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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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What can delay a period other than pregnancy?
Q. I read on the internet that you can miss periods for a few months after stopping the pill, and I was just wondering how accurate that is? I stopped taking the pill around the 10th of December, and had a period (or withdrawl bleed). I then got anot...
A. 5 March 2012: Good to see a doctor, but don't stress out too much over it. It's most likely just a delay after taking the pill and nothing more serious. Try not to stress too much.... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: Cerberus I said it's NOT a biological or evolutionary trait just the same as I don't buy the biological argument for viewing porn. Nothing in my last response was about what you'd said on this thread. I don't think she should dump him and certainly ... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: Well more than half of women don't like it, so it is normal. I'm a little confused by the response that trying to claim it's a biological response is trying to get justification for a feeling when men claim porn is natural/biological/an ... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: Yes, very normal response. I wouldn't go so far as to say it has any biological basis, but yes it's a normal feeling. The majority of women do not want porn in their relationships.... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend is a total nag! help!
Q. My 55 year old girlfriend,who I live with, is a total bitch. She only wants sex 1 time every ten days where I want it every day. Next for 9 months she continuously nags me follows me and tells me to clean this clean that. It's annoying and it ...
A. 28 February 2012: I'm not seeing your girlfriend being a "total bitch" here. In fact I hear literally nothing in your question to indicate she's actually done anything wrong other than not doing exactly what you want her to. The vast majority of men do not even ... (read in full...)
Can a woman propose to her boyfriend?
Q. In this day and age, is it completely out of line for a woman to propose to a man?...
A. 28 February 2012: No! Go for it, and good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 27 February 2012: Don't tell her. You'll destroy her trust and your marriage will never be the same. Telling her would not be for her benefit but for your own. It would be very selfish to do. You are the one who made the mistake, it should not be her who suffers the ... (read in full...)
Is being able to cook a turn on?
Q. I work as a cook in a kitchen for the last 3 years and recently (like the last year) my work load has gotten larger because I went through a semi-promotion if you will. Because of the work load I've lost 40lbs. The work load entails a lot more ...
A. 27 February 2012: Well they can't really see the cooking skill, so I'd guess it's weight loss and confidence. But that doesn't mean being able to cook isn't a good thing. Any practical skill is a positive for sure.... (read in full...)
I feel like I should go farther with my 18 y.o. b/f
Q. I just started dating this guy I've liked for a really long time. He's 17 turning 18 next month and I'm 14 turning 15 in July. I know it's a huge age difference but I do really like him and according to his friends (who are also my friends), he ...
A. 27 February 2012: No it doesn't make you a bad person and it's understandable for you to feel pressure. BUT that doesn't mean you have to give into that pressure. You're not legally able to consent to sex, so if you do have sex he could get into a lot of trouble. If ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 27 February 2012: The 68% isn't wrong, similar studies by governments have found similar numbers. The ENTIRE base of your arguments rests on the idea that prostituted women choose to be there, but 92% of prostituted women do not want to be there and the vast majority ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 26 February 2012: You could replace prostitution with rape in that whole thing and it sounds more or less the same. I don't really care if it always has existed. So has rape, murder, war, etc... The fact that something has been around forever does not justify its ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 26 February 2012: "I don't understand the hysteria surrounding sexual issues at all. Porn is fine, strip clubs are fine, prostitution is fine."
According to whom? According to a small group of privileged women yes, prostitution is fine. That small group is arou... (read in full...)
G/f says she has an orgasm, but how do I know if she's just saying that?
Q. Me and my girlfriend don't have sex yet but do fondle and try to give each other orgasms. I dont have a problem with mine, but do get confused about her. She does like me touching and massaging her down there but doesnt let me do it continously. She ...
A. 25 February 2012: You can't unfortunately. If she has an orgasm, continuing to rub will hurt, so that is an indication she is having them. If she's the kind of woman who gives instructions on how to touch her, chances are she's the kind who knows what she wants and ... (read in full...)
I'm too self conscious to have sex.
Q. I havent had sex with my boyfriend yet but i'm worried about making a lot of noise during sex,like moaning and screaming and shouting lol.I'm also self conscious about my body.I really want to have sex with him but i dont know how to stop feeling ...
A. 25 February 2012: All the below posters are right. Unless you are screaming and shouting when you masturbate, you're not going to scream and shout during sex. That only happens in porn.
But if you wanted to make noise, I doubt there are many guys who wouldn't... (read in full...)
Do ALL guys watch porn?
Q. I know this is a bit obvious to ask but really and truly do all/most guys watch porn? (And I don't mean constantly just even every once in awhile) Of course there are some individuals who don't of course, but if you're dating a nice, quiet, shy, ...
