending this. And yes, their marriage was over shortly after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): If my husband even suggested a threesome, he would soon be a single man again, whether it was MFF or MMF.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Can you really have a MFF threesome with your wife and the man never touch the other woman involved?
Probably not. If your husband wants to do this and you're not 100%, you shouldn't do it. If he isn't in it just to cheat with permission, he should have no problem with a MMF one either.
Is a threesome or more, orgasim any better or different than an orgasim with a single partner?
If you're more excited it would be. If you're not more excited then there's nothing different.
How is anal sex different than vaginal sex in how it feels to a man?
It's a lot tighter, and it is a very dominating position for him to be in.
Who regrets having a threesome or more? Who regrets NOT having a threesome or more?
Most people I've talked to regret it. Unless it's something both people are 100% totally into it, then it frequently causes serious problems in the relationship (frequently stemming from jealousy over the other person brought in) and it's not uncommon for the relationship to end from it. If you're not 100%, then don't do it. Say no.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Hi there. Because you are asking this first question, man and 2 females, I assume your husband has suggested this to you.
Yes the man would be having a field day! That's apparently the idea. It's more to his advantage than yours. He wouldn't ask another woman to be there just to watch. He means it to be full on - all three of you.
The orgasm would be no different than one on one (just you and your husband). The only thing that might seem better would just be the fantasy of it, that's about it. It's more his fantasy than yours, because of the two woman in it. In fact if anything, you would all be a lot more self-conscious (especially the females), and that would probably suppress your orgasm instead of hasten it. He stands to enjoy the experience a lot more than you would.
Anal sex and vaginal sex are quite different. For a start, the vagina lubricates and so is comfortable and without pain. The anus is not really meant to be used in sex, it does not lubricate, and therefore would be very uncomfortable indeed. It's also much narrower than the vagina and would have to be forced a bit to even penetrate it in the first place.
Of the two, vaginal sex is much more enjoyable by far and much more comfortable as well.
Anal sex would feel quite uncomfortable and chafing for the man because it is dry. So no, it wouldn't be anywhere near as nice as the vagina.
The whole problem of threesomes (however you do it), is the level of trust would deteriorate very rapidly. Even if you only did it once, it would only be trust lost by the one who is the single of the trio. You would start to lose trust towards your husband, as the first thing you would start to wonder, is whether he was starting to see her outside of the threesome. You couldn't help but wonder that, as he would be the one who chose the other female - not you. Otherwise, it wouldn't happen.
Please consider this very carefully before you decide if you want to participate in this activity. It's highly likely to damage your relationship beyond repair. The fantasy of it might be attractive (to him), but it's very likely that you'll be the one who gets hurt. Don't go along with it just to please him. That's so wrong. Your marriage has to be based on more than just sex, surely.
The greatest stimulation comes from the mind. Even if your husband did decide to live out the fantasy of one man and 2 women, it might not live up to the fantasy anyway. As well as a broken marriage soon after. Do you really want that? Don't go down that path at all. It's really not worth it.
I suggest you have a serious discussion with your husband about it, and any doubts you might have as well. When you do, just be open and honest, and don't get angry or upset, but be respectful always. We are actually talking about your future together here. If you go ahead with this activity, there might not be any future.
Keep your self respect, while you still have it.
I sincerely hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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