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*zzygurl
writes:My boyfriend and i just broke up, and I'm really hurting, we've been dating for 7 months.I felt like the relationship wasn't going right and we barely make each other smile and he was so cold towards me like I did something wrong, I asked what was wrong why was he being like that. I told him I want things to go back the way they was before and I want to fix it so we can be happy again. He told me hw didn't want to talk about it... I was like our relationship is withering and I'm trying to fix it and you telling me you don't want to talk about it? He said because we are going to argue if we talk about it, I wasn't trying to argue I was trying to fix it because I wanted us to be happy. And I was like "the way you acting right now, you making me think twice" and he asked me if I want to be single And I was like "yes, that's what I feel like right now, probably because I'm mad" and he was like " you want to break up?" And I said no. And he was like what's the point of being in a relationship if you want to be single. I told him I don't want to be single, I said that because I was mad. He sent me a bunch of text trying to make it seem like I wanna break up with him and he was trying to prove so hard it seem like he wanted to break up too. He was like " you said you want to be single, so there I guess I'm single too". And that's how we broke up. I didn't want to break up I love him so much more than anything. I don't know how to cope with it, please help me and what do you think about the whole thing? thanks no rude comment please.
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reader, llifton +, writes (11 March 2013):
 i'm sorry to hear that happened. i was concerned that's what it was.just try to keep yourself busy and occupied and whatever you do, don't text him or call him again. that will just make you look clingy and desperate.do yourself a favor. whenever or if ever you see him, act like you couldn't care less! laugh, smile, just act like you didn't even notice he was gone. it WILL get to him. it's human nature. i'm not saying it will bring him back. but at least it won't give him the satisfaction on knowing you are hurting.
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reader, izzygurl +, writes (11 March 2013):
izzygurl is verified as being by the original poster of the question I tried to text him asking if he was happy with the break up but he didn't text me Back, I was trying to talk to him about everything too. I guess he wanted the break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): Tell him, you apologize for saying you think you want to be single, you do not mean it, you want to be in a relationship with him. Tell him you do not want to break up. And THAT IS IT.. and leave it with him... and say no more.IF he is really wanting to break up with you and is taking the gutless way out, but trying to make out like you did it, then saying any more than this is going to push him away more.IF he was just hurting from your comment, and didn't really want to break up with you, and wants to be with you, he will be glad to get that message and make a move to patch things up for you.IF you push him any more, you will push him away. Tell him the facts, and leave it with him.IF he is looking at breaking up, the fact that you give him a whole lot of psychological space, is your best move for bringing him CLOSER to you again.Most of all LEARN from this experience. Do not ever play with the 'break up' line unless you MEAN IT! It is a lesson I learnt the hard way too.... but I learnt it well.
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reader, llifton +, writes (11 March 2013):
hey sweetheart.
it's one of two things. you may not want to hear one of the, but for the sake of honesty, i have to throw the possibiliy out there.
1. he said it because you hurt him and he was trying to hurt you back. maybe he didn't really mean it. or
2. (the one you don't want to hear) he is unhappy with the relationship (which is why he didn't want to talk about the problems), and he was using this as an excuse to break up and blame it on you. now, it's not his fault and he's not the asshole who dumped you. you're the one who caused it. in other words, he was looking for an out and this happened to be convenient cause now he knows you'll blame yourself.
i honestly can't know what this guy is feeling. i wish i did or i would tell you. perhaps you should approach him and ask in a calm, rational way if he is happy with the break up. you'll definitely get your answer then.
either that or you could be a total bitch and flirt with guys in front of his face to piss him off. i'm NOT a game player and never condone such things, but i'll tell you what! that's a sure fire way to piss off an ex and make them want you back! just sayin. but shhh. i never told you that.
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