A. 25 February 2012: "P.S. The University of Montreal tried to conduct a study on the number of men who don't watch porn either regularly or once an while...problem? They couldn't find a man who said they never watch porn."
Yes, because these "researchers" (if you ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 25 February 2012: Sorry to hijack your thread but...
"Legalising the sex industry would stop a lot of the abuse that currently takes place and people who think non legalisation will eradicate the problem are fooling themselves. There will ALWAYS be a demand f... (read in full...)
Is it weird to get turned-on by things you're actually disgusted by?
Q. I have a question, and I could really use some thoughts on it. Is it normal to be turned on by things you don't like? Like you get physically aroused, but mentally you don't like it. Heres an example, say you don't like porn, you think it's ...
A. 25 February 2012: I have problems with most aspects, from the production/corporations to the problems it can cause in a relationship when one person secretly watches.
It's not even that I don't find it mentally appealing or something, I certainly "like" it as more ... (read in full...)
In a LDR, is it normal that my gf thinks I should call once every 2-3 days?
Q. What does it mean when your long distance girlfriend complaints that you call her too much? Calling her once a day is appearing too much, she asks for once call in 2-3 days. To me that is extreme. She gets angry when I do. We are both are very...
A. 24 February 2012: That sounds a bit odd, though I can't say what's causing it. I'm temporarily apart from my bf and we call every single day and still find things to talk about.
It's a really bad sign in a LDR when you can't make time for each other. I understa... (read in full...)
Is it weird to get turned-on by things you're actually disgusted by?
Q. I have a question, and I could really use some thoughts on it. Is it normal to be turned on by things you don't like? Like you get physically aroused, but mentally you don't like it. Heres an example, say you don't like porn, you think it's ...
A. 24 February 2012: Sure. I'm as anti-porn as they come but if I watch non-violent porn it still arouses me. That doesn't mean I'm OK with it at all. Kind of like I doubt most vegetarians dislike the way meat tastes, but that doesn't change their problems with the ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 24 February 2012: Sort of... Though I think the experiences of the average dominatrix are so incredibly different from the average prostituted woman that it's difficult to compare the two. Meaning prostitution, as a whole, is extremely dangerous and has enormous ... (read in full...)
He was once a cheater, so what makes me any different?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and I can honestly say without hesitation, I've NEVER loved anyone the way I love him. However, he has a past and it's affecting me and our relationship. Before I go any further, let me give you ...
A. 24 February 2012: I agree with Cerberus 100%. I don't agree with once a cheater always a cheater. But I do agree with more than once a cheater, always a cheater. You may very well be special, but he will still cheat on you. He is going to cheat on you, that's a fact. ... (read in full...)
Should I jump ship for my old high school crush?
Q. Ive been in a relationship for the past 8yrs and we have been through a lot. He is also 7 years older. i know im not the pretty young thing like i used to be but things feel like their going nowhere. No more spark. not much conversation. not too ...
A. 24 February 2012: It's pretty sad that you're willing to throw away 8 years of marriage for such material things. Almost everything you mentioned about your high school crush is about money and buying things. What about love, companionship, finding someone who will ... (read in full...)
I just want to know, to anyone who has depression due to a chemical imbalance as well as past events throughout life... does it ever go away?
Q. Hi guys.. So I found out in October 2011, that I have dysthymia disorder. I have a really hard time talking to people other than my mom (who is my bestfriend despite a lot of shit she put me through when I was a child) about how I'm really feeling ...
A. 24 February 2012: It may not ever fully go away. But it can be controlled with therapy and a medication. You need to find a real psychologist to talk you through this. She/he can recommend a course of treatment and will teach you exercises you can do on your own time ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and the pill?
Q. Am twenty three years old and my and my boyfreind have been together just under ten months and making plans to move in together :) x and in septemeber we wa want to start a family x I'm currently on the pill but want adice on how i.e. your cycle ...
A. 24 February 2012: I agree with Celtic Tiger, are you really sure about this? 10 months is a REALLY short period of time. You're almost certainly still in the honeymoon phase. You can't know how you'll work as a couple long term until you're out of that.
But a... (read in full...)
I've never had an orgasm. I'm afraid I'll have to pee if I have one!
Q. I have never had an orgasm, I am sure of that. But from what I've read, I've been close many times. I always either stop myself (if masturbating) or my partner when I start feeling like I need to urinate because the feeling is too intense- it's not ...
A. 24 February 2012: Go to the toilet first, then try it out first in the bath tub to show yourself that you won't pee. Or put down some towels. Unless he's pressing on your G-spot, there's no way fluid is coming out. And even if he was and it did, it wouldn't be urine. ... (read in full...)
My husband ogles other women right in front of me
Q. My husband and I got married one year ago. We have been together for 4 years now. Since getting married, he ogles women. He is not in the chase anymore and is comfortable. He does this in front of me. We just went on our honeymoon (kids were with at ...
A. 24 February 2012: I think your husband is acting like a hypocritical brat. Whenever he does it, point it out to him. His claim that he "can't help it" is bs. Everyone is responsible for their own actions, he is not exempt from self-control simply because he is a man. ... (read in full...)
Do ALL guys watch porn?
Q. I know this is a bit obvious to ask but really and truly do all/most guys watch porn? (And I don't mean constantly just even every once in awhile) Of course there are some individuals who don't of course, but if you're dating a nice, quiet, shy, ...
A. 24 February 2012: Not all men watch porn. The men who say that all men watch porn are trying to normalize their own behavior and remove personal responsibility. As in, since all men watch porn, they can't be expected to be responsible for their own behavior. Around ... (read in full...)
There is a sex tape of me out there and not just any sex tape a freaking party, public tape!!
Q. A few weeks ago I was at a party and drank alittle to much. There was this girl who was also a little drunk and shamelessly flirting with me and we ended up in one of the bedrooms and she was giving me head when some guy walked in. He laughed called ...
A. 24 February 2012: YOU didn't do anything to her, the people at the party are the jerks, not you. If it makes you feel better you can apologize, but this wasn't something you did to her. As for your reputation, no one will care soon enough. They'll just think that you ... (read in full...)
Can sex make your boobs smaller?
Q. I just began to obsessed with my boobs lately, I want it bigger, I see a skinny person with big boobs and mine is just too small, when I was going through puberty I think it was so big and I hated it. I always think it is always getting on my wa...
A. 24 February 2012: No, it can't. I think rather than plastic surgery you should consider talking to a therapist about why you are so "obsessed" with breast size. If your ex loves to grope them, clearly they are big enough/nice looking.... (read in full...)
He can handle longer sessions.....so what am I doing wrong when he finishes quickly?
Q. Not really sure how to ask this.... sometimes my boyfriend will cum two or three times in a row and we can usually go at it for like an hour. othertimes it only last like 10 minutes. am i doing something wrong when its only 10 minutes? his body can...
A. 23 February 2012: Maybe he's tired. Maybe he was particularly horny. Maybe he just doesn't feel like having marathon sex. I'm not sure how making your partner MORE turned on could possibly mean you've done something wrong.
I have to say though, you should give him... (read in full...)
What can delay a period other than pregnancy?
Q. I read on the internet that you can miss periods for a few months after stopping the pill, and I was just wondering how accurate that is? I stopped taking the pill around the 10th of December, and had a period (or withdrawl bleed). I then got anot...
A. 23 February 2012: There's pretty much zero chance you're pregnant. It can take a few months after you stop the pill to get your cycle back to normal. If after after another month you still have no period I'd call your doctor.... (read in full...)
B/f is dating 2 of us at the same time. He says he's just "pretending" to date her!
Q. I'v been dating a guy almost a month now, recently, he told me that he was dating a different girl and he's doing that to please her he disclosed to me that im the one he loves even though he's pretending to be dating her. Should i believe him? I ...
A. 22 February 2012: "recently he told me not to break his heart" And you told him not to cheat on you I assume. This guy is a jerk. I know you're scared to lose him, but with this guy you're not losing anything.... (read in full...)
5 months dating is too early to say I love you, isn't it?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now, and saturday night he told me he loved me, I didnt respond and he went quiet but then we said nothing about it since. The thing is I have thought that I am falling in love with him, I do h...
A. 22 February 2012: 5 months?! That's plenty of time. If you think you love your boyfriend you should make a really big gesture to tell him and explain why you didn't say it back. I'd imagine you seriously crushed him when you didn't say it back.... (read in full...)
Oral sex saved for a special occasion?
Q. My boyfriend has been asking me to give him oral sex for a little while, and I finally brought up the courage to do it for him the other day. It was spontaneous and romantic and everything I imagined it to be. Since then, He has asked me a coupl...
A. 22 February 2012: I'm with your boyfriend. As long as you enjoy doing it, since he loves it, you should just go for it. I don't like the term "witholding" since it implies manipulation. All you're really doing though, is making him frustrated for no real reason. If ... (read in full...)
Any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both
Q. My current bf and I were each other's first sexual partners. In the four years since then, he's gotten skilled at making me feel amazing. Myself on the other hand, well,any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both. Blowjo...
A. 21 February 2012: Blowjobs: So don't go past 2 inches. Most of the sensation is in the tip of the penis. You should focus your mouth on that part (the very tip) and use your hands on the shaft. It's a heck of a lot less tiring on your jaw, won't trigger your gag ... (read in full...)
Could my baby look like my lover?
Q. If a woman is pregnant and sleeps with another man can the baby have features of the man who is not the father?...
A. 21 February 2012: The way a person look is determined by genetics. A baby gets half its DNA from the mother (the egg) and half from the biological father (the sperm). It will not share any with the man you're lying to. If you cheated on your partner and got pregnant ... (read in full...)
I think he masturbated on me thinking I was asleep!
Q. Hi... My boyfriend courted me for almost three months (said he's okay with it and he's glad to wait). I told him that if he ever break my trust, I'd break up with him. I also told him that I don't want to break my family's reputation becau...
A. 21 February 2012: I think it largely depends on whether he intended for you to wake up or intended for you to sleep through it. Groping someone while they sleep (and hoping they won't wake up) is not OK. But groping someone to wake them up to fool around is pretty ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 21 February 2012: No one has said you can't feel if a guy is deep. But you can feel it in the sense of pressure/movement, not because it actually really feels like being touched on your skin. Past the first few inches you have the g-spot and past that there's not ... (read in full...)
After being raped, are women ever able to enjoy sex?
Q. Nearly three years ago I was raped, so I have never had sex other than that one time. I have started a relationship with someone and I like him and he respects me, but I don't want to have sex. Do other women actually want sex after rape or do ...
A. 20 February 2012: It will probably never be as easy for you as for a woman who wasn't raped, but with time and a good therapist you probably will be able to. Does your partner know about what happened? It will be incredibly important that you fully trust your partner ... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 20 February 2012: Guys almost always underestimate how much they're staring and checking out and how long their eyes lingered. You shouldn't have checked her out four times. That's really excessive and like someone said, it's really embarrassing feeling when your guy ... (read in full...)
Am I just not good at giving hand jobs, or what? Why does my B/f never ejaculate?
Q. I've given my boyfriend quite a few handjobs when were kissing. He always seems to enjoy it quite a bit, especially once i get going and he's breathing hard. However, he never ejaculates. Once his breathing gets really heavy, he generally slows down ...
A. 20 February 2012: Why don't you ask him what you can change to get him to orgasm? There's no way for us to know how he's feeling. It's often helpful if he puts his hand over yours to show you exactly how he wants to be touched.... (read in full...)
Why are women so competitive about other women's weight loss?
Q. Hi! I am wondering why women are so competitive about other women's weight loss/body transformations. I lost 20 lb.s and worked really hard in the gym and am on a very strict diet. Some women are complimentary but to others it seems like a ...
A. 20 February 2012: Sounds like jealousy. Don't let them get to you.... (read in full...)
Sex! Why, so far, has it all been so unsatisfying?
Q. hey ive been sexually active for about a year.. ive just been wondering.. I don't know if im sexually frustrated or not but i think i am. I've had sex about a good fifteen times in the year or so since i lost my virginity and it just doesnt f...
A. 20 February 2012: Well very few women orgasm from intercourse (around 25% ever have). The vast majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Your vagina is one of the least sensitive parts of your genitalia so that doesn't cause orgasms in the vast ... (read in full...)
How equal should things be? I give her oral, but she just gives me excuses for why not, when I seek same from her.
Q. Hi, I'm wondering whether I should expect oral sex for giving oral sex. Me and my girlfriend don't have sex often, but my sex drive is a lot more than hers, so she uses her hands to satisfy me. I've told her I really enjoy oral sex and she gave...
A. 20 February 2012: Having a man ejaculate into your mouth can (not for everyone of course) be REALLY unpleasant, it's worse with some guys than others and worse for some women than others. It's not unheard of for women to actually vomit from it.
Have you thought ... (read in full...)
B/f is dating 2 of us at the same time. He says he's just "pretending" to date her!
Q. I'v been dating a guy almost a month now, recently, he told me that he was dating a different girl and he's doing that to please her he disclosed to me that im the one he loves even though he's pretending to be dating her. Should i believe him? I ...
A. 19 February 2012: Start dating someone else. What the heck does that even mean, only pretending to date someone? Either you are or you aren't. Your bf is a liar and just trying to date two girls at once.... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 19 February 2012: The reason you don't know about the female assessment system is because there isn't one. I don't know any women who talk honestly about their sexuality who care about penis size since penises do not cause orgasms, even among the small number of ... (read in full...)
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